Hey, just an FYI, (and not to muddy up your tofu thread, I did a quick check on the location of the military commissary and of the nearest Wal-mart, and they are within a few miles of each other. Your bf could have very easily dropped you off at Wally World to let you shop and browse while he attended to mommy dearest to do his weekly grocery shopping with her. (sorry, I keep bringing up movies...) He said the other day he didn't want to make an unnecessary trip, but since he was going very near the same location anyway I would suggest this next time. This way you can do your thing, he can do his, you can avoid his parents and no one has any unnecessary trips

Thanks Lori, I didn't even have a clue

Oh and ps - love your new avatar!!!

I understand you've reopened this, but an option would be to close it and CONTINUE to log in for a few days, but without all of the continual feedback and the emotions you must be going through on this thread.

Besides, what will I do without you in on the word game threads???

Alot of your friends here are so concerned when you log off for awhile since you are such a positive contributor to the forums.

Thank you, Debbie . I will still keep logging in

Since I took the time to read this long thread, I wanted to take the time to post and send my thoughts and love to you, Michelle.

I don't have anything to add - it seems any opinions/advice that came to my mind was already posted better than I could have expressed it anyway. I just want to wish you happiness, love, and everything else good in the world because I truly feel you deserve it. You are such an influence on here, always willing to help others and pick them up. You are so strong, you are beautiful, and you have already accomplished so much. I just hope you realize how special you really are.

Best wishes, I so hope things get better.

Awww Beth how sweet, thank you so much

Call your local library. If they are worth their salt they will be able to put you in touch with agencies that can help.

Thank you, Caroline

I am glad you will continue to log in.
I am glad you will keep the thread open.
Thanks for your strength in being open about this issue!
I know there are others out there on 3FC who are in similar situations. All the advise and info will help them too! And you did not even know you were helping others! And hopefully they know that we all care for them too!

I'm sorry, it wasn't made to make anyone feel bad. My reaction to reading it and similar articles and forums online was, first I was shocked how close it sounds to my past relationship, some of it even word for word, some of the quotes are the exact things I heard. And it opened my eyes that is wasn't me, which made me feel better. Learning about that controlling behavior helped me understand a lot in my past relationship and to it let go and heal. I guess it's my closure to understanding why someone who said they loved me acted the way he did.

I thought it would be comforting to know it wasn't her or her fault.

You didn't make me feel bad. I guess it was hard to see that maybe something is wrong here. Thanks again for the link

I'm also kind of concerned that he didn't buy food for you?! What did he end up buying?

Michelle-

I think you are very wonderful and brave. Despite all you have been through and are going through now, you are so supportive and kind. Be as kind supportive to yourself, give yourself the love you so deserve. Many of us have had some similar experiences, with different positive outcomes. Love yourself and make the changes you need to be true to yourself- even small changes can have wide reaching effects. All of this must be overwhelming, so take what rings true from us. We so truly care about you.

-Alison