Hello,

This is more relevant to the rude doctor issue...

Have you ever had an overweight (sometimes larger than yourself) nurse make comments about your weight? This has happened with me several times in the past. The funny thing is, when I was leaving my appointment, she was smoking outside and drinking a huge soda! I know that it is their job to give you health advice...but when they aren't following it themselves, it can be hurtful!

One time I had a nice nurse tell me "I know that I shouldn't be talking, because I am big myself, but..." She was really sensitive about it, and approached it much differently. It makes a huge difference!

It will be nice going to an appointment and being at a lower weight this coming year.

As far as the most hurtful thing someone had said...

My boyfriend, his cousin, and I were walking into McDonalds, and there was a group of adults probably in their 40's to 50's sitting at a table outside (my boyfriend and I are in our 20's, and his cousin is 18). I clearly heard them say, referring to my boyfriend's cousin... "That is the type of person who should NEVER be near a McDonald's!" They all laughed extremely hard, and I thought that one of the women was going to fall off of the bench because she was laughing so hard. We had only stopped there to get something to drink. My boyfriend's cousin has a serious weight problem, and she has been trying to control it...so the teasing doesn't help. I've noticed adults making comments about her in public. I am just baffled by it. I think that elegant departure is correct though...they are just insecure about something.

Wow, these stories are horrible. ESPECIALLY the ones that involved MOTHERS chastizing your weight. Luckily, my parents never said anything mean about my weight... but everyone else did, enough to give me some pretty severe complexes.

When I was in middle school, I was a porker. I denied it, even though everyone called me fat. When I was 14 ( still fat ), I went on a few dates with this guy. He told his friends that I wasn't that hot and had a massive gut and acne but he was willing to date me because I made out with him and since I was "fat", I must have been "easy". Once he realized I wouldn't give him head or anything else, he left. I then dated another guy who left me for my (skinnier, prettier) best friend. I even asked him what happened and he said, "She's much cuter. She's skinnier. You're only ok looking."

I cried, cried, and cried some more, then starved on and off for a good four years.

I stopped starving, and gained 50 pounds. My girlfriend's ex met me first when I weighed 125, and said I was rail thin. Then, she saw me a year later at 165-170 and said (to my girlfriend when I wasn't around), "Wow! Aidyn BLEW UP!"

Another time, I found out a friend of mine from high school (I was a skinny cheerleader type in high school after I lost a ton of weight and got "hot") lived in Florida now. We made plans to see each other. I thought I was looking cute. She said to me, "Wow, what happened?" I said "What do you mean?" She said, "uhhhh wellllll not to be rude or anything, but you gained A LOT of weight!" Then, she acted distant and strange to me.

I also had people yell out "FATTY!" and "YOU'RE FAT! HAHAHAHA! HOW SCARY!" from their cars to me when I was jogging or biking, but luckily, that hasn't happened since I dropped 12 pounds. I occasionally get CAT calls instead!

ok wow...NightengaleShane, i dont think i'm going to go for a bike ride anytime soon...

but anyways i think the worst was when i ws in junior high and i had lost 10-20 lbs (i didnt weigh back then so i have no clue how big i was but i was def. fat) i was still living in mexico and i started on herbalife. i came to texas for the summer like always and my father had just gotten home from prison that morning and when i walked into the kitchen he looked at me and told my grandma right infront of me "you need to look behind her if you think she lost weight". i think i stayed on herbalife 1 more day after that before i completely fell apart. needless to say i dont talk to my father anymore.

Geez, these are awful! I hate how people think it's their business. I would never dream of saying anything negative about someone's appearence, weight or otherwise. What the **** do I care what people look like? Why should they care what I look like? It's ridiculous!

Over a summer when I was in high school, my mom suggested that I quit my job and start using all that time in the gym because I really needed to lose weight. I wasn't even that overweight then! It still pisses me off when I think about it, because she's usually pretty supportive (and at that time she was *much* bigger than me).

I used to date a really charmer who told me that his friend was commenting on how big I am. Another nice one! Heh.

Well all my life my dad who is not very active in my life would always throw in some jack *** comment about "Well I see you've been packin some extra weight around. When I look at pictures of how I looked then I think he should have kept his mouth shut because I wasnt that much over weight then.

Also like a year ago I saw a suspisious little kid lingering in front of my neighbors house so I pretended I wasnt paying attention to him and finally he reached in the car and took something out of it. So thats when I got out of my car and asked him nicely to put whatever it was that he took back in the car that I knew wasnt his. So he did and a minute later his friend came back up the street to cuss me out and said "I'll do whatever I want, What are you going to do about it ya Fat B**** " So I told him that this fat b**** would kick his little punk a** So he left. Where are these kids parents?

It's funny how everyone thinks that it other people weight is their business. And that they have the right to make comments about it.

I was sitting at lunch a few weeks before the spring semester ended at my school. The "popular/pretty people" had asked me to sit with them that day. I was friends with a couple of them individually so it really wasn't a shocker that I was having lunch with them. Suddenly half way through lunch the conversation changed to a discussion of another classmate who was heavy. They were all making comments about this guys weight and some of his odd weight related behaviors. I couldn't believe how these rude these people were and insentisive they were about this guys weight problem. Also I couldn't believe that they were talking about this in front of me, someone with a weight problem who was bigger then this classmate when I started school at the begining of the year. Needless to say I never had lunch with them again.

