Thank you all for responding and great advice.
A little background that i wasn't too clear earlier in my first post. My weight only goes down when i'm upset like with my bad breakup in '98 i was 245 and lost 70 lbs. (i know not healthy). A few years ago i lost almost 25 with another break up which was '07. My father had a lung transplant 11/08 and i was at 183 and unhappy (i'd take it now!) Slowly as time has gone by, new bf that i live with that is an eater my weight has crept up to 200. I was 190 for a very long time.
Then i was KILLING myself at the gym. Doing spin class 3-4 times a week, step, arc machine, sculpt weights and so on. Since my father's digress AND buying a house i've been off my path. It's like i don't know how to diet or do it right anymore
I was so into the gym i wouldn't do anything else before a good workout. Anyways, so getting back on track, i feel i eat the standard same day to know the calories. I have a light multi grain eng. muffin with p.butter for breakfast, green apple for snack, salad with chix or lean cuisine for lunch, nuts for snack and a light lowfat dinner.
I never beleive what stress could do to the body, i'm on melatonin at night and my belly fat from cortisol is awful, never had a belly, always was bottom heavy