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Well the snow didn't hit us last night like they said, but it is creeping its way up to us. Tonight tomorrow and wednesday are suposed to be hairy out. Lots of snow and ice OY.
How was your weekend ? Mine was good, I spent all of it in my pajamas (poor hubby lol ).
So this week I am going to try not to eat after dinner, its gonna be tough but I gotta do it, its the only thing thats killing my diet efforts. Wish me luck lolol
I'm off to make some vanilla coffee and turkey bacon (sounds gross but its really good).
Good Morning Leenie! you have to tell me what Vanilla Coffee is? I may be missing something really good! Have you been snacking after supper? is that what ya mean? Since you're focusing on not eating after supper this week, I know you can do it!
Leenie, Joanne (oops I mean't JudoMom), & April - thanks for taking the time to respond to my pitiful post yesterday. I really appreciate your kind words and all your support. Just wanted to clarify one thing I said tho....Joanne you are right, I wasn't jealous of her hug, I was saying "ouch" bec I deal with the exact thing she was talking about. Whenever somebody touches me, especially hugs me (and especially poor dh) I am very self conscious and afraid they can feel my fat, or maybe it just that I can feel my fat when they hug me - I don't really know what it is but it's like when somebody hugs me a great big neon sign starts flashing in my head saying "fat fat I feel fat". sad by true.
It's just that I felt bombarded by running into so many people that had the WLS and like Leenie said, they were melting all around me. Glad for them, just sad for me!
But it was beautiful yesterday afternoon here, and got up to 70 degrees. I think tomorrow it is suppose to be below freezing again. It is crazy weather in Louisiana. But I did go walk outside for an hour with handweights, and then did 20 minutes of strength training on my exercise ball. So I tried to do something with all those negative, poor pitiful me feelings.
Well I've got a stack of paperwork that is calling my name, and need to go tend to my grandmother at noon. I will check back later.
Thanks for being here and understanding me - even when I make no sense!
Cathy hang in there.....nice to hear you share.....it is nice when we can let our guard down and be real.
I have been working quite a lot and spending lots of time with the family in the evenings and weekends.....I have been really trying to slow down.....these past few years have gone by too quickly and my goal is to slow down and be available to my children even if it just means I am home making a batch of cookies or laying on the couch to read a book together. It has been really nice.
Cathy I understand how you are feeling. Some of these people that get the surgury do really well and then others don't even make it out of the hospital. Have you ever gone to a nutritionist? Maybe they culd help you talor something to you as an inidvidual.
Liz so good to see you dropping in again.
Leen I had a problem this weekend with snacking after dinner. I was doing so good and then it just hit me. I think I might eat my pudding right after dinner so I will have it in my system. I wonder if that will help with the snack monster.
It is really cold here today.....-27C or +2F..brrr. I have to go for an upper lip wax in an hour.....but other than that.....I think I will just curl up in front of the fireplace.
DS3, his GF & her DS came over for dinner yesterday....they brought their dog....Jasper....they were playing a lot....so this morning....our dog....Charlie is real tired out.
Liz.....the time when your kids are young & at home flies by so fast....enjoy the time you spend with them.....before you know it....they will be grown & onto their own lives.
Location: Down in the dumps..but working my way out!
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Hi Ladies
First of all, welcome to Candy ! I'm glad you decided to come back here-please stay in touch.
Leenie: Glad you're back! Hope your weekend was nice and relaxing.
April: Throw another log on the fire & sit back & enjoy !
Liz: I'm glad to hear you've been able to spend more time with your family. Being there just to do simple things is what your children will remember best.
Kemp: Have you set a goal to stop eating by a certain time each day? Maybe saving a snack/dessert for later at night will help.
Cathy: I didn't think I'd posted this weekend. I read your post, and I understand how you're feeling It seems like everytime you turn on the t.v. there's another show about WLS-and everyone is doing great! Very little is told about the possiblity of complications and even death as a result of the surgery. A girl who was in another weight loss group with me had WLS this past summer. She's doing great, but she makes no secret that it hasn't been easy. She's had to learn how to eat all over again (chewing food thoroughly, taking at least half an hour to eat, etc). WLS isn't a miracle cure, and it's not for everyone. I've thought about it too, but I realize that the surgery won't change the reasons why I overeat. Please don't let it get you down. Keep coming here and sharing, and don't give up on yourself!
Please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers. Things are still not good with our son, and we're praying about what to do next.
Well Joanne, you didn't think you posted this weekend bec you didn't! Sorry about that, it was JudoMom that posted and I called her by your name. But I appreciate your sweet thoughts and encouragement too! I will definitely keep praying for you and your family! I know it is so difficult trying to know how to handle teenagers at times. Please let us know how things are going.
Hey Liz - glad to hear you've been able to slow down with your kids! Time goes way too fast, especially when they are little!
Hey Kemp - how was your weekend? how is school? I saw a nutrionist many many moons ago, but that was back back in the day of phen fen and they had me on that too. Maybe I should think about checking with a nutrionist. Sometimes I think I am a nutrionist bec of everything I have read and access to all the info on the internet, but of course, I am not a nutrionist and maybe somebody could see something that I don't. I am seeing a very good doc right now about my thyroid so maybe he will have some different ideas when I go back, but you know how that goes, they usually just hand you the American Dietetic/Heart or Diabetes Association's diet or guide book and send you on your merry way, thinking that if you followed any decent plan that surely you would lose weight.
April - that is COLD! I've never had an upper lip wax (or anything else for that matter)....does it hurt? I think my sis recently had a "sugar peel" to remove the little bitty blonde hairs on the side of her face, but she says the problem with that is that you have to keep doing it.