I just thought of another on.

It was in my high school freshman math class, there was a group of people talking about something im not sure what now but I added something to the discussion and this really rude jerk said with out skipping a beat "Why dont you go eat a hamburger or something" The rest of my 4 years of high school I was so self consious around that guy.

THANKS EVERYONE FOR SHARING! You guys just saved me-- I was really craving the birthday cake in the fridge that my office got me yesterday. Instead I sat down, read through the posts (remembered some of my own horror stories).. and then got out my healthy homemade lunch. Thanks again!

I just thought of another one


Senior year in high school I went on a blind date to a guys prom whom I never met before that day but I knew his best friend James. Well James informed me after I agreed that the guy I was going to prom with usually only dated skinny girls and he told him that if he shouldnt say anything about my weight because I was a really nice girl. THANKS ALOT. It kind of hit me the wrong way even though im sure James didnt mean to hurt my feelings. Another uncomfortable night of my life.

OK I sear this is my last one.

Very resently I went to visit my Grandma and I took my daughter who is 2 now but was probably 1 1/2. Keep in mind that she is in no was a chubby little girl and was born weighing 6'9" which is the smallest in my family. But anyways my gandma picks her up and makes the comment that she is so heavy that if there was a fire she wouldnt be able to save her. I have never heard anything so rude im my life. I told her to never ever comment on my childs weight again because I know first hand how that feels.

Wow, why are people such jerks?

When I was in second year university, I was out walking with two girlfriends. A car of teenagers drove past, and one of them yelled out "two are hot, the other's NOT" while gesturing that he meant my friends were hot and I wasn't. I was stunned.

I'm a Brownie leader, and one of my girls (7y.o.) came and gave me a hug at a meeting one night. She says, "are you pregnant?" and I said "no, I'm not!" Her next question? "Then why is your belly so FAT?" I know she meant it innocently, but it was crushing.

Ugggh about 3 years ago I went to the mall with my best friend. I bought this cuuuuute cute little shirt and short skirt at Aero and put it on because I loved it so much. I thought I looked so cute. I walked out of the bathroom and these two HUGE...atleast twice my size girls smack their lips as I walk by them and one says "That girl knows she's too big to be wearing that." I was devastated. I ran back into the bathroom and cried my eyes out til my BFF calmed me down and told me I looked beautiful..I was probably about 180 at the time...

Ugh, people suck.

I was jogging about a little less than a year ago (and about 85-90 lbs heavier) and a car full of middleschool boys drove by, with someone's mom at the wheel. They moo'd out of the car window. The mom laughed (so irresponsible! Ugh!). I was more offended by the mom - teenage boys will be teenage boys, but their mother ought to know better. She was a skinny little thing and i just wanted to smack her as she snickered.

Now that I have most of my weight off, I get all kinds of "gee, hope you don't gain it all back" comments. As if I was planning on doing so! Especially from my mom...ugh.

I have a story I will never forget.. I was 11 and outside homeroom class in the morning this kid would joke around with me.. he was kind of annoying.. then one morning during class his friend passed me a note saying that the kid wanted to ask me to a dance.. so I wrote back with something like NO way I wouldnt go with that fat cow!! then his friend handed the note to him.. I was mortified and I couldnt believe I said something so awful.. I was never overweight until I was out of highschool, but before 9th grade I only wore huge baggy shirts and I was always trying to hide.. I never even went swimming without a giant baggy shirt on. I think I definately made the comment because I was soo insecure about myself. At least I learned my lesson, it did not feel good to hurt someone like that and I will never forget it

People are just rude overall, fat, thin, tall, short etc... I remember 3 incidents from when I was 135 pounds in highschool.. one I was walking with my best friend to a football game, and this car full of 5 girls drove by and they yelled "#$%^&*^ SLUTS!!!!!!"... at the time we were wearing hoodie sweatshirts, loose jeans, and sneakers...

another time my freshman year I was walking to my boyfriends work wearing jeans and a low cut top, but I had a tank top underneath, so nothing was showing... this middle aged woman yelled out her window "YOU GOT BOOBS HANGING OUT!!!".. so infuriating!

Then once after a long day at the beach the summer of my junior yr in high school, I stopped to put some gas in my car.. I was wearing my bathing suit still, with a long white tank top, flip flops and a short swim coverup skirt that was like 3 inches above the knee.. It was a perfectly normal summer outfit... and this woman in her early 30s looked at me and muttered "thats so disgusting put some clothes on"..

Some pepole will say ANYTHING to make themselves feel better

The only comment about my weight I remember was last summer when I was 175, I was working as a cashier and this skinny woman was buying like 500$ worth of clothes and stuff.. as I was scanning her items she says "so when are you due?" ugh.. I just stared at her.. and im like "im not.." but it made it worse because she was like "OMG I was SURE!!" then I had to stand there with her for another 5 mins cause she had so much stuff.. so she kept going on and on.. "Dont develop a complex or anything!!" ugghh..