*sigh* i can't tell anyone i know about this...so i'm throwing it out there to you guys for a little advice. My bf and i have been together on and off for 8 years, but living together and serious for the past 3 solid. We are both in our early 40s. He was a baseball player for 16 years, retired for the past 3...but you can imagine the number of women that have been in his life while he played...girl in every port so to speak. He has been fully committed to me since we moved in together 3 years ago...that i know. He moved to the small California town I live in...doesn't really have a whole lot of friends...doesn't have a car or a job (unfortunately). He HAS decided to go back to school online to better his job opportunities and i am completely supportive of that.
So here is the dilema...the other day, while i was cleaning a virus off his computer, i found, in the recycle bin, pics of a girl he used to see...naked pics...taken about 4 months ago. When i asked him about them, at first he lied and said he didn't know who it was, when i was like, "come ON"...he 'fessed up. His explanation was that she said she was "feeling fat and wanted an opinion"...(needless to say, she is 5'11 about 120 with 36DD boobs...basically perfect, and i am FAR from that). This woman lives 3000 miles away, literally on the other side of the country...so i KNOW he isn't messing around with her. He told me the only contact he had with her was when he replied and said, "that doesn't look fat to me"...i was FURIOUS!! i couldn't believe that was his response. He swears up and down that it was nothing, he doesn't talk or text with her and he loves me no matter what i look like. i explained to him that my self esteem is already in the toilet and now he just made me feel worse. He apologized profusely and said he would never have contact with her again. Needless to say, i feel like poop...i can't stop thinking about it, and now i hate myself even more. So, do i tell him to pack his bags, or do i forgive and move on?? What would you guys do??