hey again singles! glad to see people posting! just when i think i might catch my breath the world starts spinning again. to make a long story short for the new singles, my parents gave me their house (bless them!). it was in the plans for the future (like in 10 years), however they decided to do it now. the problem is i just bought my own house a little more than a year ago. so now between my 2 jobs, appts, etc... i am selling my house and remodeling the basement of the other house. now some friends of mine are going to move in for a bit because they sold their house and their new place fell thru. now they have to start looking for a new one again. did i say i was going to make this story short???

as for my exercise, that went 3 sheets to the wind. i plain old just don't have time right now. i will be happy when this all settles down and i can get back to normal. however, i am trying to eat better so at least i am making an attempt. i told my mom just tonite that when this does settle down, i am going to take some time to focus on myself.

i also agree on that cooking for one business. i get sooo tired of eating the same thing for a week. what is a single girl to do??

well, i have to get some sleep. i forgot to add working 2 - 12 hour days at my full time job this week. have a good friday!!
kathy

Hi everyone. Just checking in. Weigh in went well, am down another 4 pounds for a total of 19 this round. Things are going too well and I'm getting nervous that it's going to come to a crashing halt, but I'm going to ride this train for as far as it goes!

Debbie, I read your post about it being hard to do the right thing and all the attempts and the failures. I am so with you there.(Be prepared I'm going up on my I have started hundreds, if not thousands of diets and sometimes I think "what the **** are you wasting your time for. This one won't work anymore than all the others." But I know if I don't try, as may as well whither up and die because this is not a way to live. I have almost 200lbs to lose and I have only lost 19, but already I feel stronger and more confident and noticed in the 5 weeks since I have started that I am less negative and less depressed. Just take small steps towards the goal. Don't try to do it all at once and for God's sake, don't beat yourself up. And coming from me, this is borderline hypocritical because I have been exactly where you are now. One of my favorite quotes that I have posted a couple different places at home and office is from Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in--forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day--begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

corningkat - I get tired just reading all you have going on. Please carve out some time somewhere or you'll get sick - and that's NOT the preferred weightloss method! And at the Back specialist - you go Monday, right?

Sorry so long and rambling...that's just how I am. My dad used to call it diarrhea of the mouth...Have a good weekend and stay strong!

hello! how is everyone this monday! another start to a busy week. i only have to work my part time job weekends from now on so that frees up some time during the week to get all the other stuff done.

janet - i am sorry i am tiring you out! i would think this was enough exercise for everyone here! thank you for being conerned about getting sick. i try to get enough sleep to fend that off. congrats on your 19lbs gone forever!!! that is great!! you are off to a good running start, just don't look back. i like that quote you posted, it is very true, but somtimes not so easy to practice.

i went to the back dr. today, and i have to go for a cortizone shot on oct. 19th to start. i am having a bigger problem with my knee. don't know from what exactly, but it is as big as a balloon. he gave me a cortizone shot for the knee today in the office and sent me for an xray. hopefully, i'll know what is wrong with that in a couple days. i'm having a tough time with all these aches and pains pschologically too. i'll be 39 on wednesday and i think a lot of this has to do with my weight and how tough a time i'm having losing it. (that slowed metabolism thing) i also noticed a few grays up top. so it is hitting me all at once.

well, i have to get ready for work. i hope everyone has a great week!
kathy

p.s. i just love this fall weather, it is my favorite season!

Hello to all, I hope your week is off to a great start and humpday goes very smoothly. I just have a minute and wanted to drop in to claim I'm still here and still want to be part of this group. I check in and read most every day but have not had much time to write back lately. Was out of town over the weekend and it just been busy busy since. I have more to say in a longer post later about my goals and progress but I was eager to say here that I appreciate your quote Janet, the Emerson one about forgetting about the mistakes of yesterday and move on. Boy did that help me and this week has been better for it. I appreciate this board so much and even tho I've not posted much lately...I feel strength during the day knowing there are singles here to connect to and lend support for our particular struggles and triumphs in the weight loss journey. I don't feel so all alone anymore in this. Even much more so than when I posted frequently on other boards where most of the women were married. I feel connected to this group with that one big thing in common and that is so good to me!

Ok, hopefully I can write more tonight...I do wanna share some goals and I am having a good exercise week..I sure hope it lasts!

Have a great day all!

I've been very busy (vacation coming up on Saturday) so I haven't had much time to post. I did get recommitted to exercise, thankfully, starting last week, despite the fact that my DVD player died on the very first day I was trying to get back on track! ACK! I pulled out some old VHS tapes (anyone here old enough to remember Sweatin' to the Oldies? hehe) and kept on with the program! I bought a new DVD player Monday and installed it last night so I'm back to the land of the current workout DVDs. WHEW!

In fact, I tried a new one this morning that is a combo of cardio, weights, Pilates and yoga. Not sure if I'm going to like it yet but it sure is different! THe cardio is dance moves vs. usual aerobic class kind of stuff and you don't get much time to learn the steps before they are off and running!

