Nobody's weight is allowed to be secret in my career field, so I've gotten used to people knowing and it doesn't bother me anymore. Oddly enough my boyfriend keeps his weight secret from me, as if anyone cares how much a dude weighs.
I used to keep it a secret, but that also gives it power. For me, and I'm only speaking about my experiences, I've found that when I keep secrets about myself - my troubles, it only makes the problems worse. Once I free up the secret, I can move on and make it better.
Of course, what I should have learned from this is to not ever have such secrets, but it seems I can't give up the secret until I'm mentally ready to give up the secret.
No one knew how much I weighed. I even avoided doctors. Now I have it in my blog, my doctor's know, my spouse knows, my mother in law knows. I'm not keeping that secret any more.
And things I've learned is that a. people have no concept of weight. I look pretty darn good, but I still weigh a lot - people are surprised by that but that's because they don't understand how we all have different bodies and hold our weight differently. and B. it's not really a secret. You wear your weight. While people are terrible at guessing numbers, they can see if you are a little overweight, significantly overweight or very overweight. We can't hide that and that's what really matters anyway - not the number on the scale.
Flight instructor... all pilot & passenger weights have to be known to make sure the planes are not overweight. It took me like a year to get over my dislike for it, but it's quite necessary! Needless to say I'm very discreet when asking my lady passengers' weights because I know it sucks.
Nope, when I hit a milestone I post it on Facebook because lots of my friends know I'm doing this. I told my parents recently, just in passing talking about exercise, and they sort of gaped at me. My mom even said "Don't tell people how much you weigh". I really don't care, it's just a number to me now (opposite of how I felt when I started losing).
I put it on here with no problems because no one is judgy. The only people that know the exact number are my mom, my best friend and my boyfriend. I do post on my facebook how much I'm down every week and how much I still have to lose. It's not like people can't guesstimate.
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In real life only one person knows, and he's my best friend. But he lives 4 hours away and I haven't seen him in months. We text all day every day, and I use him as kind of my weigh in meeting.
If anyone else asked I might be scared to tell them. My sister commented that I was looking good, and asked how much I've lost and I told her but no one has ever asked what I currently weigh.
No, no, no. I'm on the verge of a heart attack just thinking about it! Seriously, though, I have not told a single person on earth my weight. I'm sure some people can guess, but for the most part I feel like when you're as big as I am, normal-weight people can't really wrap their minds around it and assume it's lower. But even when I was 140 pounds, I was incredibly secretive about my weight. It's an unhealthy mindset, but that's how I am
I used to keep my weight a secret, but not really anymore. I don't go around telling everyone or anything, but I openly discuss it with friends and family.
For the most part (especially as an adult), I've always been very open about my weight. I've always, even as a child, thought it was incredibly weird that the "number" somehow was supposed to mean more than what people could see with their eyes. I always wondered who cares what you weigh if you appear to be at a healthy weight? And who cares what you weigh if you look fat?
To me, lying about my weight or trying to keep it secret, made about as much sense as lying about the color of my eyes or the (current) color of my hair. You can see it, so why should I lie about it.
Lying about age seems silly too. I always joke that if I ever am tempted to lie about my age, I'm going to lie "up," so people will tell me I look great. I've never understood lying down, because people are going to either assume you're lying or that you look terrible for your age.
And I think weight really should be the same. Anyone who is good at estimating weight is going to recognize the lie in an instant (or is going to think you look terrible for your weight).
Even lying "up" about weight, would make more sense, because if you look lighter than you really are (to someone who knows what real weight looks like), there's a good chance you've got a good deal of muscle (and are physically fitter than someone who looks heavier than they are).
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I felt that way too never telling anyone not family friends no one knew but me and my doctor... but when I joined this forum obvs i had to put it on.... then I started a weight loss journey group on facebook... and I think I was more embarrassed to put pictures of myself looking fat then the number... after long hesitation of who to add to the group i just said screw it... I added all my friends and family I trust and look up to and am close with and I posted pics and my weight.. now everyone knows and it honestly was a huge relief not to worry bout how big people thot I was....
My weight isn't a secret, but equally it's not something I go around telling everyone. If someone asked I'd tell them, but it's just one of those things that I don't think most people are interested in.
My weight isn't a secret, but equally it's not something I go around telling everyone. If someone asked I'd tell them, but it's just one of those things that I don't think most people are interested in.
That's how I feel about it, too. I really don't think anybody but me cares exactly how much I weigh. I tell my boyfriend whenever I lose weight and he congratulates me, poor guy. He listens to me talk about it a lot. SWEET FELLA.
