Sandy: I can definitely see what you're saying here. Men can be such butts sometimes. While I love my dh very much, he sounds alot like yours, to a certain degree. My dh (as most men) do not like to deal with any type of conflict. They just like to sail through life, hoping nothing effects them. First of all, I agree that he has nothing to hide. If there were truly something
going on between them, that's the
last place he'd sit....right beside her. So that's not even an issue. I think, like most men...he didn't even thing anything about it. You, on the other hand...did. And I'll bet you a dollar to a donut, (a low-fat one) that if the situation was reversed, he'd have been burnt up too.
The most important thing you can do now is get over it, because the more you dwell on it and the more you pick at him, the worse it will get. He is not going to see your point. Sometimes you feel like if you talk long enough, and look at a situation from enough angles, you'll see that little light bulb come on over his head and finally, he'll
get it! But usually, that will not be the case. The only thing he will hear is "
nag...nag...nag." He doesn't see it as you telling him you're upset, he sees it as you nagging him and just trying to start a fight....so I'd let this one go. It wasn't tragic and I'm sure he won't make that mistake again. Hope this helped some.
And let me tell you something else:
You will not go over your points today....you know why? Because YOU are strong and you have worked too hard for your success to let
anyone affect you in this way. Be stronger than this and show him and yourself that he will not get too you. {{{hugs}}}
For instance: Monday...I get off work and go pick up Trey at school. I decide since I haven't been cooking any really big meals lately that I will cook a good dinner, so after I've got him all corraled in the car, we head off to the store, which I would like to mention is worse than going to the dentist. Every isle we're on is, "Mom, can I have that...and Mom, can I have this?" Anyways, I pick up some pork chops for BBQ pork chops, potatoes for mashed potatoes, biscuits, corn and a few more things. As I'm leaving, I remember that dh mentioned to me the other day that he sure would like to have some icecream in the house that wasn't low fat, so I even head over to the icecream isle and pick out his favorite kind....butter pecan. So I lug all this home and in the house and when I come in, older son...(Brian) says, "Dad said to tell you that he waited for you as long as he could and to tell you he went turkey hunting." I was
livid. Let me explain why.... First of all, dh isn't supposed to get off work until 4:00. I walked in the door at 4:03. That means he left work early, thus missing
pay. Secondly, he couldn't have waited that long because I picked up Trey at 3:30, went to the store and was home by 4:03. Thirdly, he just went hunting Thurs, Sat and Sunday....which means this was the
fourth out of
five days that he'd went hunting, not to mention that Trey was now crying and screaming at the top of his lungs because I took him to the grocery store instead of home, where he could have went hunting with his dad. I just cannot comtemplate why a man feels it necessary to sit in the woods like an idiot waiting for some damn turkey to gobble....it is beyond me.
Needless to say....he had a hotdog for dinner and a burnt one at that.
Deon: You are so cute, you should have known that
Tony wasn't my husband though....I mean really,
who talks about her husband that much? As far as your son goes, I'd have to say that I agree with Baylee. My 10 year old is a real slacker when it comes to homework and I literally have to sit on top of him to get him to do it. While it is good for children to have their freedom and that works well for some, others need to have more structure. You need to set some rules down now, before it gets out of hand. My youngest loves to play outside, but before he walks out the door, homework is done. Yeah, he gripes and complains, but he does do it and it definitely helps his grades. After he gets into a daily routine though...he'll get used to it and that might help.
Donna: I'm so sorry that you have been feeling crappy lately. Get out of this funk lady...you can do it! I love the stories about your dgs...they absolutely crack me up. 2cute should have been there with a fire extinguisher....I hear she keeps one of those handy these days.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on that job you want.
2cute: You are a little prankster, aren't you?
You absolutely cracked me up. Even dh got a chuckle out of it. I'll also have you know that you are the
only person that got me all day. I hope you're proud of yourself.
Baylee: I think everyone here will join me in giving you a standing ovation...
How proud I am of you. You have really taken this bull by the horns, so to speak...and ran with it! I wish they had TOPS meetings in my area. Your numbers are going down...down...down. You are so close to
onederland! You rock Miss Baylee!
Kat: Hey there sweetpea....I remembered that you said that job was purged....sometimes you just have to rattle my cage a little bit and wake me up.
I feel for you though....third shift is a killer and I don't know that one ever truly gets used to it. I think it just goes against everything that is
normal. Good for you for meeting your challenging day yesterday. Mashed potatoes
are one of my favorites too and I like to do the "taste test" as well, only problem is, when I used to
taste, half the pot would be gone before supper got started!
Lori: I don't think I've seen you on the board before, but it's good to have you with us. Post often..that's the best way to get to know you! And as far as the resemblence between
Tony and
Ron .....hmm, I'll have to think on that one.
Sara: I knew you wouldn't be mad at me for being honest with you. I just felt like I should, but to be honest....
again. I don't think I ever really doubted that you did it, it was just the ol' green eyed monster rearing it's ugly head. You will be happy to know however that your pretty face is now on the front of my fridge (eye level, I might add) and that image talked me out of having something last night that I didn't need. Thanks again for all your energy, support, laughter and inspiration. That's what being a friend means....
Well guys...I'm out of here for now. I have been typing forever and I have a blue zillion things to do today. If you haven't figured it out by now, I am off today. (no mention of killing
Chatty Cathy was a dead giveaway I'm sure) I've already done my 2 mile WATP and I'm about to head in the kitchen to do some good ole fashioned cleaning that should burn off a few more calories. I hope you all have a wonderful day and I will come back later. I love you all.