So I'm making lunches this a.m. Two down, one to go. I make my daughter's sandwich, put it in a plastic baggie and put in on the counter. Not in a lunchbox or lunchbag, just sat it on the counter. I turn around to get some other things to put in her lunch and when I turn back here is husband putting sandwich in fridge. Helloooo? "What are you doing?" I ask. "I'm helping" he replies. Um, I'm in the process of making her lunch. In the process, i.e. that is not done. Is this not apparent? Cripes. The first time he did this, I said nicely "I'm not done yet". I yelled because today was the 4th time he's 'helped' me.
This is not helping.
Helping w/be carrying the laundry basket (that I've placed in front of the steps) upstairs. Ok, this isn't really helpful at all. Seeing the laundry basket in the laundryroom and carrying it upstairs w/out me having to ask is helpful. He could deduce that said laundry is clean by observing that said laundry is folded in the basket, hence making it clean. (Does he really think I fold it b/4 washing it? ) Putting the laundry away would be really, really helpful.
My hubby was trying to be romantic. Snuggling up, wanting to kiss and makeout and all that stuff. "Don't you want a little romance?" he asked.
"Yes!" I replied! "The most romantic thing you could do would be to take out the trash without my having to ask you to do it!!"
As for the basket of laundry ready to go upstairs, I think that's got to be a form of male blindness. It's been a week now, with this basket sitting here, everything folded and ready to go to his drawers. "I'll get it," he says. EVERY day.
It is all about training. Mothers - listen well...
My DH CAME TRAINED by his mother. He washes dishes, does laundry, cooks, vacuums, everything.
So, for the future, mothers of sons must train their boys to do all the household chores as there are. Just tell DH that this way he can live SINGLE and not have to marry a woman just so he can have a clean house. You're not teaching him to do woman's work, you're teaching him to be independent.
I came home from a week away and left DH in charge. I left a note stating what time to wake the kids, what time to drop DS off at school and what time to pick him up and what days and times for karate. I had shopped and bought all sorts of things for them that would be easy fixes so they'd stay away from the fast food outlets. DD went to the grocery store to pick up a few things as needed on her way home from work.
So what did I come home to? Dead plants. I guess I forgot to mention that they need water and NO ONE NOTICED them drooping. I don't know why I have to spell out EVERYTHING for everyone. Can't they figure out just a few things for themselves? Gah!
As for the basket of laundry ready to go upstairs, I think that's got to be a form of male blindness. It's been a week now, with this basket sitting here, everything folded and ready to go to his drawers. "I'll get it," he says. EVERY day.
Sheesh!
OMG, it's universal!! I do experiments where I'll leave it sit in the hallway (our upstairs hallway is small, people trip) until its empty. They will pick out clothes but will not take their own and put them away. I put my husband's (folded) in front of his dresser. He also uses a full dresser that's in our closet. The clothes sit and sit. I finally get pissed off and toss them onto the floor of the closet. I still trip on them but at least I don't have to look at them. I do this w/the groceries too. I cook, figure out what we need, make the list, do the shopping, bag it all, load it into the car, unload it at home and put away all thd cold stuff. This is Thurs a.m. The groceries are still sitting there Sunday afternoon when I go back to the store for the 'milk, bread, lunchmeat' run. And they look at me like I'm a loon when I lose it and scream 'put it away NOW!!".
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Originally Posted by alinnell
I came home from a week away and left DH in charge. I left a note stating what time to wake the kids, what time to drop DS off at school and what time to pick him up and what days and times for karate. I had shopped and bought all sorts of things for them that would be easy fixes so they'd stay away from the fast food outlets. DD went to the grocery store to pick up a few things as needed on her way home from work.
So what did I come home to? Dead plants. I guess I forgot to mention that they need water and NO ONE NOTICED them drooping. I don't know why I have to spell out EVERYTHING for everyone. Can't they figure out just a few things for themselves? Gah!
Dear GOD, it's like 'those weren't your exact words so I did not do it. I will do what I am told, no more, no less'. I wish I could buy me some of those 'mental blinders' that they seem to possess.
It is all about training. Mothers - listen well...
My DH CAME TRAINED by his mother. He washes dishes, does laundry, cooks, vacuums, everything.
So, for the future, mothers of sons must train their boys to do all the household chores as there are. Just tell DH that this way he can live SINGLE and not have to marry a woman just so he can have a clean house. You're not teaching him to do woman's work, you're teaching him to be independent.
This is so true.
My DF's mother refused to let him do anything because she had such a tight hold on the household. She ran a daycare out of the home, so things needed to be done quickly and right the first time. No time to train!
This is Helpful?
Um, I'm in the process of making her lunch. In the process, i.e. that is not done. Is this not apparent? Cripes. 
The first time he did this, I said nicely "I'm not done yet". I yelled because today was the 4th time he's 'helped' me. 
) Putting the laundry away would be really, really helpful. 
