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Okee ... well .. I have considered trying to catch up with everyone .. but I hope you dont mind if I just start from today instead lol ...
A few of the posts I have just finished reading are wonderfully inspirational .. Catherine you sound wonderful and I look forward to getting to know you over the next year on our journey
Nancy .. sorry to hear about your problems .. but hun .. I reckon you are fantastic and deserve the very best so dont settle for anything less
Jilly .. WOO HOO on doing so well over the Holiday season! That is fantastic news for sure ... you definitely have wonderful willpower lol.
Heather ... great work and congrats on starting your first numbered post lol .. funny how much of a buzz you get when you manage that isnt it lol .. such an achievement
I have come to terms with my contract not getting extended at work now .. thats fine .. I will say I have been made to feel wonderful by a bunch of the staff there, they are all so shocked that Im not one of the ones whose contracts have been extended ... then again .. I was the highest paid out of the temp contract staff anyway so I think that has a lot to do with it too.
Im applying at a bunch of other stores this week (picked up application forms today) .. and will even apply at KFC .. and no Im not gonna think of it as temptation either lol .. I worked there when I was pregnant . and after the first week or so I couldnt stand the taste of any of it rofl... it also put me off eating any other fast food too!
Well .. Im gonna enjoy the rest of my day off with my hunny .. oh .. better put my positives on the last for this year for me (its new years eve day here in NZ lol).
1 - I reached my Xmas weight loss goal .. and even went over it .. didnt even think I would make it half way if Im being honest about it ..
2 - I have on a pair of trousers that used to have me lying down to do them up lol .. I just went to the bathroom and must have been thinking that they were the elastic waisted ones cos I just pulled em down instead of undoing the button and zip rofl ... damn .. another pair of newish pants that will be going out the door soon!!!
3 - We had a lovely family Xmas ... and the weather even behaved and we had a bunch of hot sunny days in a row!
4 - While I had a terrible cramp on the front of my leg last night which almost crippled me .. I recovered a lot faster than I usually do .. still a little sore and tender .. but Ive been up and about most of the day on it
5 - I went to the supermarket and was waiting at the checkout noticing all those darn chocolate bars near the till .... I had that lil devil in me sayin it aint new years day yet .. you can have one more naughty treat ... but then I said NO .. that just means there is more to catch up on lol .. so I ignored my naughty voice and the temptation of those and just thought about the fresh strawberries, apricots, mandarins, oranges, bananas and peaches that I had at home
To those that have had losses or health concerns (for yourself or your family) I give BIG HUGS and will have you in my thoughts .. keep well .. and dont hide your feelings .. dont judge your actions or feelings either ... be accepting of your thoughts and ranges of emotion .. and know that no matter what ... you are thought of and cared about by all of your friends on here I wish words could make it better, but hopefully it will make it a little more survivable.
Have a GREAT NEW YEAR everyone ... us in NZ are the first ones to see it lol .. so we will be sure to tell it to treat you all well in 2007! Im working tomorrow so I wont be up late tonight to see the new year in lol .. but I will definitely be seeing it early enough tomorrow rofl.
Katiebug: If I didn't welcome you.....Welcome. I do weight lifting with small 3 pound weights daily but I just do my own thing. Sorry no help from me. Maybe you can look on line?
Kymberly: I have a gazelle too but I'm too big for it still. Sorry, 0 and two in the help department for you guys. lol
Brenda: Hugs. I'm so very sorry about your Uncle. I will pray for your family.
Catherine: I'm so proud of you. I get so motivated when I read your posts. Plus, now I can't wait for the big news on the 3rd!
Nitekat: Great NSV's I can't wait to share some with you guys.
OH, I just thought of a an NSV. When I first started my exercising on the bike I could only go 1/2 of a mile before I was pooped. On Monday I will be upping it to 2 and 1/2 miles a day. So I am gaining stamina. I guess that's an NSV.
Hope you are all doing well. Val.... Oh, val... we miss you, please come back soon.
I had that lil devil in me sayin it aint new years day yet .. you can have one more naughty treat ... but then I said NO .. that just means there is more to catch up on lol .. so I ignored my naughty voice and the temptation of those and just thought about the fresh strawberries, apricots, mandarins, oranges, bananas and peaches that I had at home
Katt -- that is how I try to handle the temptations, and when I can do it, I know I'm doing well. Saying there is more to catch up on is another way of saying our choices have consequences...
Annie -- That's an awesome nsv!!
Valerie -- We miss you!
And Misti, where are you?? Kayley? Ms Crock disappeared...