I am going to Atlantis Resort in the Bahamas on Saturday for my birthday (which is Sunday) and will be with people who do not watch their eating or weight nor do they exercise, so it will be a challenge! Hopefully, I can make good choices MOST of the time and not gain much weight. It's TOO hard for me to get it off at this age, so not worth going hog wild on vacation!

Hope you all have a good week or so.

sheriava - can i fit into your suitcase?? i hope you enjoy your wonderful vacation! see, if i was in your shoes and can go on that kind of vacation wouldn't care what i was eating. it is my dream someday to go somewhere to see that crystal clear ocean and go snorkeling. i am really behind the times because i still use my vcr. maybe a dvd player will be on my santa list.

holli's human - it does help to know there are other people out there in similar situations and solutions to same problems.

my week is going ok. busy like everyone else. i am adjusting to having friends live with me. it is kind of nice to have someone to talk to at nite when i come home. they will be at their lake cottage on the weekends still for a while so i will also get my alone time. the best of both worlds.

well, getting tired. have a good friday!
kathy

yoohoo! where are u?? i know everyone is busy but our thread is falling onthe way side!!!

well, i have more time on my hands now. i've finished the painting i had to do and i'm only working weekends now at the pt job. it's kind of nice to have time to myself. i got up and went for a walk today which was refreshing. i now have no more excuses because i have the time. i plan to do some cooking too. i am eating out way to much. hard on the wallet and the waistline.

well, thought i'd check in and bring our thread back to the top. someone please come post!!!!!
kathy

Sorry, Kathy. Things are a bit crazy at work and it seems like everyone's goal in life at my work place is to p*** me off! Of course it doesn't help that I'm prementrual. On the upside, even though I'm moody and crabby and generally unpleasant to be around, I'm not reaching for the cookies and ice cream - yet. Still on program and down 25 pounds. Gee, only 175lbs to go! Oh well, baby steps...

Isn't it great that you finally have some "Me" time. It's so hard to slow down and take care of ourselves sometimes. I took a couple days off work (last Friday and yesterday) and made it a 4-day weekend. I spent most of it doing home maintenance and cleaning, but at least there are fewer things hanging over my head now. Isn't home ownership grand??

I have been trying to exercise at least 5 days a week, but Minnesota is about to enter deep freeze season (November to April) so I'll have to dust of the treadmill and eliptical machines and have back ups for those freezing days.

Thanks for keeping this thread going, Kathy, I'll try to do better!

Hi everyone! Are you accepting "newbie applications" for your thread?

I’m single, 32 (very soon to be 33) and newly recommitted to losing my excess flab. I’m in the newlywed phase of my diet and feeling very saintly (hee hee). But I know from experience that it’s important to have your support system in place BEFORE you start to crumble if it’s going to do any good.

While I sometimes feel sad about not being married and having kids yet, there are many upsides to dieting while single and living alone.

o I can eat soup right out of the pot while standing at the kitchen sink and no one bats an eye
o No one demands that I keep crappy food in the house because “they aren’t on a diet”
o I can go to bed at 6 PM if I’m feeling too weak to battle my food cravings
o I don’t have someone trying to sabotage me by tempting me to go out for greasy burgers

Any others to add to the list that I missed?

Hope you all have a great day tomorrow!

hi everyone! glad to see some activity! welcome skinnybopeep! glad you can join us. i liked your list. i'm sure i could think of some more. maybe that could be a little game for us. everyone try to add a few as you think of them.

*i can drink out of the milk jug (which i do frequently)

janet - i know the feeling of being p***off at work. it happens on a daily basis for me too. that deep freeze season doesn't sound too good. i'm not looking forward to winter. it sure does put a damper on things.

i actually got in a 2 walks this week with all this free time. today it is raining and the weather channel shows rain for a week straight.

well, i have to get ready for work. have a good thursday!
kathy

Hi all! I am here trying to save myself and my sanity. I don't know why it is, but I can't seem to stay on the wagon as of late and I am becoming very, very depressed about it. Food is not the only thing in my life to be out of control. My spending is and my personal life, not to mention working on work life is quickly spinning out of control. What is up with that!!! It's as if everything seems too difficult right now and I really just wanna get in the bed and hide under the covers for awhile.

Somehow or another I have let too much anxiety adn stress overtake my life and it is completely derailing my half hearted attempts at healthy eating. I'm constantly reaching for something to stuff in my mouth and thus self medicate all the emotions I don't wanna deal with...much of the day work related and then at other times...some health problems that have crept up for me and my cat too! I've been worried about both my pets, (my children as I am sure all of you understand) and myself, as I have RA and am experiencing some increased pain and inflammation as of late and the new drug I started a month ago doesn't seem to be helping whatsoever! On top of that, I didn't wanna start the drug to begin with b/c of side effects, now the darn thing has the balls not to work!!! It is making me nuts! I am hoping to vent a little here and relieve some stress perhaps and try again tomorrow.

