My situation..........
A guy that my best friend knows asked her if she had any single friends. She said yes. Well that single friend is ME. She asked me if she could give this guy my number and I told her yes. Well he called and we talked. We have been talking on the phone for about 2 months. He lives about 1 hour away. He lives in the same city that my best friend does. Well, he invited me to a get together in the city where he lives and said that some of his family and friends would be there. I accepted the invitation. I had already seen a pic of him and he had seen a pic of me. I wasn't overly excited or thrilled at his pic. But he wasn't an ugly guy. But at the same time, he is 15 years older than I am. I am 45 and he is 60 yrs old. I am not looking for someone that age.
Well, the day arrives and we finally meet. I take one look at him and I wanted to run home. I was NOT attracted to him but I already knew that. So, I get out of my vehicle and greet him. He grabs my hand and begins to hold my hand as he leads me into the house (DEAL BREAKER). I was very uncomfortable because he held my hand. I have only talked on the phone with him for 2 months and he is holding my hand already??????????? NO NO NO WAY !
So, I try my best to make it through the event. Everyone there was nice but no "love connection" with this guy. So, I stayed there a couple hours and then it was time for me to drive back home. He was a VERY nice person. He presented to me a care package that consisted of a bottle of wine, perfume, a cake and 50 movies. I was like WOW!!!!!
So, I get back home and call him to thank him for everything. His next statement is that he can't wait for us to get together again. Well, here is where we have a problem. I don't want to see him again. He is looking for a relationship and I am not looking for a relationship with HIM. He is sooo nice but not for me.
The problem is...................do I tell him I don't like him in "that" way or do I NOT tell him and just avoid his calls. I don't want to hurt his feelings but at the same time, I don't want to lead him on. I feel that he can make someone a great husband. Just not me.
What would you do?