ABETTERME ~ sending prayers up for you & your DH; and your relationship with your inlaws too ...
PHILIP 3:13/14 ~ FOR THIS ONE THING I DO, FORGETTING THE PAST, AND LOOKING FORWARD TO WHAT LIES AHEAD (the future) ...
Whenever something comes up from the past -- recite that verse to remind yourself to live in the present; as one-day-at-a-time is always the best way. Marriage is a work in progress for us all; we have to learn how to communicate our feelings the best way we can without hurting others, in love, but that isn't always easy. So, I pray for wisdom on how to handle my DH and inlaws; and GOD has given me lots of great ideas over the years. And, FORGIVENESS goes a long way to smooth things over too.
My mother used to say -- CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY; in other words, let the small stuff go.