Ever had people tell you that they prefer you with extra weight………….?
Last winter I became sedentary and my weight went up to 150lbs.I coudn`t fit into my skinny jeans anymore so I decided to start tracking my calories and exercising.</p>
<p>I am down to 120 lbs….and I am 5`3 .I now exercise regularly and watch my portion sizes to maintain my weight.
I feel great but today and I can fit into jeans again. However, I had one lady at work ask me if I don’t eat anymore. I told her that I do and then she asked if I am on a diet .I told her that I just watch my portion exercise and get regular exercise.
The other lady who is bigger than me stepped in told me that I am too skinny and I need some meat.
Later on I showed this other co worker old pictures of me when I was at my heaviest and she told me that she prefers me with extra weight on and the other ones agree with her.
the thing is ,I like myself better when I am lighter and my clothes now fit better. When ever put on extra weight, some of it goes into my inner thighs and they rub against each other when walk….which is uncomfortable. I avoided wearing dresses and shorts. Even running was uncomfortable. I am not going to gain weight because of others opinions but just looking for some insight
Here are before and after pics . As you can see they are the same outfits and the dresses fit better in the after pictures.Just looking for some opinions
I think you look great in all your pics, but you feel better thinner, physically and mentally, so there's no question that you should keep yourself thinner. As far as whether you look "better" at a heavier or thinner weight, you will always run into people who find women with more weight more attractive and people who find women with less weight more attractive. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder, and I really do think your figure is beautiful both ways! All that matters though is what YOU think and how YOU feel!
Since you asked for an opinion I can tell you I prefer the heavier pictures. I think women are more beautiful when they are on the curvy side. Men too. That's just my personal preference of what I find attractive. But that has no baring on what someone else should weigh. I prefer men with dark hair, that doesn't mean that every man I know should dye their hair.
There is beauty in everyone and nobody should impose their own preferences on others. Unless they're asked people should just keep their opinions to themselves. Don't let it get to you, you know how your body wants to feel and it sounds like you're maintaining that in a healthy way. You're not too skinny for your height and you don't have to justify the decisions you make about your body. You're beautiful either way!
What nosy people! Weight does not equal looks. I am trying to lose weight right now, but not because I thought I didn't look good enough when fat - I was ok with being fat looks-wise. But like you, I want the comforts of being on the lighter side back. We have every right to aim for that.
I guess it might just be that those people felt bad about their own bodies and took it on you. This fat-hating culture seems to play that trick on people, unfortunately.
my boyfriend always says "don't get too skinny" and it kind of bothers me. I honestly don't want to be under 150 as I like myself with a little meat but someone else saying it is weird
Telly, people are jerks and like to insert their opinions unsolicited all the time. I think both before and after are beautiful. For myself, I think I would like myself a bit curvier as in the first picture, but if that made you feel uncomfortable or you knew that you were less healthy than of course, you get to what make you feel comfortable. I am all for people being whatever size of thinness that they want to be as long as they are getting the recommended amount of daily calories and are not becoming anorexic or purging. I imagine that the women that were talking to you were not just "bigger than" you but much bigger than you. Sometimes people that aren't happy with their own appearance want to put down others about theirs. The office feeder is always the one that wants to sabotage everybody else's healthy eating habits to justify what they are putting in their mouth. Both sizes on you are beautiful. Be the size that makes you happy as long as you're healthy
Yes, I have. Don't let it throw you. Be the weight you feel your best at, not what other people think is 'right' or 'prettier.' Do what you need and what you want.
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Originally Posted by pigeon
...not because I thought I didn't look good enough when fat - I was ok with being fat looks-wise. But like you, I want the comforts of being on the lighter side back.
This! Absolutely this! I was never horribly upset with how I looked obese; though I didn't love it, I wasn't upset by it. It was how I FELT in my body that drove me to lose weight. And it's mainly what drives me to lose weight now.
Yes, i lost 100 lbs and i am older so yes, i've had several people tell me i "need to stop", i look sick, etc. and it REALLY hurt my feelings. To finally look and feel good about myself after decades and then to be told that?
I know that people always say older people look best with fat on their bones but for MY face to fill out, i'd have to gain at least 15 lbs and i do not feel good when i am even a few lbs over, because i don't gain it in the right places, most of it goes to my stomach (where a lot of loose skin is) and upper thighs where, again, loose skin is. I've come to the conclusion that what *I* feel about me is the most important, no one has to live in this skin but me
Also your co workers and family will get used to it and the comments will eventually cease. Also *I* prefer your after pics, you look great
At 5'3", 120 pounds is not too thin. I think you look healthier, firmer and in better shape at the lower weight...athletic. Main thing is, if you feel better at the lower weight then that's what matters.
I don't actually see that much of a difference between the two XD I think it's just the quality of the photos in comparison, the "heavier" photos are more grainy so it's harder to tell. I honestly like the pictures you pose in more, cause you just seem more confident and happy in them. So be whatever weight makes you feel like that
Telly986: for a minute there I thought I was on a different website, looks like we both frequent the same forums!!
I think you look AMAZING in your after pics. Congrats! Yes, I've had probably one or two people make those comments and to be completely honest I think it's because some people just are opinionated and like chubbier bodies and associate that with healthier. I think it's a bit rude to call out someone like that, what if it was the other way around? I've had older relatives (like moms, aunts) tell me to eat more or that I'm getting too skinny, but I think its because chubby or rounded was the norm and they aren't used to it. I roll my eyes and keep going cause deep down--it's how YOU feel and that's all that matters! Sorry in advance for any ramblings or errors --I'm on iPhone and this site isn't too mobile-friendly.
I think you look good in both, but I have to say you look amazing in the after. Toned and confident. I would never take you for "too skinny" in the after. What makes you happy and healthy in your world is what matters most .
I would love to have an after pic like you, I just don't have that slim build :/.
Ever had people tell you that they prefer you with extra weight………….?