Ok guys, I am sorry I have to jump in here. Please, please, please don't get upset with me for this. You really shouldn't be waxing but if you have to you have got to avoid the peach fuzz hairs. Cathy you might want to pass this one along. Anytime you pull out a vellus hair (the baby fine ones) the pulling ancourages the follicle to grow deeper and faster. Actually this goes for all hair follicles. So, whenever you remove those fine ones that have never darken you are forcing them to turn into terminal (or darker) hairs. Once they have gotten to that stage there is no turning back from the waxing. It is just going to turn into a problem area that could have been fixed if they had never been pulled. I understand that some people only have the option of waxing and tweezing but I hope I can help them to not turn a non-existant situation into a big problem. I have been learning so much at school I just want to share it with everyone. Sorry and again please don't get mad at me for this.
Hello to yall.What have you been up to?This weekend I relaxed and cleaned...Today is WI; so I wondering how me and dh are doing? I will have to let ya know i guess when we get home tonight.
Ok guys, I am sorry I have to jump in here. Please, please, please don't get upset with me for this. You really shouldn't be waxing but if you have to you have got to avoid the peach fuzz hairs. Cathy you might want to pass this one along. Anytime you pull out a vellus hair (the baby fine ones) the pulling ancourages the follicle to grow deeper and faster. Actually this goes for all hair follicles. So, whenever you remove those fine ones that have never darken you are forcing them to turn into terminal (or darker) hairs. Once they have gotten to that stage there is no turning back from the waxing. It is just going to turn into a problem area that could have been fixed if they had never been pulled. I understand that some people only have the option of waxing and tweezing but I hope I can help them to not turn a non-existant situation into a big problem. I have been learning so much at school I just want to share it with everyone. Sorry and again please don't get mad at me for this.
i already waxed my eyebrows once and when i let them go they look like they are aliveeeee... I wanted Michelle Pfiefer eyebrows....No worries hun
I have to say something about WLS. I had it in January 2001. Life isn't so simple. I weighed 400. I got down to about 200 after 2 1/2 years, which I am thrilled with. But...my dieting life is not over. I have gained almost 20 pounds in the past few months. I am joining WW. Just because I had surgery doesn't mean the real eating disorders are gone. I still eat when I am depressed, I eat when I'm bored, etc. I haven't learned new eating habits just because I had surgery.
You see the pics of all the success stories on WLS and I think it is warranted in alot of cases. I mean I was literally killing myself, but I also think that if you aren't grossly overweight like that, that just learning how to eat right and exercise more is the way to go. WLS is serious surgery. You are undergoing something that could in some cases kill you. So it is something you have to think hard and heavy on before you go there.
I am not sorry I had it. I think it saved my life. I do know that it is not as simple as just that. I may have a smaller stomach and I may never weigh 400 pounds again, but I can still weigh way too much if I don't get my head together and my eating under control. That has always been the main issue with weight loss.
I am join WW this evening to help me get on track and stop the snacking!! And Leenie, especially the after dinner snacking!! I am soooo bad about that.
I weighed in tonight and bought all the stuff for WW. 228.6. Ugh. I have gained 22 pounds since October!!!
Then, I get home. I call my sister and she tells me she just found all my old WW stuff. You know the black carryall, the points calculator and such. Of course I just bought a new one. I told her I'll get the points calculator though and use it.
Then to top off everything, I took a home pregnancy test and it is POSITIVE!!!!! I am soooo excited. We have been trying for a few months so I was hoping. However, I have heard that WW won't let you stay if they know you are pg, so I think I will wait till I have all my weekly materials and then stop going.
Anyway, if I really am pregnant, I will talk to my doc and see if it is okay to continue WW. I need the structure. Even if I add a few points just to maintain instead of getting that pregnancy eating thing going!!!
I did better with my eating plan today. Cathy.....I forgot to turn on the gas fireplace this afternoon.....when I had a 1 1/2 hour nap.....but will tonight.
I have been having waxing for 20 years Kem.....as one gets older....the hairs on the upper lip, under the chin....even on the lower part of the face get darker.....I don't want that.
Cathy....the upper lip wax does hurt....I take a deep breath jus before she pulls on the cloth to take the hairs off.
I used to have electrolysis on the upper lip until 9 years ago....I had surgery to have my thyroid gland removed for cancer of the thyroid....after that....I read a book on the thyroid.....that if you were ever burned by electrolysis....it could cause cancer of the thyroid....so I never had electolysis again.
Davoswoman....congratulations....if you are pregnant.
Lynnie......great....on your 4 lbs. lost!!!!!!!!!!!!
Homebound....I will keep you & your family in my prayers.
Liz.....my kids are all grown up now.....3 or 4 years ago....1 of my DSs....said something to me....one of the things he remembered from when he was a kid.....was when either DH or I read to them every night before they went to bed at night....it's the little things they remember.
Monday Chat - January 26th
Hi Ladies
! I'm glad you decided to come back here-please stay in touch.
Glad you're back! Hope your weekend was nice and relaxing.
I didn't think I'd posted this weekend. I read your post, and I understand how you're feeling 
It seems like everytime you turn on the t.v. there's another show about WLS-and everyone is doing great! Very little is told about the possiblity of complications and even death as a result of the surgery. A girl who was in another weight loss group with me had WLS this past summer. She's doing great, but she makes no secret that it hasn't been easy. She's had to learn how to eat all over again (chewing food thoroughly, taking at least half an hour to eat, etc). WLS isn't a miracle cure, and it's not for everyone. I've thought about it too, but I realize that the surgery won't change the reasons why I overeat. Please don't let it get you down. Keep coming here and sharing, and don't give up on yourself!
