Wheezypi, I've actually avoided going back to school because of the seating situations. I now do all my course work online. That way, I don't have to deal.
The airplane seating doesn't bother me at all. I travelled a lot internationally, even at my heaviest. Yes, it's uncomfortable. Yes, I have to ask for seatbelt extensions every time. Yes, there are people who stare when I ask for one. But I figure everyone has already noticed that I'm fat. Why be shy about it? That is simply how my body is shaped. I can get in a seat and I have never been asked to buy a second seat. I've only encountered one person who was snotty about having to sit next to me for less than two hours on a plane.
I don't whisper that I need a seatbelt extension. I speak up. I started doing that when the X would cringe when we flew together. He'd be embarrassed for me, as if I was too stupid/ignorant to be embarrassed for myself for being fat. I guess he was too narcissistic to understand that the kids and I were too embarrassed to be seen with him because of his reputation, and it was a relief that he would get a seat in a different row so that we wouldn't have to deal with him!
Betsy, I have a large pantry area in my utility room. It has two distinct cabinets, so on one side I put all of the food that I eat, and on the other side is all the food my boys eat. They are cooking for themselves more and more, so I don't have to go in that part of the pantry very much. I also don't keep foods that are really easy to grab handfuls of to eat, or nothing that is a processed snack. I have tried keeping cookies in the house, but while I may not have a problem with them (I don't really like cookies), both my sons totally overeat that sort of food. So it just doesn't come in the house, ever.
When I'm going to eat something as a snack, I measure it out. I like to have a serving of nuts once a day, so I'll either get the almonds from Trader Joe's that are already in single serving packages, or I measure out what I will eat and put the rest away in the pantry. Out of sight, out of mind for me.
I don't care to give up a lot of different foods, but there are foods that are really harmful to me, that lead me to binges or that get me off my path. I have eliminated most of those from my diet. I started with the ones that really were not important to me or that could be substituted with a better choice. It took time to do that, and it's still a process I'm working on.
I think it's important to find healthy choices that we really enjoy. I love hot dogs, but I can't eat regular hot dogs or hot dog buns. And I really hate those gluten free buns! I get all-beef uncured hot dogs, or bison hot dogs through the Internet or at a local health food store. I put them in a couple romaine lettuce leaves, with soy-free mayonnaise and mustard, chopped dill pickles and olives, or maybe some kim-chee. I actually love them like that! I have one or two a week.
I really love chocolate. But due to my soy sensitivity, I can't have most chocolate. In fact, I can only have the most expensive dark chocolate because it doesn't have soy lecithin in it and is lower in sugar. But I have learned to enjoy nibbling on cocoa nibs. I get the roasty cocoa flavor, and I'm good with nibbling on a teaspoon of them over the course of the day, one nib at a time. And there's extra fiber in it too, plus all the benefits of chocolate. Since doing that, I don't feel the chocolate craving any longer.
Took me a bit to figure all this out. I just keep experimenting.




