So I'm incorporating parts of southbeach diet, I should probably just go totally on it. At night when I want something to eat, I'm doing the raccotta cheese thing with vanilla and splenda. It helped last night, I felt full afterwards. I've also been eating a sb meal for breakfast and it has helped my need for chips while Shane naps.
One more exercise and I'll have done my 3 exercises in a week, woohoo!
So, what name do you want to be when we start a new thread? Let's do something that others might want to join so we can get a group here? Might be better motivation if we had more people.
I lost about 10 lbs on the sb many years ago when I only needed to lose 10. It is 1/2 cup part skim racotta (sp) cheese, 2 tsp of vanilla extract, fake sweetener (I don't know if you do fake sweeteners while bf, I didn't). Anyway, it was a good dessert and it filled me up.
Hmmm...my bf said she couldn't get on...she has to go register in the forums and it isn't really obvious on the home page....hmmmmm.
Wow, 63 points!!! Hey, I can't believe you even counted them, I would usually just give up if I went past 40. Really, try eating a more filling breakfast, since i've been eating lunch for breakfast, I don't get the munchies and starving by the time the real lunch comes.
I worked out 3 days this week! I just have to keep it up every week, ugh.
On a side note, I'm staying away from Shane for the first time ever b/c I'm cohosting a party at my friend's house, so I'll just stay there. Scary thought to be away from Shane, but I think it would be good for me and for my hubby to deal with being alone once!
I could see NOW how hard it would be to stay away from Lucas... ahhhhh... I'm supposed to move him into his crib this week but DH is going on a weeklong MO trip for work... not going to do it! His sis is coming down and the nursery next to the guest room. I don't want her waking up to take care of him! I feel that I'm so protective of him, etc...
That sounds good (ricotta, etc...) I don't use artificial sweetners normally anyway... Not a fan of the aftertaste...
I ate 40 points yesterday. Have to do better... LOL
Oh the party was so fun and everyone enjoyed themselves. I didn't drink too much, but it was nice to know that I didn't have to sober up b/c I got to stay there. So nice to sleep without worrying about Shane or hearing the static on the monitor.
Yeah, wait until hubby gets back to move him to his room. I swear by the video monitor, you will sleep so much better and not worry if you can see what he's doing in his crib. I wish I had gotten it when Shane was that young. Mine is a summer video monitor, they are wonderful.
I'm sure I went so off my diet last night with all the good mexican food!
I really hate to log in today and just dump a bunch of stinky crap, but get this. DHs sister came into town Monday to stay the week with me and Lucas and her 12 yr old daugher. DH is not close with her b/c she is quite volitle. There is a history there, but she came down for my shower, when I gave birth, and then a week when things were so hard in the beginning. We never had any problem. She knew I was trying to nurse and EP the whole time... She knows my struggle. She formula fed hers after 2 weeks, and shes always been supportive of me. She came down Monday from Louisville at arrived at 3pm. Mom came over to relieve us as we went to the grocery to buy groceries for the week. I spent about $125. She spent $60. Yesterday, I worked all day (10 hours) upstairs as she watched the baby. I noticed the past two weeks LUcas is fussier... I'm convinced he's teething b/c he stops when you rub his gums. He was fussy yesterday. Today I woke up for good at 10am. By 12:30pm she had completely flipped out on me telling me that I was ungrateful, spoiled, and that I had accused her of not taking care of Lucas well. What I had said to her for her to think that was that he had cried a lot the day before. She told me matter-of-factly, "your baby doesn't sleep during the day. he's not on a schedule. My daughter slept more." I told her back, "Well normally he sleeps more. I don't know if he's afraid he's going to miss something or if he's not used to you guys or what... but he sleeps on me, on Jeff, on my mom and dad." She interpreted that as "You do not take care of the baby."
This continued to escalate with me attempting to calm her down (she is 43 yrs old). Her daughter was sitting on the couch wide-eyed at her mother.
Her mother then said that she thought I was a "loner" and that all I do was sit in the den with the baby and get on the phone and the internet and that is not the life she lives. I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she wanted to take the baby for a walk but that I had said it was too hot (I live in TN - it's only 98F right now). Then she said that she wanted to take him to the pool. He still isn't holding his head up 100% of the time and again too hot. She got mad at me b/c I wanted to nurse him when I wasn't working even though she had been taking upon herself to get my breastmilk out of the fridge and make bottles for him... I told her that I wanted to nurse him. One of the incidents she ignored me until I finally had to get in her face sort of speak... and say, "Missy, I nurse him first." UNREAL.
Then it keeps escalating where she begins to throw up past things about when her mom died and Jeff (DH) had gotten "ALL THE FURNITURE" she said. Then she said that I was rude to want to go to lunch tomorrow and meet a friend and that I should have invited her. I thought she wanted baby time. THen she said that we have never been to her house in Louisville. We tried to go in May/June but it didn't work out b/c of baby but Jeff was going to go without me and she said no. It just kept getting worse and worse.
Her daughter was crying. Lucas was crying. I was crying, and this crazy woman is ranting and raving and I told her... "Missy if you are stir crazy and need to get out... why not just go to the mall or go get lunch with Paige? I'm ok to sit here... Lucas is fussy... he needs me." That set her off into outer space.
She then said that I was accusing her of not knowing how to take care of him... that I wanted her out of my hair and that she wanted to leave that she wasn't going to stay and listen to me talk to her like that... which was me only defending myself against the words she was putting in my mouth. Her daughter kept saying, "I don't want to leave. Mom, Beth didn't do anything wrong!" It kept on and on... me mostly rocking Lucas... trying to calm him... me crying b/c I was in a no win situation and it was only getting uglier on her end.
