Today I saw Oprah and was so very touched when her personal trainer asked 5 questions when it came to weight-loss.
I am going to share my answers with you to those 5 questions and I hope you do the same.
What are you REALLY hungry for
I am hungry for acceptance, more friends and balance.
I haven't always had the most friends growing up and now in my adult life and that has left a hole in my heart.
I yearn for acceptance because always being over-weight I felt like I always needed to do "little extras" for people to make up for the fact I am over-weight and for them accept me as I am.
I am hungry for balance because I feel like I am at the best when I am balanced. Balanced for me means taking care of myself (eating right - working out) doing well in school, doing chores on a weekly basis to my living space is clean and organized, rehearsals and being loving in all relationships that I have...etc.
Why am I over weight
Because I have never truly loved myself in the body today, right now.
I have never forgiven myself for gaining the weight to begin with.
I use food to full the holes in my life instead of solving the problem at hand.
Because I wanted to please my mother.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
Because I haven't put any "me time" in my planner...always something else has come first
I didn't learn to use food as something that feeds not only my body - but my mind and soul
I didn't fill those "holes" up with something else - I just learned to live with the hurt and that didn't work for me.
I didn't allow myself to enjoy a meal off my plan every once in awhile - I just beat myself up about it
What in my life is NOT working
Um, actually - not much. I have had 3 panic attacks in the last 3 months and that is too much - but those should pass..holiday season does that to me. If I continue to use my planner on a daily basis I should be more organized. My man and I made a budget to go into effect next month, but I do need to use my words more with him and be more honest when it comes to how I feel.
Why do I want to lose weight
So I can live a long and healthy life and be able to do anything I want to do.
Let me start off by saying that I really love this threat thought!!!
What are you REALLY hungry for
Acceptance...To be loved for me...Someone who is going to leave me...
Why am I over weight
Because it was easier to hide myself in food rather than to deal with the problems in my life (parents' divorce, living with my grandparents, feeling abandoned and unwanted)
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
Because I didn't do it for me...I always did because I was trying to do it to get some guy and that's what I thought he wanted...
STRESS in life!
What in my life is NOT working
My relationships...with myself, family and friends...because I can't be happy with myself therefore I am not happy with anyone else...
Why do I want to lose weight
For myself...so that I can be happy and healthy
For future children...so that I may be able to get pregnant and live a long and healthy life for them...
To have the courage to find someone that I can be comfortable with to spend the rest of my life with
What are you REALLY hungry for
I am really hungry for companionship, and fulfillment.
Why am I over weight
Because in the past when I was struggling emotionally I would reach out to food instead of people for comfort, and as a way to numb pain.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
Because I was unwilling to accept any internal pain and would fill it with food, and I was too lazy and scared to look inside and deal with issues so I would just use food as an anesthetic.
What in my life is NOT working
Honestly, at this point things are working for the first time in a long time. I am living consciously and aware and accepting things and myself as they are. It has been much easier for me to implent change when instead of resisting my reality I accept it and move through it.
Why do I want to lose weight
I want to lose weight because I want to my body to reflect the strength of my mind and spirit. I want to feel confident and sexy and healthy.
What are you REALLY hungry for
To be happy with my body.
To not second guess my actions or dreams just because of a number or size.
Why am I over weight
Because its hard to be active with a physical disibility, and also I pretty much ate my emtions why my mum was sick with cancer , and then after she died.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
I have put myself on the back burner for so long that I have forgotten to put myself fiirst. I'm slowly learning that being a little selfish won't end the world as I know it.
What in my life is NOT working
Right now, things are actually working well, I have been on plan, focusing more on goals than dreams.
Why do I want to lose weight
Shallow , but I want to be a hottie.
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What are you REALLY hungry for
a different view from the people around me. im not just the "little sister", im a woman and i want them to see me as that. lol.
