Does anyone have any stories about getting support from their significant other while losing weight? By support I mean, motivation when you are feeling down, complimenting you on the weight you have lost and how you look much better, helping you make the right food choices, etc.
My own story makes me smile on the inside and the outside. I have been with my BF since December 2005, and we have been on WW since April 2007. I have never in my life felt even remotely beautiful until I met him. Even when I got to my heaviest, 187 pounds, earlier this year and felt like a monster because I was so overweight, he still told me I was beautiful and he never looked at me like I was gross or anything of the sort. He never treated me differently when I gained the weight in a short time (about 8 months I gained 30 pounds last year). All along this weight loss journey he has continued to tell me how beautiful I am to him and how I am looking better than he's ever seen. I still don't really feel that beautiful but hearing him say it makes me feel so happy inside. I don't think I'll really be happy until I shed some more pounds and get down to a more healthy weight, but he has definitely helped me feel better about myself over the past few months. I still can't believe that he told me I was beautiful when I was 187 and bulging out of my clothes, but when I think about it I just feel good. He is losing weight with me because he needed to lose some also, and I give him just as much support as he gives me. I hope that I make him feel good about himself like he makes me feel about myself. It's amazing how the support of the closest person in your life can make the journey that much better. It makes me to think about him and his support. I would love to hear if anyone else has had the same kind of support from the one closest to them.
every time i tell my DH how much i lost that week...he calls me his "lil" feather. Something simple and corny...but cute. And he always tells me how great i look, even at my heaviest!
My husband couldn't be more supportive. It's an amazing help. He's always been proud of me and made a point of telling me so, but it's also kind of cool how he looks forward to my weigh-in every week as much as I do.
I think his favorite weight loss thing is to decide each week where I lost the weight. Sometimes he thinks it all came off my face and then I have weeks where he tells me my thighs are disappearing. Those are my favorite weeks.
I always feel very badly for wives/girlfriends whose significant others are making the whole weight loss thing even harder than it needs to be. The guys who bring home crap or the wife's favorite candy. Would it really be so hard to bring flowers instead?
My DH is the most supportive and amazing person. He is also my best friend. He has always found me attractive - no matter what my weight. Now that I am committed to losing this weight - for good, he is right beside me. He will eat what I am eating (just a bit more of it). When I get obsessive about getting rid of unhealthy foods, he is helping me toss them out. He is full of compliments and encouragement when I get down - and ready to drag me off the couch for a walk if I can't seem to get myself in gear. I am truly blessed to have such a supportive and wonderful man in my life! I can't imagine trying to tackle this challenge without him.
Your post is so sweet...and thanks for this thread, it's nice to see that people are supported in their journey!
I have a very supportive husband. In fact, he is so on my team that when I gained weight, he gained right along with me! So now that we are both overweight and realize that we need to lose for many reasons, he is again on my team. One of our problems was that during the week, I was so exhausted from school that I just didn't want to cook, and he didn't either, so we would grab something cheap (which means unhealthy of course). Now, he cooks on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Sundays and we share cooking on Saturdays. He got me to start getting up at 4:00am to work out; he does workout videos with me and sets the coffee to brew so that when I first wake up, it is already done and I can have some to wakeup! He goes grocery shopping with me. Recently, with the Biggest Loser coming back on tv, he came up with a Biggest Loser contest for the two of us. We have until Dec. 1st to lose the biggest percentage of body weight. Whoever wins, gets their prize (mine is that he cooks for a week). It's really motivating.
I feel very lucky to have such support; I know a lot of people don't have any support or at the worst have people trying to sabotage their weightloss efforts. It makes it so much easier to stick with when you have someone cheering you on!
Trooworld, I can't help but ask what is his prize if he wins....
My husband is supportive. He tells me that my pants are getting loose and that I should buy some new clothes! He is generally encouraging, although he tends to think that all I need to do is exercise. He thinks that's where it's at as opposed to cutting back on eating.
I am extremely grateful for his encouragement, especially after reading how mean some guys are.
I'm lucky that my BF has found me beautiful all the way along. He met me when I weighed less and was more athletic, stuck with me as I gained, and is sticking by me as I lose.
He is also very encouraging, being excited with me over small accomplishments, and learning that his portion sizes are always going to be bigger than mine.
I think knowing that he loves me and finds me beautiful no matter what I weigh makes it that much easier to do this.
Ugh, you guys are depressing me. Mine is pathetic. He couldn't be less supportive. It's not that he doesn't want to, or even every once in a rare while try, it's just that it's not him. He just really doesn't know how. Even when I hint/beg for some support or compliments, etc...he'll try but it always seems to come out wrong or something and feels more insulting than anything. The nicest thing I think he's ever said without me trying to pull something out of him was the other night. He told me I had pretty feet. *sigh* Talk about making a girl feel special. *eye roll*
My hubby is probably in the middle here. He has always told me that he finds me very attractive no matter what size I am so there I am very lucky. He congratulates me whenever he seems to think I look good and will ask did you lose more weight. But he really doesn't encourage or help me to eat healthier or to exercise. I'm hoping once I start looking better after 20 more pounds or so that it will motivate him to lose weight as well and maybe we can do a bit of a competition. :-)
So much!! When I finally admitted to him that I was trying to lose weight, he acted confused (like he's been trained to react if I ever told him I looked fat!), but he got jealous once people started noticing. Jealous in a good way! He said "Man, now whenever we see people we haven't seen in a while, they gush over how great you look, then say "Hi Jesse", and that's it!". I was like "awwww, you know, you can do it to if you want!" He was never huge or even considered fat, 6'1", 230 and muscular, but he could stand to drop 20lbs or so if he really wanted. Anyway, he jumped on board and as of yesterday is down to 205! And wouldnt ya know, as soon as he really started to lose, we made plans with friend of ours that hadnt seen us in a few months and had no idea we were trying to lose weight and they both said "wow, what have you two been doing, you guys are dissapearing!" and Jesse got a big smile on his face So, yes he's very supportive
Only unfair thing is that he's only been trying about 3 months and has lost 25lbs. I've lost 22lbs in 8 months. MEN!!!!
but he's not very wise with supporting me in trying to lose weight, lol
he eats chocolate (though he does put it in a cupboard that I can't reach) and lots of calorie laiden foods that I'm not eating, - I don't want him to have the same as me if he doesn't want to though! But it's kinda awkward when he's eating calorie laiden foods like a burger from dixy chicken and I'm there with a smoothie, hehe
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to think about him and his support. I would love to hear if anyone else has had the same kind of support from the one closest to them.
So now that we are both overweight and realize that we need to lose for many reasons, he is again on my team. One of our problems was that during the week, I was so exhausted from school that I just didn't want to cook, and he didn't either, so we would grab something cheap (which means unhealthy of course). Now, he cooks on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Sundays and we share cooking on Saturdays. He got me to start getting up at 4:00am to work out; he does workout videos with me and sets the coffee to brew so that when I first wake up, it is already done and I can have some to wakeup! He goes grocery shopping with me. Recently, with the Biggest Loser coming back on tv, he came up with a Biggest Loser contest for the two of us. We have until Dec. 1st to lose the biggest percentage of body weight. Whoever wins, gets their prize (mine is that he cooks for a week). It's really motivating. 
cheering you on! 
You don't want to know. 
Let's just say that I hope I don't lose! 
