Ok, maybe I'm shallow, or maybe just pathetic. Either way...
I was a fat kid. VERY chubby baby (of course it's *cute* when you're a baby!) and a rather chubby kid, up until about 7th grade, when I lost my "baby fat". Then I was a very thin teenager. TOO THIN, at some point... I was nearly anorexic. But during college & early adulthood (20's and early 30's) I was not thin, but I was healthy. Athletic. Held my curves well. If I gained 5 or 10 pounds, I could get them off without too much whining.
So without all the boring details, I gained weight as an adult. Around 34 or 35 years old, I started gaining/losing/gaining/losing. You know: YoYo-ing! Well, for the past three years, I've been completely disgusted with myself, reaching a high of 192, and right now kind of bouncing in between 175 & 180. I'm going thru "the Pause" - which I contribute a great deal of my weight gain due to whacked out hormones. I've never felt so crazy in my entire life.
ANYWAY - I have this FRIEND... someone I've known since we were 5 years old~ and now we're 47. So literally, all my life I've known her. We live far apart and try to visit each other at least once a year.
HERE'S MY GRIPE! - every. single. year. she. comes. to. visit.... she has to take "pictures". Ok, fine then. Except she ALWAYS posts them on her dang facebook!!! - And I've begged, pleaded, etc. for her to NOT post the pics because I am clearly not happy with my body and I just don't want to see fat-so me splattered across the internet like that. Then she gets annoyed & even angry when I ask her to please DELETE the "fat" pics of me.
WHY IS THIS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND? She's still as thin as she was in college - no more than 120 pounds, and this after having 2 daughters. Why can't she just understand that I don't want FAT ME on her facebook??? I don't post pictures of ANYONE on my facebook without asking them first! - Nobody likes to see unflattering pictures of themselves... especially spread all over the web for everyone to see.
So maybe I am shallow, or even pathetic... but I just don't get why SHE doesn't get that it upsets me. And why she continues to post pictures every year, after I always ask her not to... and then she gets persnickety when I ask her to delete those of me .... I just don't get it.