changingskies - YOU were trying hard to make it work. clearly, he wasn't.

and just as clearly, you gave him far better than he deserved.

After one of my crappy relationships I was going over and over him in my mind until the thought popped into my mind that I could continue to be miserable OR I could stop going over and over in my mind. I'd rather be free than to try to figure some things out. This guy isn't paying you rent for the time he's taking up in your head. Life is short. Be good to yourself.

If you ever see him in person, I hope you KNOCK him OUT! What an jerk!!

Good for you!

How other people treat you is their path, how you react is yours.

THIS!

Thank you Saef for writing this! Sooo true!!!!!

I think you misunderstood the point I was trying to make. For my boyfriend, he said those mean spirited things out of his disappointment over things not working out because he felt it was a reflection on him - i.e. he was not able to make her happy, he was an awful lover, he didn't stay thin enough for her, he didn't make her happy, etc. He lashed out in the way he did because he felt bad about himself. In his case he felt bad about himself because of how his ex made him feel.. for your ex that's not the case.. he might just plain old have low self esteem. People who seek out opportunities to put others down do so because of how they feel about themselves.. to make themselves feel better. My point is that his comments say much more about how he feels about himself than it says about how he feels about you. I'm sorry to hear things didn't work but the way you wanted to, but this guy is clearly a jerk and not worth your time. Sorry if my comments upset you in anyway .. I certainly did not mean to add fuel to the fire. Congratulations on your weight loss!

Congrats on the weight loss! Sadly, sometimes we fall for losers that aren't worth the pain and heartache we go through. If he's addicted to porn, he'll probably never be satisfied with any woman. Porn is actually the main reason that younger guys are getting ED.

Sorry I know this is off topic but I'm curious...how does that cause ED???/

It seems like this generation is definitely porn-addicted. I feel like all the men my age (and reasonably younger and older) have very unrealistic expectations of what a sexual relationship is thanks to porn. I'm not anti-porn but I do feel like there have been negative affects from it.

I've heard a lot of guys say that they "do their thing" to porn so much that when it comes time to perform with a real woman they can't finish because they are so used to just that one feeling. It desensitizes them.

Again congratulations on your weight loss. He is an ***.

As a man I can tell you the thing that usually gets my attention is a woman's eyes. The color doesn't matter. You can tell so much from the eyes.

Thanks for inspiring me to stay OP!

An EX is an EX! For whatever reason.

Move on! It's not worth the mental energy!

There is a video about it on TEDTalks, they basically say that porn is causing ED because it desensitizes men and they keep needing something new and exciting, so they watch more hardcore porn.

Yes! Make no one a victim or monster...sending kind vibes to all. Realize the beauty of life & keep peace.

He sounds like a jerk...and believe me, if he is really one of those guys that are just about the looks then better you find out NOW and not later. My own hubby has seen fat, skinny, in between and puking. I've got stretch marks and pimples and unruly hair. He has seen me at my worst but at my best too---and more than just in the looks department. Thats what its all about. It doesn't sound like this guy could handle a real relationship.