Hi I have been reading these posts for awhile and I decided I needed someplace where I can give and get support. I am really short 4'10 and I am almost 200lbs. Mostly all in my midsection and I hate it. I am only 23 years old and this type of body runs in my family. I think the lowest weight at this height I have ever been was 115lbs and at the time I thought I was fat. I would love to get back down to that. My biggest problem is motivation. I want it so bad, but I hate to exercise, with a passion. The simplest thing for me to do is to start walking. I talk to myself all night long about how I am going to get up and just do it and then the morning comes and I am tired and I don't get out of bed. I don't have any friends where I am and although I have a loving boyfriend of five years (who never has to worry about his weight) he won't force me or go with me. Has anyone else been where I am at. I know what I have to do, I know the science behind it but I just can't get there. I was not an overweight child and even when I was little I never liked to run or work up a sweat and I guess years of bad habits have finally caught up. I was over weight all through high school but only a little bit and I could hide it. Now I can't hide it and my clothes don't fit. I refuse to by new clothes because I need xxl and a size 18, and I hate it. I know I am ranting but there is no one I can talk to about this.
Thanks for letting me vent. I guess I am just looking for words of encouragement and some idea of how to get off my butt.
I'm 5'2" and 235lbs. Its also mostly in my midsection (I look 9 months pregnant)... Even our clothing sizes are the same! I'm also XXL, and wear a size 18-20 (depends on the brand of clothing).
I also HATE exercising. I don't know how many times I've set the alarm to wake up at a certain time so I could walk, and then just went right back to sleep! - I'm 21, and like you I have no one who really wants to go for a walk with me. Not even a boyfriend. And I also struggle with finding motivation (big time!)
You have come to the right place though. 3FC is a wonderful place to support, advice, and motivation. And if you ever need someone to vent to feel free to Private Message me, or visit my blog (link is under my username). I look forward to seeing you around here!!!
im in the same boat. im 24y/o, 5'4" and 246. every night i tell myself, tomorrow is the start of my new life, but its so easy to fall into our normal habits. i give myself excuse after excuse. i have 3 kids 6, 2 and 2.5mo. and when i have an urge to exercise i say 'i cant, i have to take care of my girls'. i try to eat healthy and i start out good, but after lunch i crash. its so frustrating because i think... i shouldnt be eating this or this much but do anyway. ive been unemployed for about 3 weeks and finances are tight so i think im over eating as a coping mechinism of whatever *failure, depression, financial stress, any/all the above*. i want to be healthy. i want to feel better, but i just keep putting road blocks up to deter myself. so im with you Keira... if anybody can give us some advise it'd be MUCH appreciated.
Thanks, it's so great to hear that I am not alone. I know that most women have weight issues, but it's good to hear other people have the same specific problems. I wish you ladies lived near me so we could do it together. I am going to try to stay focused. Maybe just by talking honestly about it on here will be enough to get my butt in gear. Thanks again for all your words of encouragement.
You are not alone!!! I have been through much of what you have been through. My hubby is one of those freaks of nature(I say that in the most loving way) that can eat whatever he wants, when ever he wants, and as much as he wants and NOT gain an ounce. In fact 10 years ago the doctor told him to GAIN 10-15 pounds and it took him 5 years to do that. I can do it in a weekend with out too much effort!!
My hubby is not realy supportive though...he just doesn't understand how difficult it is to lose weight. I will be doing good on a diet and then he will call me and say on your way home from work stop at the DQ and get me a burger and a blizzard. Or he will ask me to get up and scoop him a dish of ice cream (my BIGGEST weakness) I told him this time I am telling him NO!!! If he wants that stuff he has to get it himself!!
Here is a thought on exercise, instead of planning on walking in the morning, do it in afternoon or evening. Take the kids in the stroller if you have to. If I think about exercising in the morning..it never happens....because I am NOT a morning person. But if I schedule it later in the day I make it happen.
I don't have all the answers, but I have been where your at. Feel free to talk/vent/rant whenever necessary!!!
Walking is a great plan. I don't know if you live in a rural or urban area, but is there somewhere you can walk that has interesting scenery or architecture that you can focus on? I live in the country so I really enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells of walking past fields and forests. I also use the time to plan for the day or think about my overall goals. I've been known to have entire conversations with myself - maybe I'm a bit nuts but it makes the time go by fast!
If you have to walk on a track or treadmill where the scenery doesn't change much, get yourself some good motivating music (if you have an MP3 player) and march along to the beat. Find ways to make it more enjoyable, and you might find that you start looking forward to it.
Your definitely not alone. I lack motivation more than anything, and the thought of weighing or measuring out my food makes me think "oh my god, I'm going to starve" I wish your boyfriend was on board to go with you, so that way you'd not feel like you where in this alone.
I myself am over 6 feet tall and have all my weight in my belly to where people come up to me and ask when I'm due.
I just want you to know your amoungst a wonderful group of women and men who will never make fun of you and will only lend as much support as you need. I hope that in my day of being here (I'm a newbie) I can be just as helpful as the other members.
Last edited by Mom2GarretandRyan; 01-23-2008 at 02:01 PM.
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We're not the same in the height department, but sure are in the excersice! I hate it! and since it's so dang cold and snowy here right now, I use that as an excuse.
I need some motivation or ideas or something. WW is working well for me, but it won't for long if I don't get moving! But I don't want to!
New and starting to get desperate
