[Grumbleworts]

I'm sorry he said something so stupid, Aquachick. When i Was at my Aunt and Uncles' house, staying because we were going to a funeral I metnioned I had lost ten pounds...my uncle is a jokester, and he immediately started in on me about whether I'd found it again or not. He didn't mean to be mean, but it still hurt a little. Especially since he's around 300 pounds. He's trying to lose weight too, but he's a boy. THey just don't get it. At least in my case, my mom, dad and brother are supportive and tried to talk me up at that point...but with him you are better off letting it pass.

If you haven't, I'd talk to him about it. If he's aware of it, then there aren't any excuses for doing it again. Ofcourse....I never take my own advice....

Anyway, CONGRATULATIONS for losing your 12 pounds. That's a HUGE accomplisment!

[Jman1]

I hereby apologize for my whole gender. What a terrible thing to say!

Just remember, his comment doesn't have anything to do with you. If you just translate it, he was simply saying, "I'm an enormous jerk!"

[AquaChick]

Thanks Grumbleworts...

Yes, that first 10 pounds feels like a major milestone. I lost mine really quick and I was so plesed about it. People can be butt heads. I feel better I'm not alone in dealing with it, even though it is sad to see how other people are shamelessly offended like I have been.

Jman1, that really made me smile this morning.

I still love men, and I understand that sometimes they say things that pop out wrong, I think he was concsious of what he was saying though. I never did get an apology. Yes, he was an enormous jerk yesterday. A big 10-4 on that. Maybe when he gets up this morning he will say something about it- like, sorry.

[Fit_Boo]

Looks like my rolling pin needs to come out again! It's getting quite a workout lately with all the insensitive families making stupid comments this week!

to you Aquachick

Next time, say you know how to lose a couple of hundred pounds easily if he keeps it up lol Heck, if you include the in-laws, that would be a LOT of pounds to lose at once.

Seriously, families are the worst for saying hurtful things. The closer we are to someone, the less we feel the need to filter what we say. Maybe somewhere in his mind, he's thinking that if he pretends you're not fat, you will forget you are or something. Like that would happen! lol What?! I'm fat?! I had no clue! Thanks for telling me!

I'm sure he didn't mean it to be so hurtful and that he probably sees how unhappy you are being fat and he just has a very clumsy way of dealing with that. Or he thinks he's just "telling it like it is" or whatever.

You are doing great! Keep it up and may all those people eat their words once they see how great you have been doing.

[AquaChick]

Thanks Fit Boo!!!

You cracked me up with the rolling pin... now.... where did I put that thing...?

Yeah, I'm definately back in my set mindframe today. And I'm taking names and using those words as ammo to blast the fat. I am going to try to turn those negative hurtful things as fuel so I will have something positive to look forward to in the future.

[Intrinsicat]

Argh! That's annoying. You know what really irritates me? That when you lose the weight these self-righteous piece-of-works are going to think their verbal abuse was helpful! That somehow what they said spurred you on to lose the weight. When they do that, make sure you mention that Uncle Al's alcohol problem and Aunt Emma's gambling addiction might be helped too if everyone teases and humiliates them.

[AquaChick]

Originally Posted by Intrinsicat

Argh! That's annoying. You know what really irritates me? That when you lose the weight these self-righteous piece-of-works are going to think their verbal abuse was helpful! That somehow what they said spurred you on to lose the weight. When they do that, make sure you mention that Uncle Al's alcohol problem and Aunt Emma's gambling addiction might be helped too if everyone teases and humiliates them.

Heard that!!!!!

Yes, I think your solution to their idea of "motivational speech" is perfect...

Makes me daydream just thinking about when the day comes....