She went upstairs and packed her things while Paige cried. I told Paige I was sorry. WHen Missy came down I told her I was sorry, and she said, "No you are not you are spoiled you are ungrateful." I really didn't know what I was apologizing for.
Then she told Paige let's go. Paige was crying and then Missy went to where she was sitting and hit her to move. (She's really not a good mom to her - long story - but one of these days Paige will be gone -- too much emotional stuff).
And they left.
Then she called my husband who is out of town all week and pretty much lied and told him all this stuff... and more... like when I told her that she didn't need to leave when she was threatening... and when it kept escalating I said that why is leaving always the answer to conflict... why can't we talk it out?? She said that I said for her to leave and that all she ever does is leave... and THAT meant before her mom died she left her and moved abandoning her mom...????... UM... hello? What does her mother have to do with it? I meant that I have seen her act like this once before years ago when I was dating DH and she drove down (3.5 hours) and walked into Jeff's house... 30 mins later they got into it and she turned around and drove back. SERIOUS.
I'm a wreck... but she again called DH an hour ago and was crying all about it, etc... again lying about me...
Who knows... I did try to apologize yet again when she called an hour after she left. I was hopeful that she may turn around and come back. Instead she was really strange and said, "I'm sorry I can't take care of babies. I'm sorry that I hit my child in front of you." I said, "Missy, come back... I don't know what happened.... I really am sorry."
THen she said, "No you're not... you're not sorry, you are spoiled, ungrateful, and PERFECT."
Beth ~ All I can say is just be glad she doesn't live near you and you don't have to deal with her that often!
Your husband is supporting you right? Or do you think he's thinking you played a part in it? What a pita!
You were fine, you have to just forget about it if you can. She's not ever been stable, remember that.
My ***** now: I hosted a playdate and made sure to say that if you bring an older child or sibling, they can't be left unattended somewhere for their safety and for the sake of my stuff. One mother came with a 2 year old and a 4 year old. She had never been to my house before and only met me once. Her 4 year old wanted to go back to the back playroom and all of us were in the living room and kitchen. I said that was fine for him to go back there as long as there was an adult with him. She made a smart comment to me about how she's never had to do that before and how she can't keep her two kids in the same room together so she'll have to be back there alone. I don't get it. I don't think it is too much to ask that you watch your kid at my house?!
I wish I had done the same outfit thing to watch him grow or the teddy bear thing... but I take pics myself... hopefully I can put a collage together from my own photos. he's a trip!
I tell you one thing Brie about this whole mother thing and meeting other moms... I'm finding that just b/c I have a kid doesn't mean that I'm going to like someone else with a kid... that lady sounds like a moron. I cannot imagine going to someone's house and leaving my 4 year old unsupervised. The 4 year old should have been dropped off at a daycare for a couple of hours while she did the age appropriate playdate...
That's just me...
How's the diet going? I did ok two days ago... so so yesterday... Today is a new day.
No, I didn't do the same thing every month or go get it done prof or anything. I just made sure to take a pic of him every month and then got that pottery barn first year collage thing, it is cute.
Get new both if you can afford it and get the front loaders, much better.
Yes, women are women and just because we've all got kids doesn't mean we're alike!
How's the fallout from your sil?
We're having our bookclub meeting today and I know I'll eat something bad for me!
I'll have to look at the PB collage... sounds neat!
My mom fed the baby sweet potatoes (he's what 3 mos corrected?) and he got really sick with a belly ache. She says she won't do it again... LOL I wasn't mad though... just figured she'd know it was that and would know not to do it again. Hiding the baby food... LOL
SIL - haven't heard from her. She called DH three times.
You know the story of my crazy brother... how we don't get along... well I still haven't heard from him since February, and I've reached out a couple of times. I reached out again yesterday. It seems that he's completely ignoring me... 100% and told mom a month ago he's happy with not ever speaking to me again. There's this little part of me that hates it though I know he's a very toxic person... I just want everyone to get along... then the fallout with SIL I start thinking and doubting myself... "Doesn't play well with others." LOL But DH and I both know we have crazy siblings... too bad we only have one apiece.
ANyway... have fun and eat a bite! Just one!
I got on the scale and a couple of pounds fell off... Hope they stay away. Baby is really nursing so much better... he didn't have a bottle yesterday at all... (maybe a couple of ounces)... but of course he had a belly ache too from the sweet potatoes... poor thing.
Well, I found my sister on facebook and sent her a friend invite, she hasn't responded and my bro told me not to hold my breath. Do you have a facebook account?
You only look at yourself when it is a pattern in your life, in your work, with your friends, if it is just a couple of people you are related to, I wouldn't worry about it. People won't get along, you tried, now it is over.
How cool that your son is nursing! Um, no food until 6 months!!
I'm thinking of trying potty training, now I know why mothers wait so long now a days, it is a pain in the butt and you just don't want to get started in dealing with crap! Ugh.
I had breakfast for dinner, I love breakfast....so eggs, hash browns, french toast, sausage. Oh well. I did work out 3 days this week again.
I know it is VERY cool... I'm still having to pump 3-4 times in the 24 hour period b/c I feel engorged... but he is doing it!! Last night he NURSED at 10pm and slept till 5 am. THis is huge!
No pattern in other areas.. .just my bro. SIL doesn't get along with anyone... oK.. breathe and let it go... i have to let it go.
That's awesome on working out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KEEP IT UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love breakfast too. I love Waffle House and IHOP.... such a carb freak.
Yeah mom isn't going to give the baby solids until 6 mos. I think that scared her! (and me)
I feel that I'm so protective of him, etc...
