I've been so off track for the past few months. I don;t know what happened...I still exercise but it seems I can't control my eating...
The past few weeks ive been depressed and HATING my body...if I wouldve stayed on track i'd be alot smaller by now...I so wanted to wear cute clothes for summer! And all the sudden, I keep telling myself, even if I lose weight, I'll still have a nasty stomach, fat hanging over my pants...because right now my legs are skinny, but my stomach and arms are huge...I just feel like theres no point...i did great for 5 months and I dont know how to get back on track!!
I am exactly the same at the mo. Heres a few ideas that kept me going:
- Just think of why you decided you wanted to lose weight in the first place.. Was it for your children? Your health?
- Write down a list of your accomplishments so far. Fitting into a smaller size etc
- And you say your legs are skinny, show them off!! I wish I had nice legs, haha my entire body is just flab. :P
- Another thing that has kept me motivated is having a big water container filled with water equivalent to how much I have lost and every time I want to give up I go pick it up and walk around with it.
I have been wanting to start a thread just like this.. there has been a lot of stress for me and I def have been binging.. not just over eating but like full blown eat a bunch uncontrollably binges. My ticker and my avatar are lying to everyone, I have actually gained probably 3-5 lbs that i had lost.
I guess I'm confused on why people get off track when they are depressed and hate the way they look. For me depression and hating the way I looked only gave me more incentive to try harder and work more...
You should never hate yourself because its not physically or mentally healthy. You might want to consider talking to a a friend or professional. Good luck on meeting your goals.
I understand the hating your looks but shouldn't that make you more motiviated? If you hate something how do you change it? Eating more will not change what you hate but make you hate what you hate even more. It's just something I don't grasp. Again if you feel that bad you need to talk with someone.
I understand the hating your looks but shouldn't that make you more motiviated? If you hate something how do you change it? Eating more will not change what you hate but make you hate what you hate even more. It's just something I don't grasp. Again if you feel that bad you need to talk with someone.
Good luck.
Most women feel that way at some point or another, she doesn't need to "talk" to someone - but you don't like what you see, and you get somewhat depressed - and that usually leads to more emotional eating, and its a vicious cycle.
As Val said - hormones play a big part in it. You don't understand what we go through on a hormonal level, because I'm assuming you don't have ovaries.
She's taking a big step right here and recognizing that she feels a certain way (KUDOS!!) - that's the first step to stopping it, as many of us have realized. And if you read, she said she doesn't like it, but she doesn't know how to get back on track - that's why she posted, for help and support.
Last edited by stellarosa27; 04-19-2010 at 09:22 PM.
I have been off track for the past few months as well. After losing about 40lbs i been slacking off i need to try ...no I NEED TOO get back on track! I want to look good and feel good in the summer time as well and if i keep on slacking and going on and off and not sticking with this new healthy lifestyle I will never make it to my goal. It seems like i am settling at 175 and I don't want to settle I want to keep going and I just need to find what made me lose that 40lbs to keep going strong and finish this mission
I feel you! I have been doing this off and on since I started. Do really great, then just totally screw up. I eat when I am depressed too... which sucks. But there is a point to doing what you are doing. To get healthy and then lose weight in the process.
My health is one of the main reasons I am doing this and I keep forgetting that fact. Your post has helped me to remember that
I agree with the hormones vote. benchmarkman, in all fairness I see the reasoning in your comment, but many people preform self destructive behaviors or reasons they dont know. Why do some people continue to charge on a credit card when they know it will only bring them deeper in debt? Just dont know what to do or feel overwhelmed etc..stress, hormones, etc can be very influential in the human psych.
As for myself, today I gained some motivation back.. I got two books at Walden's the other day from the Eat This Not That series..I got the restaurant one and the general food guide.. OMGosh! I was WAY surprised to see how horridly i have been eating and -used- to eat years ago.There was one fact about an Applebee's orange chicken bowl that i used to LOVE.. and it had over 4,000 mg of sodium in it and and almost an entire days worth of calories! WOW talk about reality check!
Last edited by Phoenix301; 04-19-2010 at 11:50 PM.
Thank you for stellarosa and the others that understand me! Im not depressed like in a suicidal way or anything lol...i just feel that even if i lose weight ill still have a fat stomache...its like when your feeling dowm or emotional u start binging and eating alot..thats what I meant...and for a while I couldn't control it...but the past 2 days i've changed my attitude and been eating healthy/working out and I feel great and loosing....just wish the emotional times would never come back! Thank You all!!
I understand how you feel--sometimes you feel let down no matter how hard you try and no matter how much success you've had, like its not gonna matter anyway--but just keep going anyway, you'll feel better that you did!
And by the way, I wish my legs were skinny! They have gotten a bit better but my legs are my "problem area". To be more specific I have curtains of fat along my inner thigh, its pretty bad. Its always hard to find jeans that fit me, because my waist is relatively small and my legs are HUGE. So I always have to get a bigger size to accomodate. Dont even get me talking on bathing suits--a person with a flabby tummy can at least try to hide it with control panel bathing suit...my flabby legs will always be exposed while swimming!
Chipmunk Cheeks- Were the same starting weight! I can't wait to be where you are!! Oh bathing suits...you'll never ever catch me in one....lol ever....i swim in short shorts and a tank top!
I hear ya. I gained about 30 pounds before I finally hit the point where I finally was able to get out of my funk, and now I'm back down 4 pounds, but still a ways to go! I wish I had something constructive to say like 'oh, to get motivated just do this, eat this and bam! you'll be ready to eat right and exercise a bunch and be happy doing it', for me I don't know...I just sort of realized that I wanted it, even if it was hard and even if it was going to take time. I'll never be a swimsuit model, but I want to be able to grab something out of my closet and toss it on, and not have to think 'is this giving me a muffin top? does this bra squeeze my back fat? are these sleeves making my arms look chunky?' or whatever.
Any one else?
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