Ok Leenie Weeinie, Chili Beanie.. I am going to tell you!
I am a calorie counter. I use dietwatch software to track my calories and I am allowed 1500 calories per day, balanced plan. I was given this calorie level by a registered dietitian who took into account my weight, my activity level as well as my age. I generally try to keep the fat level at 35-40 grams a day ( I am alloted 50). Of course, this lets me have more carbs and protiens. I generally eat more protein that I am alloted, so it all works out. I measure everything... a set of measuring spoons and measuring cups are always on my counter. I found what I *thought* was a serving, was actually closer to 1 1/2-2 servings. I bring home a pound of meat and immediately divide it into 4 sections, or if in a recipe I measure it out to the number of servings.
I exercise 5 days a week. Step aerobics for 40 minutes 3X a week and traditional low impact 2X a week. 3X a week I also work out with weights. Soon I plan on adding a daily abdominal routine, as this is my weak spot. I spend 40 minutes in the morning before I go to work doing the aerobics, and when I get home I do my 20 minutes of weight. I don't know how bad your knees and back are Leens, but I have bad bad knees as well as an ankle with 30% reduction in mobility. I cannot ever do high impact aerobics, because of that. You should ask your doctor about what you can and cannot do. If you are going to walk, that is terrific. I would recommend you get a walking video as well, because sometimes, it is either too hot or too cold.. or too something outside. This way you cannot make that excuse
I also drink around 80-90 ounces of water a day, as this keeps away most cravings. I do not keep "red light" foods in my house. I know that isn't always an option with married people, but I am sure Jim would be supportive if you talked to him about the need to keep certain things out.
I know this is hard and I know you feel overwhelmed. What helps is planning. Planning meals in advance takes a little time, but it will really help you.
I want to live a long long time. That is my motivation. After the report that came out stating obesity was harder on the body than smoking was, I knew I had to get going. This is for my health, not to fit into a bikini, or be thin for a reunion.
You know I am here for you Leens.