i think you look awesome and you should be so very proud of yourself and your accomplishment! See yourself as you are and as you want to be, not who you were (if that's what's bothering you).
You are NOT your weight and never were - evidently, your SO is crazy about you and loves you for YOU. If he didn't he wouldn't have driven across the country to let you know!
I think it's awesome that you have an opportunity to bond with his son and his family. Just be yourself and they'll love you - there's no reason for them NOT to! {{{HUGS}}}
People will take their cues from you about how to think about you.
If you are only wearing sloppy clothes that are too big for you, you will keep feeling like you are ugly and you will portray that to others.
If you do your hair and make-up and put on an outfit that fits you - you will look like a million bucks and people will think that about you.
I think I'm too fat but I have seen women fatter than me with perfect hair, perfect makeup, clothes that fit well and compliment their figure, and I think they look sensational. It's the image you portray.
If you look confident, people pick that up and respect you. If you look like you hate yourself, then people are more likely to make comments behind your back.
I used to put off buying clothes thinking I would lose more weight and it was a waste of money and all that. You get stuck. If you start wearing clothes that fit, you will see how great you look, you will feel good, and it will inspire you to keep losing weight.
You don't have to dress in a way that lets other people know how you feel about yourself and makes you prey.
I've been on this site for at least a year or two,but never posted.
you are the one to bring me out,because I am so touched by you and your amazing story.
You are my hero!you must be one heck of a wonderful lady for your bf to not turn around and go back! remember that.he loves you for you,for a reason.
you are not that 330 lb woman any more.you are a 198 lb woman with a new life with someone who truly loves you.many skinny women do not have that.how do you know his family are not overweight? a lot of people are.
this is a new life for you,think of it as an adventure!
believe me,if your bf sees how great you are,even with the lie,his family most likely will as well.
go back and look at your pictures again,because lady you look fantastic.
and I agree with whomever said you should maybe get therapy,if you feel it might help.
I've been on this site for at least a year or two,but never posted.
you are the one to bring me out,because I am so touched by you and your amazing story.
You are my hero!you must be one heck of a wonderful lady for your bf to not turn around and go back! remember that.he loves you for you,for a reason.
you are not that 330 lb woman any more.you are a 198 lb woman with a new life with someone who truly loves you.many skinny women do not have that.how do you know his family are not overweight? a lot of people are.
this is a new life for you,think of it as an adventure!
believe me,if your bf sees how great you are,even with the lie,his family most likely will as well.
go back and look at your pictures again,because lady you look fantastic.
and I agree with whomever said you should maybe get therapy,if you feel it might help.
This post brought tears to my eyes and truly moved me. Thank you so very much for your inspiring and encouraging words
Heck! You're skinnier than I am. When I am hangin around here during quiet times, you are always reaching out to others. You have alot to give.
When I first met my Step kid she was 13. We got along ok, but it could have been better. It wasn't me, it was just all the circumstances involved. Now, at age 23, she and I get along quite well. I hope it goes well, it is a very hard age. In my opinion, where you've come from is your own business. I have things in my life that are much better than they used to be. I am who I am today and I can live with that. What I was 2 years ago is in the past.
Thanks for all the support you give me and everyone else.
Heck! You're skinnier than I am. When I am hangin around here during quiet times, you are always reaching out to others. You have alot to give.
When I first met my Step kid she was 13. We got along ok, but it could have been better. It wasn't me, it was just all the circumstances involved. Now, at age 23, she and I get along quite well. I hope it goes well, it is a very hard age. In my opinion, where you've come from is your own business. I have things in my life that are much better than they used to be. I am who I am today and I can live with that. What I was 2 years ago is in the past.
Thanks for all the support you give me and everyone else.
This has touched me too. Thank you so very much for the kind words, it means a lot and I am gonna do my best to like myself from now on
I want to thank everyone who responded here. All the kind, encouraging, real advice has me feeling better today. I am not 100% there yet, of course, but I know someday I can be .
This post brought tears to my eyes and truly moved me. Thank you so very much for your inspiring and encouraging words
Aww sweetie your post brought tears to my eyes and I just had to say something.I could really feel the pain in your words
send me a message if you ever want to talk
Chic,.. You have great advices here and I agree with Jay.. Time for you show off your new found shape!! Meet your boyfriend's parents and son.. am sure they will love you and will be amazed of your weight loss. Time to shine on to the world. Stop hiding yourself!! I watched your progress on here weekly and am truly envy of you and inspired me to keep my efforts going.
So melting chic!! Meet the family and knowing you will be the star of the event!! Enjoy and good luck
This is the weekend my boyfriend has his son. My boyfriend has been over to his parents with his son since Saturday. My boyfriend's days off are Monday and Tuesday. I told my boyfriend yesterday when he called from a work break that he and his son should just come here and spend Monday and Tuesday because I am wanting to just get it over with now. I figure I don't really need to impress anyone and no one has to like the way I look. My boyfriend (seems) to love me and that is all that matters. Now, I am still very uncomfortable with the way I look but I am willing to swallow my fear long enough to meet my boyfriend's family but now he says no about coming here today and tomorrow with his son. His reason is that I will be freaked out when it is going on and when it is over with. This upsets me. Yes, I will probably be uneasy for awhile, I am not use to being around people in general and people I don't know will make me more uneasy, I am sure but I am willing to do this.
My question is - is he really putting it off now due to worries over my emotional well being or because he is ashamed of me? My heart wants to believe the first option but my psycho mind keeps honing in on the second and I don't know what to believe
Thanks for sharing your story. Everyone has given you the best advice. I agree. I can't wait until you tell us how awesome it was to come out of the closet!
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