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Originally Posted by JollyGreenSteen19
...but he explained to me that he doesn't really value an orgasm to enjoy sex and that isn't the exciting part for him... which I have to say, is still hard for me to get my head around that, but I'll try.
My husband has told me this as well. It's hard for me to swallow too, I've never heard of a man who doesn't care for cumming, but I know that he truly is enjoying the sex. Like someone else wrote the lead up to the sex can be just as good as an orgasm itself. I don't always have to reach climax to feel great about the sex we just had, so why should he?
To answer your initial question though, I'm not happy with the way I look. I would personally not be attracted to myself, but I don't feel uncomfortable being naked around my husband. We have sex with the light on or off. I initiate sex far more often than he does, and it bothers me, but we've talked about it, and he's working on it. He's explained to me that he's simply never had anyone to talk about sex with, and he's not comfortable with the subject whereas I've had plenty of conversations about sex with my peers and am open to discuss these issues. I'm pushing him and he's reciprocating, which makes me happy.
He does initiate other types of touch though, sometimes I don't necessarily appreciate them, like holding my hand and/or putting his arm around me while we walk in super humid and hot weather (the sweat is unbearable). These types of touch are almost always initiated by him. So, I guess we initiate the type of touch that we're most comfortable initiating and depend on each other to fulfill our other needs.
This Saturday will be our 4th anniversary, and I couldn't be happier!