Dr Phil spoke of talking to ourselves in how we want to be. I just found the thing that Zig talked about that was similar.
This process is actually for the business side of your life but I thought if we tweaked this some we could use it for our weight loss goals also.
1) You have to make a personal commitment in writing that states the following:
I, Ursula, am serious about setting and reaching my goals in my life so on this 10th day of November, 2004, I promise myself that I will take the first step toward setting those goals.
I am willing to exchange temporary pleasures in the pursuit of happiness and the striving for excellence in the pursuit of my goals. I am willing to discipline my physical and emotional appetites to reach the long-range goals of happiness and accomplishment. I recognize that to reach my goals I must grow personally and have the right mental attitude, so I promise to specifically increase my knowledge in my chosen field and regularly read positive growth books and magazines. I willalso attend lectures and seminars, take courses in personal growth and development. I will utilize my time more effectively by listening to motivational and educational recordings while driving or performing routine tasks at home or in the yard. I will keep a list of my activities including the completion dates for each project in my Goals Program. I further promise to list good ideas (mine and those of others) and to note thoughts, power-phrases, and quotations, which have meaning to me.
2) From Zig Ziglar - The eyes are the windows of the soul. So, to become the person you are capable of becoming, each evening, just before you go to bed, stand in front of a mirroe alone and in the first-person, present-tense, look yourself in the eye and repeat with passion and enthusiasm paragraphs A, B, C & D. Repeat this process every morning and every evening from this day forward. Within one week you will notice remarkable changes in your life. After thirty days add the last procedure.
A I, Ursula, am an honest, intelligent, organized responsible, commited, teachable person who is sober, loyal, and clearly understands that regardless of who signs my paycheck I am self-employed. I am an optimistic, punctual, enthusiastic, goal-setting, smart working self-starter who is disciplined, focused, dependable, persistent positive thinker with great self control, and am an energetic and diligent team player and hard worker who appreciates the opportunity my company and the free enterprise system offer me. I am thrifty with my resources and apply common sense to my daily taskes. I take honest pride in my competence, appearance and manners and am motivated to be and do my best so that my healty self-image will remain on solid ground. These are the qualities which enable me to manage myself and help give me employment security in a no-job-security world.
B I, Ursula, am compassionate, respectful encourager who is a considerate, generous, gentle, patient, caring, sensitive, personable, attentive, fun-loving person. I am supportive, giving and forgiving, clean, kind, unselfish, affectionate, loving, family-oriented human being and I am a sincere and open-minded good listener and a good-finder who is trustworthy. These are the qualities which wnable me to build good relationships with my associates, neighbors, mate and family.
C I, Ursula, am a person of integrity, with the faith and wisdom to know what I should do and the courage and convictions to follow through. I have the vision to manage myself and to lead others. I am authoritative, confident, and humbly grateful for the opportunity life offers me. I am fair, flexible, resourceful, creative, knowledgeable, decisive, and an extra-miler with a servant's attitude who communicates well with others. I am a consistent, pragmatic teacher with character and a finely-tuned sense of humor. I am an honorable person and am balanced in my personal, , family, and business life, and have a passion for being, doing, and learning more today so I can be, do and have more tomorrow.
D THese are the qualities of the winner I was born to be and I am fully commited to developing these marvelous qualities with which I have been entrusted. Tonight, I'm going to sleep wonderfully well. I will dream powerful, positive dreams. I will awaken energized and refreshed; tomorrow's going to be magnificent and my future is unlimited. Recognizing, claiming and developing these qualities which I already have gives me a legitimate chance to be happier, healthier, more prosperous, more secure, have more friends, greater peace of mind, better family relationships and legimate hope that the future will be even better.
(In the morning say - These are the qualities of the winner I was born to be and I will develop and use these qualities to achieve my worthy objectives. Today is a brand new day and it's mine to use in a marvelously productive way.
After 30 Days Add this step: Choose your strongest quality and the one you feel needs the most work. Example: Strongest- honest. Needs most work - organized. Ona seperate 3x5 card print : I, Ursula, am a completely honest person and every day I am getting better and better organized. Keep this 3x5 card handy and read it out loud at every opportunity for one week. Repeat this process with the 2nd stongest and needs the most work qualtities. Do this until you've completed the entire list. Use the self-talk procedure as long as you want to get more of the things money will buy you and all of the things that money won't buy you.
Note: Because of some painful experience in the past (betrayal, abuse, etc) there might be a word or two that brings back unpleasant memories (example - discipline). Eliminate the word or substitute another word.
While some people may think this is hokey... and to be honest the 1st few times I did this I couldnt look myself in the eye all the way through and also felt uncomfortable. It really does work. The year that I used this my income more than doubled. HONEST! I dont know why I quit using it but it is VERY POWERFUL.
I think we could tweak this for our weight loss journey. As Dr Phil states what ever you think about yourself, you are right. So if we start saying positive things to ourselves everyday and look ourselves in the mirror we will start believing it and living it.
What do you guys think of this. Sorry it was so long winded I wanted to write it word for word because I thought that was important.