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Ciao , 08-02-2010 10:39 PM

And I'm not just talking about physically!

I'm scared of this school year just a LITTLE bit because
I get taken advantage of a lot. There's certain "friends"
who seem to only need me when they need a homework
assignment and last year I just willingly let them copy me.
I'm a 3.85 grade point average student.

For those of you who don't know what that is... a 4.0 is
basically the perfect score in high school. Colleges look for
very high GPAs and my GPA is right up there for very good
colleges.

Anyways, I'm SICK of getting taken advantage of! So there
is DEFINITELY going to be a new Sierra this school year. I
won't be mean about it, but I'll just simply tell them that
they need to start doing their work. I'm not there to benefit
them nor am I obliged to. I posted this in the support forum
because I DO need support to keep this in mind. I don't want
to go back to the old me and feel miserable because I worked
my butt off all night and someone else took two minutes to copy
my work! Anyways, I feel better now that I let it out.

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#2

Cglasscock1 , 08-03-2010 12:01 AM

Sierra,
I am so glad to see your new found self-confidence. It won't be easy to stand up to those lazy students you have helped in the past, but you can do it. Just say it in a confident manner and maybe they will leave you alone after the first try. You will be doing them a favor by forcing them to do the work. After all, do they expect you to accompany them to college as well?
Make them earn their grades, as you have. This is a positive step for you as a young adult. Good luck!

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Ciao , 08-03-2010 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Cglasscock1
Sierra,
I am so glad to see your new found self-confidence. It won't be easy to stand up to those lazy students you have helped in the past, but you can do it. Just say it in a confident manner and maybe they will leave you alone after the first try. You will be doing them a favor by forcing them to do the work. After all, do they expect you to accompany them to college as well?
Make them earn their grades, as you have. This is a positive step for you as a young adult. Good luck!
Thank you!
The turning point for me was a girl who had
slacked off on her homework for 6 weeks asked
me if she could borrow my whole school BINDER
for the weekend to copy all of my work (well over 100 pages)!

I mean, geeze! Talk about lazy and rude! Fortunately,
that time I DID stand up for myself and I let her know
that she didn't do her work so she was going to suffer
the consequence. She failed the class, of course, but
myself in return was amazed that I stood up for myself.

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Natasha1534 , 08-03-2010 01:09 AM

Good for you for deciding to stand up for yourself!!! When I was going through EMT school I would say about 1/2 of the class was serious about the class and the other 1/2 goofed off and wanted to cheat off other people's papers when it came time for tests. Finally, someone stepped up and reported that they had been letting one of our classmates cheat off of them. We had a LENGTHY lecture from our instructor advising us that if we got caught cheating or allowing someone to cheat off of us we would not only receive a failing grade but we would also be kicked out of the program completely and never allowed to return. He still put us in a larger room on test days and had at least one desk in between every student so we wouldn't be able to cheat. Wouldn't you know it...by the end of that semester we lost 1/3 of our class b/c they could no longer CHEAT their way through the tests!!!

Personally, I never let anybody cheat off of me for several reasons. 1 of those being that I worked really hard and studied my @$$ off to get my good grades (4.0 average all throughout EMT school) and I'll be damned if I was gonna let somebody who goofs off benefit from MY hard work. 2nd reason being that I didn't want someone like that working on my loved ones b/c cheating doesn't help you LEARN the material...and if they don't know what t do when my mom or dad is having a heart attack, what good are they???

In the long run you are doing these people a HUGE favor by making them do the work on their own. It may make you unpopular at first, but they WILL get over it and, if they have any decency, they will come to respect you for it. Good job!!!

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Ciao , 08-03-2010 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Natasha1534
Good for you for deciding to stand up for yourself!!! When I was going through EMT school I would say about 1/2 of the class was serious about the class and the other 1/2 goofed off and wanted to cheat off other people's papers when it came time for tests. Finally, someone stepped up and reported that they had been letting one of our classmates cheat off of them. We had a LENGTHY lecture from our instructor advising us that if we got caught cheating or allowing someone to cheat off of us we would not only receive a failing grade but we would also be kicked out of the program completely and never allowed to return. He still put us in a larger room on test days and had at least one desk in between every student so we wouldn't be able to cheat. Wouldn't you know it...by the end of that semester we lost 1/3 of our class b/c they could no longer CHEAT their way through the tests!!!

Personally, I never let anybody cheat off of me for several reasons. 1 of those being that I worked really hard and studied my @$$ off to get my good grades (4.0 average all throughout EMT school) and I'll be damned if I was gonna let somebody who goofs off benefit from MY hard work. 2nd reason being that I didn't want someone like that working on my loved ones b/c cheating doesn't help you LEARN the material...and if they don't know what t do when my mom or dad is having a heart attack, what good are they???

In the long run you are doing these people a HUGE favor by making them do the work on their own. It may make you unpopular at first, but they WILL get over it and, if they have any decency, they will come to respect you for it. Good job!!!
You definitely have some very good points.
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love helping
people. I voluntarily help tutor 7th grader each
school year for the entire year. One girl I tutored
was a F/D average student and in just a month
became an A student because we worked very hard!

