[peach pit]

Brain pickers!!!

L and Sooner, I figured I would just post them and people can take 'em or leave 'em!

1 Am i doing what I want to do with my career-- or am I doing what's easy and comfortable?

2 What would I consider my ideal job or vocation?

3 What's my greatest triumph in life so far?

4 What is my most precious unrealized dream?

5 Do I have a secret ambition?

6 Who in my life has had the most profound influence on me?

7 How do I want to live?

8 What's the biggest dissappointment or trauma in my life so far and how has it helped shaped me?

9 What do I fear most in life?

10 What would I do if my worst fear actually happened?

11 What makes me feel most competent in my life?

12 What special ingredient seems to be missing in my life?

13 Where do I pour most of my time and energy?

14 If I didn't have to work, how would I choose to spend my time?

15 What activity makes me feel happiest and most fulfilled?

16 How would I describe the ideal marriage?

17 How would I most like people to remember me after I am gone?

18 What would I most like to change about myself?

19 How would I describe my philosophy of life? Am I following it?

20 If I could rewrite one part of my history, what would it be?


Taken from "Reinventing Yourself with the Duchess of York" Sarah, The Duchess of York and Weight Watchers

happy picking!

peach

[noranoranora]

I'm reading that ritght now, too, Peach pit. I'm also reading "Simple Abundance". I really like the "Gratitude+Simplicity+Order=Harmony". Those are good words for me and my messy house.

[Sooner or Later]

Thanks for posting this, Peach!

I'm going to print it out and use it for guided journalling. I also have a question/thought provoker that I came across a few years ago -- about the same time I started going through the "what am I gonna be when I grow up?" stuff (Morning, Chickadee! I've thought about you a lot since you posted that note a few days ago!). The assignment was to write down 50 things you want to do before you die. It was a great exercise for me because in doing the kid/husband/house thing full time -- I was losing parts of myself w/out even knowing it. I knew what my family's passions were -- but when someone would ask me what I personally was passionate about -- I would draw a blank. It was a little unnerving to realize how out of touch I had become w/who I was...and then more than a little frightening to begin reclaiming myself. But -- I'm so glad I started on the journey -- stepping out of my comfort zone is one of the best things I can do for myself.

Nora -- I love that equation! Can you tell me who wrote Simple Abundance? Thanks!

[jiffypop]

you're all way too introspective for me at this hour of the morning!!! i'll try to write something more useful later.

directed journaling is appealing... great idea!!!!

[Leenie]

This is cool ! Thanks Peach !!!!!!

1 Am i doing what I want to do with my career-- or am I doing what's easy and comfortable-
Well its not easy or comfortable its practical and stable.

2 What would I consider my ideal job or vocation?
Ideal Job is to be a Chef -

3 What's my greatest triumph in life so far? - The Person I've Become, also my Daughter and my job. I've worked very hard at all of them and I'm proud of where I am today.

4 What is my most precious unrealized dream? Having my family.

5 Do I have a secret ambition? Well its no secret, I would love to be thin.

6 Who in my life has had the most profound influence on me? My Sisters and My Hubby.

7 How do I want to live? I want to be more Christ like, also Happy and Healthy

8 What's the biggest dissappointment or trauma in my life so far and how has it helped shaped me? Trauma....okay now !
My Father passing at 54, my Brother passing at 34, my Sister passing at 45 and I had a miscarriage. All of this has made me a more sensitive person twards others. It's a very humbling experience. It made me realize that God is really there for us.

9 What do I fear most in life? - Losing anyone in my family.

10 What would I do if my worst fear actually happened? - Turn to Jesus, there's nothing else one can do.

11 What makes me feel most competent in my life? - Helping my family.

12 What special ingredient seems to be missing in my life? The need to feel good about myself....my outer immage not my inner.

13 Where do I pour most of my time and energy? My daughter.

14 If I didn't have to work, how would I choose to spend my time? Taking care of my family and then volunteering work.

15 What activity makes me feel happiest and most fulfilled? Cooking, being outside in the sun and shopping

16 How would I describe the ideal marriage? In my opinion, I have the ideal marriage, I love my hubby very much, we both respect each other greatly, we love the same things and are soul mates.

17 How would I most like people to remember me after I am gone? A good person.

18 What would I most like to change about myself? Thats easy...my weight.

19 How would I describe my philosophy of life? Am I following it? Love for today because there may be no tomorrow...and yes I am following it.

20 If I could rewrite one part of my history, what would it be? I wouldn't, every part has made me the person I am today so I wouldn't change a thing....God is Good !

Love, Leens

[Chickadee]

Great list Peach, except I keep thinking nose pick instead of brain pick!

I think I better print this list out and use it to do some private journaling too. It's interesting to me how much my initial answers differ from what they would have been when I was in my twenties and thirties. Hmmm, maybe we all need to accept that we are flexible, ever-changing souls. Maybe the core of ourselves is in the answers that don't change with age and circumstance. Maybe those absolutes are who we are and what we want to become. I don't know.

Cherie - I like the idea of writing down 50 things you want to do before you die. I imagine my list will start out pretty frivolously and get pretty serious by the end. I also like the idea of reclaiming myself, except that it makes me think of mine reclamation. Hopefully what's underneath the surface isn't all tapped out like some used-up gold mine. I don't think it is!

Chickadee

[L144S]

Thank you peachy,
I am on this, but it is a busy day......and too late to think this deep

-L

[Sooner or Later]

What about taking these questions one at a time -- one week at time -- and posting them as topics for any who would like to comment? I think it would be interesting (and helpful) to hear what turns and churns in all our crazy little brains on these subjects...

Just a thought...

[peach pit]

Sounds good to me Sooner! I understand that some may want to do this in private but for me I think I need to be booted into doing it and one at a time is a manageable chunk (I think!) for me to work at! While sitting in the drs office today i picked up a magazine hmmmmmm spirituality and health (?) and a phrase popped out at me about feeding your soul instead of you face (or something like that...I am sure it waxed much more poetically

peach

[Leenie]

WOW I'm the only one that spilled her guts


Leens

[peach pit]

Oh! sweetie Leens...it just takes me a long time to open the incision!!!!!!

[L144S]

I think I could manage one at a time..... that would be good for me, and afterall that is what it is all about right? lol
-L

[Leenie]

Peachy, my wounds never closed so its very easy for me to spill my guts.

Oh Gosh WCBS radio has a song on by Glen Campbell and I know it........boy do I feel old lol


TTYL, Love Leens