So I'm just writing to vent some of my recent frustrations (with DH in particular). I figure I may find a sympathetic ear here at 3FC.
DH knows that I'm counting my calories and is generally supportive, but this means that I can't pig out with him like we have typically done. We're major foodies and really into artisan beer. Last night he bought a TON of my favorite beers and wine. Now, I know that I can't expect him to change his eating habits or relationship to food just because I have (he's not at all overweight), but it's really hard to have all of that temptation around in our apartment. On the way home from the store I said to him, "Living with you is like living in the Garden of Eden - in a tent right underneath the tree with the forbidden fruit!"
His response: "I'm just making you stronger, it'll be easier for you to resist temptation when you have to do it all the time!"
I told him that he didn't understand what it was like to be me, to feel ashamed of how much weight I've gained and how badly I want to succeed in losing weight. How every day I have to make a conscious decision to eat foods that fit in my plan instead of whatever the **** I want (the way he can).
He said that he'd like to weigh less too (although mind you, his BMI is right around normal, whereas mine puts me into the obese category) and that he knew what it was like to be overweight. He said that I need to stop throwing myself a pity party, and then proceeded to describe all of the tasty treats that I can't have just to push my buttons. We've made up since, but his attitude about "strengthening my resolve by tempting me" still bothers me. How can a 5'11" 180lb man understand what it's like to be a 5'3" 172lb woman?