Why am I over weight
because i figured i'd be happy alone, that i didnt need anyone to accept me, but i found him and i see im wrong. i didnt care and it was too hard especially with my mom subconsciously sabotaging my every try. i think its easy to find comfort in food, and even though my mom kinda bred me to the size i am, i know that a part of her did it because she shows her love by sharing food.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
because i had no support, it was hard. my mom always brought the foods i wasnt supposed to have. "because you're on a diet doesnt mean everyone else has to be too". because it was easier being fat and kind of ok with myself.
What in my life is NOT working
where i am in life. my schoolwork is suffering, my relationships with my friends are not at a place i'd like them to be, and my relationship with my bf, although getting better, is not what it should be for either one of us. oh and my job is not stimulating and wonderful like the one i had before.
Why do I want to lose weight
because im tired of living in the shadows, envious of those who look the way i know i am inside. im full of life and fun and promise. i want to lose it because i'd like to know what its like to reach that level of comfort within my own skin, not under my jacket. i want to live long and have kids and a good career and live past 40.
What are you REALLY hungry for
To be Happy and proud of my body- to be healthy and strong- to not feel weak, to know I'm the best ME I can be!
Why am I over weight
Lot's of reasons, I truly do enjoy food though, I get pleasure from eating good yummy food it's like a hobby to me, When I'm emotional I eat, It's truyl in my genes both sides of my family are overweight, I'm lazy, dont get out and exercise like I should, I eat un healthy meals and only once or twice a day and when I do I binge..
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
I gave into temptation, I lacked motivation, I didn't make it a Priority, quitting was easier
What in my life is NOT working
My relationship with God, my spirituality, My sleeping habits, my lack of motivation to exercise, and my failure to drink 8 glasses of water a day
Why do I want to lose weight
So I can br proud of myself, SO I wont be debilitated by my weight, so I can walk into any store and buy soemthing that fits, so I can ride an airplane with out a seat belt extension, so I can wear panty hose with out getting chub rub in between my legs, So I can ride a horse and not worry I'm goign to break the poor things back, So I can ride on any amusement ride at the park and not feel like the thing will break, So not all eyes look at me in fear when I step on an elevator, So my Husband thinks I'm drop dead sexy, So I can wear a bikini, so I can live a long healthy life, diabetes, heart disease, heart attack, unclogged arteries free!
What are you REALLY hungry for
Companionship, Love, Acceptance and to feel like I truly matter for one person in this world and that to him I am the world
Why am I over weight
In a way I feel like if a guy will fall in love with me at this weight he will never stop loving me. Most of the time I feel like if I had that man in my life then I would lose weight because he would've proven to me that he isn't just after my looks but after my heart
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
I would lose a few pounds, start to feel extermely good about myself and forget about the diet and excercise and just go back to old habits. Oh and lots of alcohol..... (thank God i gave that up)
What in my life is NOT working
My finances are pretty shot right now!! I hate that and I stress over it. Sometimes i get really overwhelmed and eat to make myself feel better
Why do I want to lose weight
Because I want to look on the outside as fabulous as I feel like on the inside. Also to keep myself from being at risk for diabets. I'm already a big risk factor as both of sets of my granpdarents have diabetes and my parents too. I'd rather not contribute to that myself.
This is an awesome topic I can relate to almost every one's answers. What are you REALLY hungry for?
Acceptance. I want people to not judge me on my weight and get to know the great person that I can be. I want my parents to feel better about the way they raised me and prove to them that I can lose weight and keep it off-to prove to them that I do not need food to make me happy. I want to have a more active social life, and to be more approachable. I want to get rid of all of my negativity and my being cynical.
Why am I over weight?
Because I never knew how important it was to be healthy, to take care of my body. When my last job didn't work out and I started working from home, I found out that I had let myself go without realizing how BAD it was. I was just over 300 pounds, and I knew that I would not be as active as I used to be at work. I had two options: to continue being non-active and eating myself into a grave or hospital bed, or to eat healthy, take care of my skin, and shed off the pounds that I have put on myself the past 20 years.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past?