I am miserable. It is fall and down south we are just beginning our first taste of cooler weather and my fall clothes don't fit. I just refuse to go out and buy yet another wardrobe b'c of weight gain. I have so many of those new wardrobes in the closets now. Oh there's one surely for your list littlebopeep! All the closests are yours so you can divide up all the different sizes you own among them...Hoping you'll one day own just one to two sizes and finally quit agonizing about what to wear everytime you leave the house. Oh I get worn out with it!

ALright, I guess my bellyaching has gone on long enough. I am at last heading for the gym today hoping to pull out of this depression and stress. I have a long to do list going on in my head and notes everywhere right now..but it's time to run run ru n and get some relief to face tomorrow with; hopefully using that dear elliptical machine will lift my spirits...

Hope eveyone is doing well!

Thanks for the welcome, Kathy! And well done on the walking! Exercise is definitely my downfall. I have to drag myself kicking and screaming to do anything active. I feel so self-conscious when I exercise in public (no doubt blown out of proportion in my head) and I’m too lazy to do a lot of exercise at home. I just pop a workout video in the VCR and my couch’s gravitational pull gets the better of me. Before I know it I’m watching skinny people working out. I do have an elliptical machine, which I really like, but that thing kicks my rear! 15 minutes and I’m gasping. My best bet is walking a mile or two away from my house so I’m forced to walk another mile or two back home.

On a totally unrelated note, my neighbors are barbequing and I think I’m going to die it smells so good. Doesn’t everyone know I’m on a diet and don’t want to smell food right now?! I'd close the windows, but it's hot in here...

Debbie, sorry you are under so much stress. I hear you about the closets! I have clothes in 3 of them, but only fit into a handful of outfits. It’s so discouraging. The rest of them just hang there mocking me!!!

Anyway, I’m still doing really well on the eating side and trying (but not always succeeding) to do some kind of exercise at least 5 times a week. Hope everyone else is doing well and being successful!

Welcome SkinnyBoPeep. I guess the grass is always greener, because I could use some of the heat right now. It's cold (35 degrees) and rainy here. They're predicting rain/snow mix for tomorrow. That should help the exercising! On the upside, because it is so cold, I can bury all my fat under layers and delude myself into thinking that people attribute my size to layers of down and polar fleece. I don't know what I'm thinking - the people here are neither blind, nor stupid, but I can still pretend. And who says you can't grill, too? I did last Sunday and cooked up enough chicken to last most the week. I love that charcoal flavor...

Debbie - it sounds like you have alot on your plate right now (sorry about the expression, but it's true!!) and it's okay to feel depressed and overwhelmed. We've all been there to some degree or other. A day at a time, the old AA mantra, works for overeaters too. Take a small step every day to turn around the negativity (hey! take a moment to read your Bob Greene quote!) and remember you are worth any effort you put into making yourself healthy. And letting the eating monster gain control only adds to the guilt, self-loathing and depression (been there, too). It's good, too, that you're keeping up with the exercise, that can be a natural antidepressant. My thoughts are with you - & Gracie too! (My "youngest", my 1 year old cat, Paxil, was just diagnosed with asthma - I guess I should have named him Prednisone 'cuz that's what I have to give him the rest of his life!)

Kathy - we are not going to let a little winter keep us down! (I can say that now, there's not a foot of snow out there - yet...)

I'm running long - AGAIN. Take it easy people and stay strong!

Thanks, Janet! I would love it if it would rain or snow here. I guess we always want what we can’t have. Trust me, sunny and 80+ degrees can get really boring after a while. I had never seen it snow until I was in my twenties. I’d seen it on the ground before, but never falling. By the time I got to college where it snowed I thought it was the greatest thing I’d ever seen. The kids who’d grown up in it were less thrilled to see summer disappear. And you are so right about the heavy cold weather layers. There's nothing worse than dressing to cover flab in warm weather and having really thin people ask, “Aren’t you hot in THAT?!” Oooh, there’s a goal right there—be able to look good in lighter weight clothes so I never have to hear that question again…

I am so excited—I just passed my first 20-pound loss mark!!! YAY! Now I just have to do that 6 more times. Argh.

Hope everyone else is doing well. Take care!

hey singles! how things out there in singletown?? spent the usual saturday nite at home alone. baking a cake (of all things) for a surprise bday party tonite that never happened . so now i am home alone (again) on sunday nite with a cake in my refrigerator. to long to explain the canceled party....

holli's human - i am on that same spirally down hill rollercoaster. when will it stop. i have all the knowledge and the tools even..but yet i sit home alone stressing out over cake in my fridge. so what do i do you ask...well i eat everything else but the cake. that everything else is not cutting it because what i really want is a piece of cake it's pretty sad i have nothing to do but stress out over cake my mom has suggested therapy because she thinks i am depressed. i think she might be right, but the thought of therapy scares me too. it seems the harder i try, the more i fail, and the more i lose the ol' self esteem...what's a person to do????

skinnybopeep- on the brighter side, yea!! for your 20lbs gone 4ever!!!
keep up that positive attitude and send some my way

janetg- sorry about the kitty diagnosis! i hope the medicine helps! also give lots of love

well, i hope everyone has a good week (myself included)!
kathy