Hey everyone. I just needed to come here both to vent and ask for advice.
My boyfriend and I started dating about 2 years ago. At the time I met him, he was still with a girlfriend at the time and living with her. To make complicated story short, things ended soon after I met him, yet she continued living there until about a year ago. Fast forward to the present. She is still calling him on a weekly basis - sometimes 3 or 4 times a week. It bugs the crap out of me! They were together 5 years, and I know sometimes it's hard to let go, but still. It bugs me to no end. My boyfriend has a son, and his son goes to see her once in a while, which really pisses me off. She is NOT the mother of his son, so I don't see why she wants to see him. She acts like she's still dating him!
And what makes me even more mad is that my boyfriend and his son went over to her family's house for thanksgiving!! He said he is friends with her sister's husband, and that's who invited him, but I don't see why he would even want to do it.
I have not told my parents a lot about him because there are a few things they won't like about him. He is 28 (I'm 21), is Hispanic, and (as you know) has a son. I don't know how my dad is going to handle that, although my mom knows a lot. I get mixed messages about how she feels about it. So obviously he couldn't spend the holidays with my family.
Another thing, I was kept a secret in the beginning (duh, because he was still living with her). He has made progress and is now telling all his friends I'm his girlfriend and has introduced me to his son (he wanted to wait a while until after his ex moved out to introduce me so his son wouldn't be confused or anything). Thing is, he does not want the ex to know about me (she found out about me right after they broke up, and he told her we were just friends, so she wouldn't do anything to ruin his chances of getting custody of his son). So earlier this week we got in a huge fight because I got upset that I couldn't go to his house until after she picked his son up and left, because his son was going to go to her apartment for the night. He thinks it's stupid that I'm upset, but I don't think it is. I think it's totally legite for me to be upset. He also has not told his sister or brother-in-law about me. That part I totally don't get.
I don't know, do you think I'm being a psycho for being mad that he still talks to his ex (I do know, however, that he rarely answers her calls - I've heard a couple of their conversations because I was in the room and he never calls her)? I don't think that I should be kept a secret from her either. Or his sister. It's only confusing his son even more. But he is SO STUBBORN and won't listen to me!!
Don't get me wrong. I am NOT considering leaving him, because I am very happy with him. I spend just about every day with him and his son, and this is the happiest I've been in a long time. I just can't get the stupid ex to BACK OFF. He said she just wants to see his son once in a while, but I don't like it.
I don't know...this was really long, so thanks for reading. Any advice would be appreciated.