I simply did not do it the right way, I never changed my eating habbits. When I wanted to lose weight I would eat less, and when I got some weight off I went right back to overeating which left me heavier and heavier each time.
What in my life is NOT working?
Not being able to be as active and social as I would like to be. I'm too lazy, and I feel like it has gotten to the point of no return. I don't do as many things as I would like to with my boyfriend because of my insecurity, and I want to change that to make good memories to look back on.
Why do I want to lose weight?
Because I NEED to, to have a healthy and long life. There is no other option.
What are you REALLY hungry for
To be able to do whatever I want, without being limited to the things that fat out of shape people are limited to. I want to be able to love my body.
Why am I over weight
I turned to food for everything, boredom, emotional pain, etc. I started gaining weight when I was 6 (when my dad left my mom) and never stopped.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
I've never tried, because I didn't have an understanding of the long term pain it would bring, emotionally and physically. It was too hard to put myself on a diet because I never wanted it for me. I never took the time to understand why I was eating.
What in my life is NOT working
I don't have a job, and will have a hard time when I get a job because I'm so out of shape that my body can't handle the 5-8 hour shifts. My relationship with men.
Why do I want to lose weight
Because I deserve it. I deserve to be healthy and live a happy life. Because I have amazing style and plus size clothes just don't allow me to express myself as much as I would like. Because I want to be able to do all the things I can't do now because I'm ashamed, such as rock climbing.
I had to watch Oprah before I could do my workout so my family ate dinner really early. LOL! I watched it while I cooked.
What are you REALLY hungry for?
I am hungry for more self confidence.
The "looks" guys give the pretty girls. (Yes, I'm happily married but who doesn't want the attention? I don't have to act on it.)
Easier mornings getting dressed where it doesn't matter what I pick because it will look just fine.
Self confidence. Ooops, did I already mention that?
Why am I over weight
Because I have always been fed. My mom is a wonderful cook and as soon as I left her house I moved in with my now hubby and he's also a great cook.
I think I can eat like my hubby. Anything at anytime and as much of it as I want.
When I get bored I eat. And I was a stay at home mom for almost 4 years. You get bored quite often!
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past?
I start losing and feel like I know everything and I have this thing kicked and then I start eating bad and not exercising and it all piles back on. I need to remember that just because I'm smaller doesn't mean I can eat what I want and be lazy and it will keep coming off or even stay off.
What in my life is NOT working?
I really don't have much to complain about besides my weight. So, once I get this in check again I should be living pretty good. (Unless, my already trimmed down to 32 hours a week jobs gets cut back even more.)
I could always use more sleep but who couldn't?
Why do I want to lose weight
So I can live a long and healthy life with my children.
So I can teach my children by setting a good example.
And darn it, so I can be the hot mom and wife I've always wanted to be!
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All of your answers pretty much reflect what I feel too. Very nice thread!
What are you REALLY hungry for
Other than sugar and fat, I'm really hungry to feel about myself like I used to when I was younger and thinner. I'm hungry for power and in control over my life.
Why am I over weight
Because I can't push away from the table, and b/c I feel guilty for finding the time to exercise b/c I feel like other responsiblities are far more important. Also b/c I eat entirely too much junk/non-nutritious food. Not to mention I love to cook and I love to eat what I cook.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
It's always been something, like some kind of life change that puts weight on me. First it was going to college and the bad habits I picked up there, then it was a few years of medications that promoted weight gain, then it was getting married and getting lazy, then soon after it was the back to back birth of two children. I just feel like I can't get a break to maintain any healthful weight maintenance regimine.
What in my life is NOT working
Most everything is. I have a good life. I just don't have a lot of time for myself that I don't feel guilty taking. Hubby is gone a lot, so I feel a responsibility to be here all the time for my kids, then for him when he's home. It's self-defeating, but I just can't break the guilt mode.
