My inlaws aren't divorced but I call them by their first names. With my divorced and remarried parents, they have always been "Mom and Rick" and "Dad and Janae".
This is the second marriage for my husband and I. Our 4 kids got tired of saying 'my mom and your dad" or "my dad and your mom" or "Dad and Sue" or any other combination thereof so they just call us "the JPU". (joint parental unit!)
I call my in-laws by their first names, even though I find it SO awkward. I have grown up with people mostly calling their in-laws Mr. and Miss First Name (or occasionally Mr. Mrs. Last Name, but only with VERY formal, distant in-laws), so that feels natural to me. In-Laws WILL NOT HAVE IT. Awkward.
I could not call them Mom and Dad. Sorry. I have a Mom and Dad. If that feels natural to other people, fantastic. Happy for you. But for me, it does not.
I call them by their first names. They sign cards to me "Mom and Dad" and even then it feels odd. I can understand if you feel particularly close to your in-laws calling them Mom and Dad, but that's not me.
I only have one mom and one dad and have never called the in-laws by either, weird to me. Never even called them by their name either, when I saw them just said Hi and that was about it. My DiL before her and my son were married made the mistake of calling me Mom without ever taking into consideration what I wanted her to call me or ever asked wha I wanted her to call me. She has never called me mom again and calls me by my name. She also has 3 step-dads that she calls dad and when she refers to her Dad I have to say "which one?" Very confusing to me.
I don't really have my dad in my life, I do consider FIL to be "my dad", I would go to him for help & advice before my own mother! But I still call him by his first name 'cause I don't want DH to call me sis
I call my MIL mom, but I can understand where you come from. Calling three different people mom is confusing. Maybe address them as mom to their faces, and when use their names when talking to your husband? Its cool that everyone gets along though.
Everyone calls my MIL "mom". She lives with her husband (step-father to my husband) and his children (who are now in their early 20s). Whenever their friends come over, they all call her "mom" or "ma" as she has the super mothering and nurturing to every person kind of attitude. However, I just feel odd calling her Mom because I feel as if I would be disrespecting to my own mother. Is that odd? Maybe I should ask my mom how she feels about it LOL. As for my FIL, I call him Doug as he is very formal and would feel really awkward if I called him "Dad".
I am another who doesn't call them anything usually. If it came down to a necessity, I would call them by their first name. It just feels weird, though and it rarely happens. I have never and would never call them Mom and Dad. After the kids were born; it was more common to call them mammaw and pappaw. But, I still don't usually use a name when talking to them and would say your mom or your dad to hubby if I was talking to him about his parents.
I had a very long term relationship with an xbf as a tween, teen and even off and on in college. His mom loved me (more than he did, I think, lol) and always asked me to call her "mama." We were pretty close, much closer than I am to my MIL and it still felt a little weird to me; even with calling her mama instead of mom.
I call my future in-laws by their first names. We've never discussed anything otherwise and they don't seem bothered by it. I noticed that my fiance's mother calls her husband's parents by their first names so I guess they don't care if I do that too. My fiance calls my parents by their first names too.
I don't know, it would be pretty weird for me to call them Mom and Dad. I could, considering that my own parents are still Mommy and Daddy :P ...I don't know why I never stopped calling them that
