[sacha]

Thanks ladies

I'll chalk it down to miscommunication (she's French) and poor etiquette. I don't necessarily believe that, but it does no good to dwell on it She's gone, flown back home! Back to her "better" diet of wine and cigars (French women don't get fat, right? LOL)

[RienQueNny]

You're 5'5, 138lb and your MIL is telling you you jiggle?? After having a baby??

Honey you're NOWHERE NEAR fat, especially after giving birth! Your in-law needs a reality check. That's dangerous. What is she going to say to your baby when he/she gets older? I'm serious, my maternal grandmother is diet-obsessed, and started calling me fat and telling my mom to put me on diets when I was 8 YEARS OLD. I was NOT an overweight child until I hit puberty. At 9 years old I was counting calories in Oreos in my lunch. It lead me to have intense body dismorphia, which I've gotten over now, but I still have a lot of issues with my weight. I also have lots of memories of insulting things I've heard from her, memories that make me cry or make me feel depressed or hopeless about being overweight whenever I think about it. I don't want to say I blame her, because in the end I grew up to be obese. At the same time, when she started calling me fat, I WAS DEFINITELY NOT.

I think it's ridiculous that she would say something like this to you, and if she's always been this way or keeps being this way, I would be careful having her around your child and food at the same time. My grandmother used to take food away from me when I was in 1st grade, telling me "Dont eat that or you'll geteven bigger. You dont want other kids to make fun of your big belly do you?" And again, I was a slim child, not the slightest bit overweight. It seems so normal when we hear things like that, because it happens so often. In my personal opinion, it's nothing short of dangerous.

[Gold32]

Well, maybe think of it this way- some people see it as okay to "joke around" with someone whom the perceive as skinny versus fat. They'd tease a skinny person, where they never would a fat person. Either they don't mean it, or they assume you have less issues with self-image because of you're not as fat. For example, I could see someone in my family tease my sister (who is like a size 2) for "jiggling," but they would never do that with me, because that would be "too mean". Anyone know what I'm trying to get at here?

Especially since you weight 138 after giving birth, it was probably more from that vein than a truly "you're fat" comment. She's jealous, and just teasing someone whom she perceives as thin for "jiggling."

Truly, it's rude either way, because we should never, ever put that much emphasis on looks. Still, maybe it wasn't meant quite as meanly as it came off. Or maybe she's a total ***** and I'm just pulling crap out of a hat.