Thanks
Ruthie for the December thread. Good morning everyone. I can't believe we are finally in December. I agaree that this is a trying month for everyone. I believe this WW/LC/IE combo is going to not only work for me, but it will help me get through those tempting times. As of this morning, when I get this next 2 lbs off that my ticker will be accurate again. I now have the scales moving downward again.
FBS still bounces, but I believe if I get the weight down that it will eventually line up.
DD came in to talk with us last night. Tony and I had a chance to be alone yesterday so I had told him things I had said and things they had said to me. We realized that they didn't have to move here and I told him I wasn't sure why they did. Tony has a Master's Degree in music and he did not stay in that field. He later took correspondence courses to become a Resperatory Therapist which he absolutely loved working in Neo-Natal. It was his calling in life. He felt that he wasted all those years in college and of course we see lots of kids graduate and can't find jobs in their field. He didn't push for his son and daughter to go to college. His deceased wife didn't go and they both made pretty good money. His kids feel cheated because they didn't get to go to college because Tony couldn't send them. She had an extremely good job working 4 days a week and the company he works for actually called her husband to go to work in FL, but he told them they were moving here and he got the job here. So we suddenly realized that she actually manipulated her hubby, kids, ex and us to get to move in up here so she could go to nursing school. She created this situation. Of course, we will never voice that too her. However we did take the opportunity to make some things very clear and exactly how we feel and what we can and cannot do. I also made it clear what I do not like and what I will and will not allow when it comes to respect especially when it comes to her Daddy. However, I'm not sure she even knows what respect is. I love her dearly, however, she is just like any other daughter and she will have to learn the hard way that Daddy and Mama do know what they are talking about. I told DH that he needs to quit telling them some things and let them find out on their own because some things we say are like talking to the wind. I did make it clear that I am the one who writes the checks and I am the one who knows how much money I have to work with... every month "I am the one who has to be able to pay the bills and I do pay them before anything else is done" and I get cranky until I get them out of the way. I told her that I'm sorry but they will have to learn to live with it, because every month I go through this thing wondering if I'm going to be able to cover it all. I can't tell you that it is any better, but it sure as heck felt good to say what I wanted to say. I think DH felt better too. One thing I have made clear is that her Daddy IS sick and they need to be thankful for him because if it wasn't for him we would have nothing. I know she thinks we have money. He told her that it was because he had the right banker that took his 401K years ago and put it into an account that is paid by the stock market and we lived great for a while because of it, but that since the economy has gone like it has in the past year of so, we don't have much of it more. I told her "We have lost half of what was in there just this year because of the stock market dropping like it has". Don't know what she believes because her mother always lied to her about how bad things were telling her that "it's not as bad as your Daddy says". She doesn't know that her mother would spend on credit cards and get them messed up and Tony would have to take over and get them out of messes. According to what his Mother told me before she dies, some times even had to go to his Mother to get things straightened out. And of course, that isn't mine to tell her. But she tells her son all the time, "Daddy always says these thing. He has said these things all my life. It's not that bad". Well it was and it is and... Hey were living in the 2011 world where things are bad globally and things are really scarry even here in the USA. And even if it wasn't, you still have to be responsible and pay your bills.
Bonnie We may be just going through the adjustment period in our home and I hope that is all it is. My hope is that we will adjust and things will get better. I'm also thinking that a lot of "our" problems may be a little 8 year old girl who says is working between people, manipulating to get things the way she wants it. I see her doing this with her parents all the time. If you have lived with your hubby's aunt before and it worked, then it could definitely be a really good thing for y'all and her. I know that the last 2 or 3 yrs that my previous hubby lived, out daughter moved back in with us. I will always be grateful for that time we all had together. She had moved in and out for years and it was always a nightmare. But the last time she moved in the only problems we had was the normal problems you have with teens because of her daughter, but our last 3 yrs together with her Daddy was absolutely great. He died knowing that his little girl was okay. So I know it
can work. Times are tough and I believe that this is a time when families need to pull together and work together. So I hope this works out good for you, your aunt and everyone involved.
As for the rest of us going through these things, regardless of how it is going, I try to keep reminding myself of the old saying "This too shall pass".
Sorry this is so long so won't do indies. I have a baby who needs a diaper change and to eat so he can give me another stinky later. LOL
Have a great day everyone.