Why do I want to lose weight
I don't want to have to shop in the "fat girl" sections and stores. I want freedom in shopping. I want to be hot. I want to see my shadow and not see a blob--I want to see a shape. I want to avoid health problems that will ultimately come from being overweight. I want to feel confident being naked again. I want others to see me and say how great I look. I don't want to be embarassed to into old friends. I want to be comfortable taking pictures again. It goes on and on and on.
What are you really hungry For?
Companionship, a friend. Something to occupy my time.I am either around my kids all day, or 18 year old college students. I have no time for hobbies ( i need to make time) and i am lonely.
Why am i overweight?
Because i used pregnancy as an excuse to eat whatever i wanted. and now that it is two years later, i'm still overweight because i use life as an excuse to not workout and eat healthy.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past?
Because i got pregnant again. And i get busy and eat crappy instead of continuing the healthy habits i've learned.
What in my life is not working?
Time management. I'm so busy and so i eat quick convenience foods instead of planning ahead.
Why do i want to lose weight?
To be healthy. To be a good role model for my children. To feel strong and alive. To look good in clothes again.
What are you REALLY hungry for?
I am hungry for acceptance, more friends and love.
Why am I over weight?
Because I have never truly loved myself in the body today, right now.
I have never forgiven myself for gaining the weight to begin with.
I use food to full the holes in my life instead of solving the problem at hand.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past?
Because I gotten hungry. I wanted the bad foods again. And the fact that I have NO support with my family or friends (just the girls on the 3fcs ) I want it work now I want and I need it to work for me.
What in my life is NOT working?
My life is chaos. So nothing
Why do I want to lose weight?
I am tired of being the fat girl. Worrying about if I am going to fit somewhere or break something because I am fat. I am tired of ppl judging me as I eat or anything pertaining to my weight.
Last edited by CurvaceousCutie; 01-06-2009 at 01:02 PM.
I am really hungry for confidence. That kind of sums it up. I can't elaborate because what I am "missing" is right there in that one word. And I am desperate for confidence. I put up a tough front but if you crack my surface, my insides just melt. My feelings are easily hurt. I have no backbone and I hate it. It contradicts what I stand for and who I want to be.
I didn't realize until I was talking to my mother about spending time with my father for Christmas that I am beginning to take a stand. I didn't even realize that my behavior was different until she pointed it out. I guess that's really what being confident is all about!
Why am I over weight
I am overweight because I was taught poor habits, even though I was an athlete, and when I quit a highly regimented life of physical exhertion, the weight came on.
I have also struggled with depression and anxiety throughout my high school years.
I was never good enough for my father just being the person that I am. I tried to fit myself into his mold and when I realized that it was impossible, I became miserable rather than accepting myself.
Now he can go to **** because I know that I am unique and amazing and that he is just plain wrong about everything.
Why have you been unable to maintain weight-loss in the past
Because I didn't really want to do it. I lied to myself that I thought it was important to me. It wasn't really important because doing the easy thing was more important than doing the truly important thing.
I lacked real motivation until my boyfriend wanted to get in shape. I was afraid of being left behind. I was aware that it would create an imbalance in our relationship and tax my already low self-esteem, so I got my *** up and started the journey. Here I am 20 lbs lighter and motivated for my own reasons!
What in my life is NOT working
My job. I am so unfulfilled. I am only temporary which causes me to continually speculate about how long I will have my job and to continually settle because if I speak my mind, I am afraid of getting fired. In addition, working 40 hours a week but not getting benefits causes money issues. My mother had to literally pay me so that I could take a week-long vacation to visit her over the holidays. It breaks my heart.
Why do I want to lose weight
Vanity. I want to feel beautiful. I want to accomplish this for me. So it is just another tool in getting me where I want to go.
The other day I realized that when I reach my goal weight, this won't be my focus anymore. What an incredible thing to open up my life to the new! Of course, this lifestyle change will always be with me and I know there will be times that I will struggle with it but the opportunities are endless.
One of my new year's resolutions is to take a dance class. I would have never had the confidence to do it before beginning this journey.
5 questions to consider...As Seen On Oprah
to make myself feel better
I can relate to almost every one's answers.
