First off, I love my Mother dearly! She's my Mom!
But she is driving me crazy.
She is heavy, and has been as long as I can remember. So be it. She also now due to that has a number of obesity related health issues. So be it.
Non insulin dependent diabetic, high blood pressure, had her gall bladder out, has 3 stints in her heart. Among other things.
Anyway, we had a wedding this last weekend. My nephew, my mothers grand son, it's a 3 hour drive.
I'll skip all the details.
I picked her up Friday evening, we went half way and stayed with my other sis.
Anyway, Mom, refused to take a shower all weekend! The wedding was outside, late Saturday afternoon and it was HOT! The sweat beads were having races down my back!
The point is, given her health issues, not showering, and keeping good hygene in mind is not good for her health, let alone, the fact that several relatives, in the medical field cornered me and asked if she was ok, given that she stunk.
I need some advice on how to approach her, and hopefully not make her madder than a wet hen on butchering day, and get it through her thick head that a shower will not kill you!
She does not like water on her face, in fact in her opinion the only thing water is good for, is making coffee!
She is actually irritated because her 97 year old mother, who still lives at home insists on showering on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday!
My 2 sisters and I are at our wits end. We've hinted, and we've offered to help her. And she still is stubborn as a Missouri Mule in peanut butter that she does not need to shower more than twice a month!
I have to take her to another family wedding at the end of August and I'm dreading it. My car stinks to high heaven from this weekend.
I don't want to be rude, or hurt her feelings, or make her feel bad, she is my Mom and I do love her, but I just don't know what else to do.
If anyone has some advice, I'd be ever grateful!