Nightkatt-You just learned a very important lesson. One of the hardest things I had to learn to do was tell myself NO! I have a very spoiled child who lives inside me, and I have to really keep my eye on it to keep it from being in charge of the henhouse.
Annie-Yes the news is going to be huge. It’s a Canada thing, and I had to ask what it meant which made me feel silly because himself just about passed out when he got the letter, but as a teaser, it means the government is going to pay to fly us to Ottawa. I’m not supposed to say anymore until it is officially released to the press, but it is really hard keeping a secret this big.
Wyllenn-I used to hit my foster kids hard with the idea of consequences. I was always really entrenched in the “Do as I say, not as I do” thing. One of the reasons I think that keeping the food diary works for me where nothing else really ever has, is that I have to accept responsibility for everything that goes in my mouth. Sometimes I choose to eat a cookie in place of the same amount of calories that I’d get with a veggie burger, but most of the time I choose the burger simply because I know it will last longer. The important thing is that I know I have a choice, and I take responsibility for that choice.
As for me, I’ve got my food for the next two days planned out already. I’m making a potato-celery root soup for the gang that my husband usually invites over. I’m making biscuits to go with it. I have a recipe that uses whole wheat flour and canola oil only. On New Years Day, I am having my black-eyed peas which wasn’t a given. I couldn’t find them anywhere in town. Most stores hadn’t even heard of black-eyed peas before. I finally found some today at a Portuguese bakery. Go figure. I’m making a low-fat baked hushpuppy with them instead of the corn bread of year’s past. I debated long and hard about cooking the beans with a ham bone or fatback, and came up with a compromise that I think I can live with. I went to a market in Little Italy here and got the end piece of some prosciutto. They sell the ends of the meats that they can’t use any more of in the deli. This stuff is normally $20/lb., and is really lean, but has a lot of flavor. The last 6 inches of the ham is too tough for them to sell at that price, so they sell it to people like me for a couple of bucks who want to use it to flavor beans or stew. So I’ll have that flavor in my beans without overloading it with fat.
Nightkatt ~ congratulations on meeting your goal! That's a really big deal.
I worked second and third shift in the call center last night. I was concerned that my stomach was going to growl all night and I wouldn't be able to go the night without eating. I had a potato with a some butter around 12am (it only took me over my daily calories by 29) and I was fine the rest of the night. But when I awoke this afternoon after sleeping, I was starving. So I ate up about half my daily calories within 30 minutes.
My grandmother packed me lunch for work this evening, but she's from the old school. She claims that she only put a trace of butter in the green beans, but I didn't trust it. So though the dinner was probably around 500 calories, I just counted it as the whole balance of what was left of my remaining calorie balance. Though I had eaten at 3:30pm, I was still hungry -I really think I was just going through a binge - so I ate dinner around 5:30pm. Not great. Had an orange and called it a night.
So I didn't eat as many vegetables as I would have preferred, probably had somewhat more fat than I would have liked, but I didn't go over my allotted calories, so I am fine with that. I was somewhat disappointed. But I have to remember that I will fail some days and that is okay. Today I failed in some areas, but did fine in others.
Okee .. just had to jump in and tell you (gawd how small things make my day rofl) ... I just made dessert for my hunny and daughter .. home made custard to go over a self saucing lemon pudding .. with fruit on the side .. and all I had was the apricots and strawberries!! Just a smallish bowlful of them ... and I wasnt even tempted to nibble on the rest ... although I will admit the smell of the custard did get my mouth watering lol ..
Okee .. off to get an early night .. have to get up early for work and I know the phone will be ringing at midnight when my dad rings to wish me Happy New Year ... so need to get in a few hours first cos it takes me hours to get to sleep after I have been woken up and have a full day of work tomorrow.
Huggies all .. wishing you a very Happy, Healthy and Safe 2007. And please .. if you are going out for New Years .. dont drink and drive .. even one drink .. we want to see you on here for a long time
Do you have any date in mind for the wedding??? Huh??? Huh???? I will have to make sure I have the right outfit ready and get myself all 'dolled' up, so I can sit here while you 'do the deed', pretending to be part of the wedding party.
I needed good news like that at the moment, so thank you for putting a little light in my life.
I must start with an apology, because this isn't going to be a positive post my ANY means, and I should probably be trying to look at the positive side of life as I get ready to see in the new year.
I just wanted to ask how people have managed with the loss of a parent... or should I be saying the 'partial' loss of a parent. I'm not really sure what I should be saying.
If you read my post from a couple of days ago you may remember that last Thursday my father had a massive stroke. He is stable now, I think, but he has extremely slurred speech and has no movement down his left side.
