i've been doing really really bad lately. Just eating nonstop junkfood, fast food, not having any self control Just alot of stress going on has caused me to be horrible.
I am going to a family members wedding on the 20th of this month. And it has been a huge stressful nightmare for me.
I want to wear something nice, my mother in law showed me her dress and it is very nice. I went shopping to every store near me and they had almost nothing in my size that looked good or was nice. I also looked some online & found nothing I loved & am very worried about correct sizing.
I finally settled on a really nice black blouse & some black dress pants. And got some super cute black shoes.
I was feeling fairly good about it, thought I looked good but now I am second guessing myself and am freaking out that I am going to be wearing all black like some emo chick. it doesn't help that I dyed my hair black as a complete coincidence.
Idk what to do. I am so stressed I don't want to even go, but I have to. And I know its not about me, its not my wedding but I have severe anxiety & I know gossipy people will talk about me.
Pants at a wedding? Is this a very casual event like a barbecue or something? All black is fine, if it's in the winter and it's a gown then yes it's fine. But summer? You may feel out of place.
I've found wonderful plus size gowns at Macy's, Lord & Taylor and Nordstroms. Have fun shopping!
Perhaps you could wear it with white accessories? A chunky necklace, belt and purse? I don't know....I do think a bit of color could make it work. I hope you figure it out but go and have fun! People mostly care about how they look and they don't give too much thought to what someone else is wearing.
Not to add to your stress but yeah...all black at a wedding would be unusual. I would find a different colored top myself, especially with black hair.
Agreed. Wearing funeral colors to a wedding may hurt your hosts' feelings. If you don't care about their feelings, decline the invite. If you do, don't wear black to a wedding.
Wearing black just guarantees that people will be talking about you and either saying your parents were horrid or how badly they feel for your parents, since they know your parents raised you right and there you are, not giving a hoot about other people's feelings and being purposefully offensive.
You have a week and a half to go. Put down the junk food, try to get back into your groove, and I bet your self esteem will go up. THEN try on your outfit again and see how you feel. And if you don't like it, try shopping again. Going shopping when you are feeling down with yourself never ends well!
Black at a wedding isn't really a big deal these days, especially paired with colorful accessories. (No one really wears black to funerals anymore, either!)
I would definitely add some colour to an all black outfit for a wedding, but not because you aren't gorgeous in it. It's just one of those weird social things!
You are going to rock whatever you wear there, trust me! Sounds to me more like you're disappointed in yourself so it makes you feel unpretty no matter what you wear. Ignore these feelings... Feel them for a day if you have to then throw them out the window and get back on the horse. I think you'll feel better about yourself just being back on a better eating plan. Play with your hair, buy a new pair of cute shoes, find something you love about yourself
Some wedding dresses today are black. I don't think black is a forbidden color at a wedding anymore. White is, since most wedding dresses are still white, but black isn't. It's considered chic. Why not just get a summer scarf with some lighter, brighter colors in it and pair it will a purse with the same color and you'll be fine. There are all kinds of tutorials on YouTube for how to tie scarves in different ways so you can find a style you like and feel comfortable wearing. Eyes are going to be on the bride, not you. Don't stress about it.
You have a week and a half to go. Put down the junk food, try to get back into your groove, and I bet your self esteem will go up. THEN try on your outfit again and see how you feel. And if you don't like it, try shopping again. Going shopping when you are feeling down with yourself never ends well!
I agree! Especially since in the first 2 weeks of weight loss, pounds and inches generally drops off a little quicker since a lot of it is water weight from the high sodium in most processed junk food. I've lost 12.5 pounds in the last 2.5 weeks without crash dieting, just healthy eating, moderate exercise, and cutting back on the junk food. But the things that's changed the most isn't my weight, it's my confidence. I feel better in my clothes. I think part of your second guessing is that you feel that you've lost control and that's a pretty easy fix.
I also agree with adding a pop of color to your outfit. Either in the top or jewelry. Black at wedding are okay in the cooler months but it tends to clash a bit in the summer.
Last edited by LovelyLeah; 06-10-2015 at 03:19 PM.
I too hate gossipy people, and get cranky and anxious when I have to spend much time with them. I'm working on not giving a flying f***, but that's going slowly.
Maybe try ordering something you like online in a couple sizes if you're unsure, and then returning whatever doesn't fit. That's what my friend does (she's skinny but lazy about clothes shoping ).
I also disagree with the idea that wearing black to a wedding is inappropriate. It's totally appropriate! I've never heard of avoiding it for a wedding. However, since it's summer, I do think accessories/shoes/hair pieces, etc. with bright color may make your outfit more "summery." But other than that, I say if you like your outfit, wear it.
If there's anything you're looking forward to at the wedding (dancing, open bar, seeing a friend, etc.), I'd focus on that. Sometimes that helps.
Some thrift shops, or rummage sales have nice clothes and you won't have to pay alot if you want a different outfit. I found a nice dress at a thrift shop for my nephew's wedding as I was losing weight. Have A Nice time at the Wedding.
Venting, clothes shopping stress
Just alot of stress going on has caused me to be horrible.
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