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Originally Posted by ThicknPretty
Those are some really sucky stories! And situations that I would NOT handle well.
With that being said, I have a slightly different perspective. I am the single mom of one amazing, brilliant, devestatingly handsome and hilarious little boy and nothing makes me quite as sad or uncomfortable or...let's just say it, jealous and bitter, as the thought of raising him and nurturing him and devoting the large majority of my life to HIM...only to have some other woman come sweep him off his feet and out of my house one day. I know, I know, that's a long way down the road...and of course I will be happy for my son as long as he is happy. I want him to find love...but I'm just being honest.
I felt this way the first time my oldest son fell in love with a girl in his early 20's. She was a lovely girl, but I felt that jealousy and panic, that she would take him away and it would be the end of the special relationship that he and I share. But then I realized that, if he were to marry her, it would be
my attitude that would drive him away. So I worked to shift my attitude; she wasn't taking my son away, he was bringing a daughter to me. The daughter that I didn't have. So I started imagining shopping trips, helping her with her new (theoretical) baby, and all the fun stuff that would come with having an adult daughter.
Then they broke up. And I cried every time I saw her for a year after that, LOL. So it didn't work out so well in this situation, but hey--if I want to keep my relationship with my boys, I had better well consider my (potential) daughters-in-law as daughters, not as the usurper who stole my son and is my comptetitor.
Besides, what's the alternative? Having my sons live with me till they are old men?