Very true petite. honestly this is exactly what worked for me, completely commiting myself, not after i do this, or after this meal or oh i will start monday. Every single time i promised myself i would do it after this or that, i always ALWAYS failed. I wish i did this earlier for myself, i really do.

I am so glad that I have changed my lifestyle, it is so easy after the first few days especially after the first week and you see some decent weight loss. you will be amazed and see that giving up some little truly insignificant things (like soda for example) will give you something much more, confidence ... happiness .... and peace of mind.

Start when your ready, but if you truly are not happy with yourself right now and know that losing weight would help you accomplish this then you should start now. the right time is now.

:] you will do great!

OH to lilmiss and Petite Your long, well thought out, caring posts mean SO much to me. I have been doing some thinking latley. I think it is a mixture of things that are creating this abundant amount of stress. Yes, losing weight is a huge part of it. But so is my job, dad, school, and just like Petite said, being in my 20's. At work we are SO slow. For the past year, every single day I come into work to count down the hours from 9 to 5:30. Literally NO work all day. Unless you have been in a job like that, you cant imgaine what it does to you stress wise. You might as well put me in a torture chamber. Going into work day in and day out sitting there for 8 hours with NOTHING to do. Well, whats that saying; An idle mind is the devils playground? I think thats why I have become obsessive compulsive about losing weight. I literally think, calculate, obsess, etc. ALLLL day long at work because there is nothing else for me to do. But in the end, I am THINKING about food all day; therefore wanting it more..


I DO want to lose weight. But even more so, I want to learn to have confidence with who I am regardless of my weight. I honestly like healthy food now. So I have decided to just eat healthy and exercise. NO obsessive calorie counting, carb counting, fat counting, and no destructive mind games when I eat something like a piece of white french bread. I know how to eat healthy, I enjoy healthy foods, but I am not going to be so strict on myself. It gets to be too much. If/When I am ready to be extremely strict and stick with something then I will try it out. But for now, its about getting healthier. And I think generally eating healthy most of the time and exercising regularly will get me there. I used this calculator a girl in another chat shared and it said I can be at 18% body fat at 123 (I already have a lot of muscle). So eventually, that will be my goal. Ive been told by professionals women really should not drop below 20% for health reasons so I would be happy with that. And that would put me at 125.

Regardless, I have learned how to eat healthy and I think if I take off the pressure of having to be in a certain calorie range everyday I might be able to relax and just make this my lifestyle. I HONESTLY believe if it werent for my job and the 8 hours a day I have nothing to do, I would be able to do this a lot easier. I wouldnt be thinking about food every waking minute and I would be occupied. But for now, while I work here, I will have to just learn to make healthier choices.

I cant thank you all enough for truly caring and being there for me! All of your comments show me you really understand my mind and how it works being a "featherweight". Its hard to stay motivated in such an uncomfortable situation when you know youre not overweight or unhealthy. Its more of a personal comfort thing. But again, I want to learn to be comfortable with myself regardless of my weight.

Have a great Friday!!!

Hi my hun! It is like you are describing my life at the moment, I am 23 as well and for the past few days I have had some moments of complete emptiness, overwhelming sadness and lost of interest in life, then a high and then a low and I just don't know whether I was depressed or bi-polar or what. And my hair is falling as well, which annoys me so much! But as for me and my weight, I know that I have a problem in my head, 2 weeks ago I absolutely loved my curves and i did not think i was fat and now i see myself as really fat and i need to lose it! This is how i know it is in my head, one day I hate the flab, after a month I feel comfortable in my flab! And I am not overweight anymore to feel fear for my health and my survival. When i want to fight with my weight, I actually fight with myself, I don't accept myself the way I am, I don't love myself and i think others do not love me. Nobody thinks I am fat, I have people around me who are more fat and it is only me who thinks I am fat as certain times.

I also know that if i don't accept the fatness as a quality and feel that it is ok, after this phase of losing there will be a phase of putting on weight. So just for today I am practising in my head that I love myself, I am wonderful, I am allowed to be fat, it is ok. Meanwhile I went swimming and I am having proteins today because I want to be loving and caring for my body. I am also sick of being who i think people want me to be, sick of thinking that i will make mistakes, that people don't love me. It is all in my head and i am sick of it. So I accept myself totally with my mistakes and I enjoy the day. All the best to you! My mood is a bit better today than yesterday and this is to testify that it passes! E-motions are motions, they are not facts!