how about a quiet 'you look great. congratulations'

I think part of the problem of people yelling how skinny you are in a big crowd is their consciously or unconsciously letting everyone know you are really a fat person in disguise

Good point!!! So true haha

I haven't experienced that but IMO it takes a real arse to make a statement like that. You should feel sorry for him. Personalities are much harder for a person to change than their waist line.

So true 4star...nothing he can do about his lousy personality.

Whats interesting is that ever since I first posted this thread, this guy has gotten worse and worse about offending me and other people in my circle of friends. Most everyone is getting very sick of hearing him belittle everyone else. He has continued to make comments about my weight and my friend actually kicked him out of the party/her apartment about a week ago for saying (out of the blue) "Kelly...you're still fat." Of course he followed this with "oh i'm just kidding" when I stood up for myself.

When people say 'I'm just kidding' they are not kidding. They meant what they said.
If a person says..."I don't mean to pry, but".... They mean to pry.

Jolina...so true haha Its like "No offense but (insert highly offensive comment)"

I'm really glad I'm in a place where people like this don't bother me anymore. It took a while to get there but I'm really comfortable and sure of myself.

Oh yeah. This guy is a real winner. It must really offend him to see others doing so well. There just is no reason to say that to a lady, except well, really bad manners. That's why everyone is getting tired of it. It's not funny anymore(and I doubt it ever was, people were probably just trying to be polite), it's just rude and immature now. There's only so long adults can go along with that kind of behavior. Usually the charm wears off sooner rather than later.

He sounds so much like my ex-boyfriend's brother. Actually, his whole family is like that. What a dbag. Knowing my temper, I probably would have walked up and smacked him, or worse. I'm really proud of you for not reacting to him, and really proud of your friends for sticking up for you like that.


On another note, I have one friend that I considered my best friend until I started to lose weight. Instead of being proud of me for how far I've come, she's angry and constantly making comments. I've NEVER been able to wear a size 11, and now that's what I'm wearing. I'm happy and elated! She used to be a 9 and is now wearing my old 18s. So she's unhappy with her body. She tells me all of the time in-front of anyone and everyone that I really need to stop losing weight because every pound I lose goes on her. Basically telling anyone around that oh hey I used to be A LOT bigger. Thanks.. jerk.

Yeah, sounds like the bully on the playground- he's trying to find the buttons to push that will get a reaction and then he will push them over and over.

Weight comments don't bother me too much usually (although the ******* ones you are describing certainly would) but it does bother me that I know people tell new friends or coworkers about my weight loss. Like "There's Kate, did you know she used to weigh like 100 pounds more?!" Then these people- who didn't know me when I was heavy- come up and start asking me all these questions and I feel like I'm labeled as The Girl Who Lost A Lot Of Weight. And from there on out, everyone just wants to talk about diet and exercise and they scrutinize what I eat and ARGHHHHH! It can drive a person batty sometimes.

Sometimes I really just want to move to a new city where nobody knows me so I can just be myself not "Kate who used to be fat and isn't now." Not to sound ungrateful, because the comments do make me feel good sometimes. But I sometimes feel like this has come to define who I am to other people- and I don't really like that. There's a lot more to me than the size of my body.

k8yk I totally understand that too!
I love meeting new people that are seperate from my current "world" or social group because they don't know about my weight loss and theres no one to tell them expect for me haha