Both of these:
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Originally Posted by IanG
I will be happy. I am (mostly but with issues) happy anyway so I am just going completely manic with the weight loss at the moment and that will just get worse. To a casual onlooker it looks like a midlife crisis at age 38! My growing concern however, and one that has been covered elsewhere, is that I am getting hooked on the loss and I don't know how I will cope when I don't have to lose any more.
I get a real buzz every day from seeing the weight go down on the scale (when it does). To not have that kick everyday someday will be difficult for me. I hope I can adjust to that. I'm a pretty intense guy that really gets into anything he does...a bit all or nothing...which is how I got heavy in the first place i.e. too much nothing.
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Originally Posted by ChickieBoom
Happiness is relative and I think it really depends on individual personality. I'm much happier with the way I look now than when I started but I know that I need to keep going. It's so much easier going shopping for clothes and I'm not nearly as self conscious when I'm out in public as I used to be. My body is far from perfect and I realize that there is no such thing as a perfect body so I aim to be as fit and healthy as I can be.
Did you mean happy in general, or just happy with the weight loss and resulting body?
If you meant happiness with our weight loss and bodies at goal specifically, then ChickieBoom summed up my feelings. If you meant
overall happiness, then IanG summed up my feelings.
I have been a a happy person before starting my weight loss. I have a lot to be grateful for. A loving wife. Three wonderful kids. Things in my life are going great. And while I wanted to lose weight in the past, I never felt that strongly about it to make a big commitment to losing weight. People lose weight for different reasons. I think when you're young, you are more likely to be motivated by body image. When you're young, we seem to think we are immortal. But as we get older, and realize that obesity is a serious condition that can lead to major health problems and shorten our lifespans, I think that becomes more of a motivator than looks. At least that was the case for me. Because now that I have three young children, I want to do everything I can to be around as long as possible to be there for them. While I have a way to go to reach my goal, I already feel better about myself because I have come a long way towards getting healthier.
I also see a difference in how I feel physically. My knees and feet feel much better than they used to now that there is 120 less pounds of me to carry. I am also not out of breath when I walk up a few stairs or carry on light exercise. I get tie my shoes without a strain. I can get down on my knee or sit down on the ground without having to completely lay down -- like I used to have to do.
For me, weight loss goal vs. happiness is not a zero sum game. As ChickieBoom wisely said, it is relative. I will continue to be happier the closer I get to my goal. Will I be completely happy there? Again, I will be much happier than I was. But I suspect the question of I will be completely happy will depend on my expectations and whether my weight loss meets up with them. I have no illusions that my body at 220 at age 44 - after losing 180 pounds - is going to look like my body did at age 20 (the last time I was at 220). I already know that isn't going to be the case. But since my main concern isn't body image, that isn't going to keep me from being happy.
Having said all that, the weight loss for the sake of body appearance has been nice too. Its a great feeling to fit into smaller clothes and the way I look in them -- compared to the way I used to look when i was heavier. And I am sure that this happiness will also increase as I get closer to my goal. I've said all along that my goal is just a rough estimate, based upon my lowest adult weight back when I was 20 years old. The funny thing about that is I remember being at that weight and NOT being completely happy with it then. I had just come off a 40 pound weight loss and was a size 38. Its funny, I have a picture of myself at that age burned in my mind. I was looking at my reflection in a window, wearing my new size 38 Z Cavaricci jeans (which were the style of the day), and I remember thinking to myself that I still looked fat. NOW, as I look back at myself and the only picture that I have of myself at that weight, I would be thrilled to look like that again! It is amazing how one's perspective can change.