We went to visit him today and now all I can do is cry. When we visited him on Thursday and Friday you could understand a lot of what he said, even though it took a lot of effort for him to get things out. Today it was almost impossible to understand him and he was mostly muttering. I am wondering whether this is because of the drugs he is on or whether he is actually going downhill.
I won't go into all the medical details here, but I just don't know how to handle this. He just doesn't seem like 'Dad' anymore. It is like we have already lost him, but he is still here. I know that I shouldn't be too negative at the moment, as there is still time for him to show some improvement, although the doctor said that if there isn't improvement in the first week, then there isn't likely to be any at all.
You know, I think the worst thing for me is knowing that Dad would absolutely HATE not being able to move around. I am just thankful that he is so drugged up at the moment that he isn't aware of the complete situation. Yesterday he asked my Aunty if she still had Nanna's walking frame as he may need it. I'm not sure he realises that he may never be able to walk again, and I am quite happy if he keeps thinking that he will be able to use a walking frame.
I'm sorry to be on such a 'downer', but I just don't seem to be coping very well at all at the moment. Mum and Dad live an hour and a half's drive away and we just went down for the day today, but we will be going back again Tuesday to stay for a few days. I want to be able to be a little stronger then, and I want to be able to support Mum, not fall in a heap all the time.
I may not have made a lot of sense at times in this post, but I am kind of writing from the heart and at the moment my heart is breaking.
Everyone - thanks for the nice comments about my hair. i LOVE it. i have the greatest hairdresser in the world
Zelma - my great grandma had a stroke about a year and a half ago. i know it seems like i shouldnt be able to relate, but my grandma raised me since i was 2 years old. shes really like my mom. its HARD to watch her deteriorate. when she was in the hospital she was like a frail little old lady. she didnt know where she was or why she was there. the damage wasnt so bad, she just lost her left field of vision in both eyes. she doesnt realize what happened tho. she thinks she injured her left eye. she went from being totally dependant to totally homebound unless we can take her somewhere. it gets really stressful because she gets bored and eats all day (eating everything in a day or 2 from one major grocery trip - and leaving us with poor choices for dinner) at least shes not gaining weight tho. every day is an arguement, usually about the same things. that im bossing her arround when i ask her not to eat my slimfasts, or that she should be able to drive, or getting her to take a shower... things like that. she was hospitalized with a UTI because she wasnt showering and we cant make her do it. its a LOT to deal with. none of her own kids care to make it thier responsibility because i have always been the favorite and shes always done everything for me, they all think its my problem to deal with. some days i feel like im living in the movie Groundhogs day (where everything happens day after day the exact same way). please know that my thoughts are with you, and i hope that you find your way. please know that it is OK to be upset, it is ok to be visably upset. you cant bottle that stuff up. cry with your mum if you have to, so you can heal from it. get the emotion out and dont let it consume you.
Zelma, Luan is completely correct. You must grieve. When dad was in the hospital unconcious for 4 days, it was terrible. I "held it together" except when I was with my cousin and husband. They were my release people. I had to make all the decisions, explain everything to everyone else, answer all the dr's questions etc. It didn't seem possible that my dad, the strongest man in the world, could be so ill and helpless. It was good to walk in the hospital and meditate on all the issues. I believe you're a religious person aren't you? I am not. Use your faith to strengthen you and your family. I know it's a scary and
vunerable feeling as an adult child. Take each hour at a time, walk when you can to meditate and....clear your head. Remember we are here for you.
Sorry this doesn't help much. You are in my thoughts.
Zelma -- Oh, my heart goes out to you! You should not apologize for a negative post -- please see us as a venting opportunity, support, whatever you need. And while I've never experienced your situation, I agree that grieving is probably what you need right now. Or, let me rephrase -- I think it's normal to go through what you're going through right now!
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One of the reasons I think that keeping the food diary works for me where nothing else really ever has, is that I have to accept responsibility for everything that goes in my mouth. Sometimes I choose to eat a cookie in place of the same amount of calories that I’d get with a veggie burger, but most of the time I choose the burger simply because I know it will last longer. The important thing is that I know I have a choice, and I take responsibility for that choice.
Exactly my experience. I've done WW several times before. I think it's a great plan, but my problem is that I didn't fully follow the plan. I'd "cheat" many times and NOT take responsibility for what I was doing. As long as I did that, I'd never succeed.
This time around I realized that I COULD pretend not to have eaten that brownie and not write it down. But my body was going to know I ate it whether I admitted it or not. It finally made sense to take responsibility for everything I ate because I couldn't cheat on my body without it knowing.
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