You all had so many great viewpoints that I hadn't thought of.

I am going to ask her about the pie and her motivations this evening. I'll report back with her response.

I'm late (maybe too late) to this but as someone who loves to cook if I was making pie and knew you liked it I would make one for you. Especially if you are on a sustainable lifestyle change pie is not out of the question for you. You did the right thing in enjoying a piece and giving the rest away. Freezing it in small portions was also a good suggestion.

I do agree that any kind of food gift from your accountability buddy is odd but I would assume good motives and chat with her and see. DH used to stop at Starbucks and get me a latte and scone even when he knew I was doing Atkins (a few years ago) and when I asked him he was just trying to do something nice for me - he knew how much I enjoyed the morning latte.

My first reaction was that maybe it could have been innocent, but why would you innocently give your "accountability partner" a pie? That seems a little ridiculous to me, personally.

What kind of support is that? Very bad support.

I'd just confront her honestly and ask her what her motives are, and explain to her how it makes you feel when she puts these tempting foods right in front of you. Explain to her that you're supposed to be accountability partners, not sabotaging each other!

With my temper in check and my bruised emotions put to one side, I went ahead and thanked my friend and accountability partner for the pie. Then, I asked her why she baked me a pie when she knew I was watching my intake. The conversation went something like this.

"I've seen you eat pie on your diet, and I know you like it." The emphasis was hers.

I explained that my lifestyle changes allow for occasional treats, and while I appreciate the gesture that I'd prefer that she not give me any more pies. She said that she wouldn't, but it was said in a very noncommittal way.

I've decided that I don't want her as a partner. I don't think that she sees my way of doing things as worthwhile because they aren't restrictive enough.

I guess I'm on my own.

No you're not you've got all of us here!

Jay

you know id say she is trying to be nice she knows you are on a sencible plan and you can work a slice in here and there i would have carved it up and frozen it.. So you can enjoy some more later when its fit into your plan again. Have you tryed talking to her about her yoyo method?? It will be better for her if she does it right and stays at a slow steady rate . I understand if shes not interested but do you wonder if she is a closet binger??? the up and downs seem to extreeme for it to be anything else?

what ever her motives are be it jealousy, friendship, to test your resolve what ever .. the thing is you made the decision to share it and not , freeze eat oir eat th lot .. I think you are doing fabulous and i dont know if confronting her is the best thing .. she might get really upset .. . You have enough ill power to look after your self so her maybe attempt to sabotage you is kinda a really good test to your commitment..

From were im sitting you past the test lol

lol whoops i was posting the sae time lol.. im sorry it went bad .. Myabe she can still be on your side just not as close??? it is good to have a exercise buddy .. we can tell you off but she can exercise with you??? what do you reckon?? we cnt do the exercise but we can certainly be your accountability team . maybe we should sart a group accountability team work?? what do you reckon???

Sorry to hear about your friend.. it's really disappointing to realize you can't count on a friend for support. I feel for you! And you always have 3FC's!! I use this place for support more than I can even describe! Infact - mostly in my life I don't have any support. When I told my "best friend" how I lost 10 pounds in January? She told me that she lost that amount in one week, wow, totally made me want to share anything with her.

-Aimee

I don't get it. I couldn't have made it this far without such as fantastic group of accountability partners like I've found here at 3FC. I sit here and read....then, I proceed with staying on-plan and exercising. That's not so evil in my book.

Don't get me wrong. I know that this site is pretty great, but I also know that I have a tendency to be internet-obsessed. I could easily spend an entire day sitting in front of the computer reading rather than doing.

Some people can't resist ice cream, I can't resist pies and the internet.