But sometimes I can be just a little TOO kind-hearted
and it ends up biting me in the butt. It's just another
thing I'm going to have to work on.

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Natasha1534 , 08-03-2010 03:58 AM

Quote:
Originally Posted by jemappellesierra
You definitely have some very good points.
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love helping
people. I voluntarily help tutor 7th grader each
school year for the entire year. One girl I tutored
was a F/D average student and in just a month
became an A student because we worked very hard!

But sometimes I can be just a little TOO kind-hearted
and it ends up biting me in the butt. It's just another
thing I'm going to have to work on.
Awwww, that's great!!! And see THAT is the kind of thing that is absolutely fine b/c she obviously WANTED to learn and wanted to try...she didn't just want someone to hand her the answers. It's no good going from point A to point B if you can't remember how you got there and how to get back, yanno??? Just remember to love yourself more than anybody else...that always helps me.

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gma22 , 08-04-2010 08:00 AM

You go girl! It is great to see you have achieved your goal and are moving forward. Stick to your guns, don't let them talk you into anything you don't want to do. It is always scary being a "new you" but you will be so much gladder when you are and you find that eventually they quit harrassing you. If you find they pull away when you refuse just remember that true friends would never have asked you to put yourself in that position in the first place! Stay Strong!!!

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Ciao , 08-04-2010 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by gma22
You go girl! It is great to see you have achieved your goal and are moving forward. Stick to your guns, don't let them talk you into anything you don't want to do. It is always scary being a "new you" but you will be so much gladder when you are and you find that eventually they quit harrassing you. If you find they pull away when you refuse just remember that true friends would never have asked you to put yourself in that position in the first place! Stay Strong!!!
Thank you.

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Haley8203 , 08-04-2010 12:28 PM

i know how you feel. i have some girls in my classes that text me late at night and ask what hw is due the next day..of course I don't want to be bothered so I started telling them I don't know I forget to write it down or not sure I haven't started it even if I have finished it and it slowed them down some from asking me. I don't like to lie but i'm not someone who will just say you need to start writing it down..makes me feel like i'm their mom, i already have a child i don't need another one lol but if someone asks me for my actual work i would def say that i don't believe in cheating sorry. good luck with everything!

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Ciao , 08-04-2010 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by haleygirl82
i know how you feel. i have some girls in my classes that text me late at night and ask what hw is due the next day..of course I don't want to be bothered so I started telling them I don't know I forget to write it down or not sure I haven't started it even if I have finished it and it slowed them down some from asking me. I don't like to lie but i'm not someone who will just say you need to start writing it down..makes me feel like i'm their mom, i already have a child i don't need another one lol but if someone asks me for my actual work i would def say that i don't believe in cheating sorry. good luck with everything!
Thanks!
I mean, c'mon, it's not like it's that hard to
take two minutes out of your social life to
write down the assignment. I don't know,
I just hear some of my friends saying they want
to go to great colleges, yet they can't do a
simple 10 problem homework assignment. It's
mind-bottling.

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#11

L144S , 08-04-2010 01:00 PM

Jem, you could say no, i won't share my work but i am available for tutoring at X an hour and I would love to help you out that way.

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#12

jigglefree , 08-04-2010 06:51 PM

I think you should tell them, if you have to work hard everyone has to work hard. If you are too nice about saying no some of them will keep asking until you give in...so just be firm and don't let anyone make you feel bad for saying no.

Work that GPA girl!!!

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Ciao , 08-05-2010 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by jigglefree
I think you should tell them, if you have to work hard everyone has to work hard. If you are too nice about saying no some of them will keep asking until you give in...so just be firm and don't let anyone make you feel bad for saying no.

Work that GPA girl!!!
Thanks! I've always been the "work
hard and everything will be worth it in the end"
type of girl. But some people these days are
just TOO lazy about stuff like this and it's
amazing that they still have the nerve to
say they want to go to a REALLY good college.
Who are you kidding?

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#14

woodgal1 , 08-05-2010 11:37 PM

I totally agree with Natasha. And I wanted to add that if a teacher realizes that they do not do work that good and figures out they must have copied someone, and they give the teacher your name...you will be the one who gets into trouble.

You are not doing them or yourself any favors.

You can be a nice person without being a doormat.
You can be a strong, confident woman without people who are not really "friends".

Who are you trying to impress?
Who are you trying to get to "like" you?
People who are dishonest cheaters? Are these the people you really want to be nice to? And friends with?

Do yourself a favor and find some new people to hang around with. These people are NOT your friends.

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Ciao , 08-11-2010 07:33 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by woodgal1
I totally agree with Natasha. And I wanted to add that if a teacher realizes that they do not do work that good and figures out they must have copied someone, and they give the teacher your name...you will be the one who gets into trouble.

You are not doing them or yourself any favors.

You can be a nice person without being a doormat.
You can be a strong, confident woman without people who are not really "friends".

Who are you trying to impress?
Who are you trying to get to "like" you?
People who are dishonest cheaters? Are these the people you really want to be nice to? And friends with?

Do yourself a favor and find some new people to hang around with. These people are NOT your friends.

Thank you!

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