Thanks mindi and amanda. He's beens hospitalized until further notice and stabilized with oxygen, iv, etc etc until they can find and treat what is wrong. No way to say whether its looking minor or major. None of us will relax until we know so were praying they work as fast as they can as its effected his breathing.

Got no sleep last night bewtween texting/calling my siblings and mom and baby A kicking. I have a feeling it will be a long week.

Keller- I am so sorry to hear about your dad Sending lots of healing vibes his way. So stressful for all of you.

Mandalinn- That is so cool that your wife got to feel baby kick, I can't wait till DH and DS can feel baby. I feel DH isn't really connect to the baby yet and seems to be avoiding my belly so hoping that once he can feel the baby he will fell more connected.

Mindi- that sucks about the weight gain. My midwife clinic doesn't weigh their clients or even ask about their weight they do ask for a 3 day food record though. My mw said that the important thing is the women is eating mostly healthy foods and baby is measuring fine and is doing well and mom is healthy. She said the number on the scale gives them very little diagnostic information.

I am feeling much better today and able to eat a normal breakfast this morning. Ok take care everyone.

Mindi - that sounds like the week I had where I became convinced that I had pre-eclampsia. My midwife made me put the scale away. I did, and I'll tell you, not only has it helped with the freak out, but my weight gain has actually evened out as well. Having a "growth spurt" week or two is apparently not uncommon around 21-22 weeks.

She also said that every woman she has seen who has previously lost a lot of weight gains significantly during pregnancy...but that they also drop it fast afterward. She said she suspects people already eating a healthy diet may carry less water weight, since they tend to eat less refined carbs, so they put on a ton with pregnancy, but it isn't fat.

I know it doesn't help much, since I had this SAME freakout, but I gave it a couple of days scale-free and I feel so much better.

Original doctor had thought It was a heart attack but when they switched shifts the morning doctor did more tests. Heart came back fine but there's some kind of problem with diaphragm. They don't know exactly what is wrong and said It will most likely happen again so he is now on monitoring. Relieved it had nothing to do with heart but still worried as its likely to happen again.

Well the fact that it's not his heart is a BIG relief, Keller! I just hope they figure out what's wrong!!

Thanks Amanda...I know I need to put the scale away, but it's hard. I'm down to just once a week, which is good for me. I need to have my husband just hide it. Like I said, it just worries me especially since I'm concerned I'm not eating ENOUGH rather than too much. Only 100 to 150 extra calories a day over my maintenance level.

The doctor just called...he's going out of town for a bit and wants to do another sonogram to confirm gender ASAP. So he's supposed to be working in the ER tonight and wants me to come up around 7:30 or so to find him for a scan...so maybe we'll be sure our girl is a girl later this evening!

Mindi - did you get confirmation?

I'm falling apart. My toe hurts, I think I am getting an ear infection, and now my wife brought home a cold! I'm trying to do everything I know of to keep from catching it, but my normal routine (Airborne, Emergen-C, zinc, etc) isn't necessarily a good idea during pregnancy, so I'm just making her bathe herself in hand sanitizer and hoping for the best. I have a bad feeling, though, that I'm going to be miserable in a day or so.

Well, there's some news...

Had a LONG sonogram last night. He looked and looked and looked. The baby was totally sleeping at first...his first shot was the little face, mouth opening and closing with a little perfect hand up by the face opening and closing. It was in that VERY second that I FINALLY got attached to this baby. I saw the little pinky on the hand and got wrapped around it. I'm done. Over. Lost forever.

So then he started looking around. He measured the femur when he got a good shot, and I measured close to 24 weeks. The tech a few weeks ago said I'm due May 13, but the doctor is sticking with May 21. He said the more sonograms you do, the less reliable measurements get and he likes to stick with the original date.

I've been early all my life. I'm sticking with May 13.

Anyway, on to the rest. He looked and looked. At one point I swear he was looking at what he thought might be testicles or something sticking up and out. Then we saw a couple of lines. Then he saw this:




He said it could be the baby's labia, which means girl. He didn't give me a percentage last time...just said think of girl names but don't buy pink clothes. This time, because of the initial confusion and lack of three clear, even and visible lines, he's upped it to 75 percent girl, 25 percent boy.

So we're still thinking of names. And maybe picking up a few girly items.

Mindi- after clearly seeing a penis and testes, that sure does look like a girl to me! Im glad you feel that connection now and have a better idea.

Class this morning sucks. I couldn't even make it through my first class without puking. Bleck!

Now I get to explain to my midwife how I've gained 15 lbs in the last month and a half. The truth is, even I have no idea! I printed food journals to prove that I didn't "earn" any of this.

If I'm going to gain 50 lbs with this pregnancy, can I at least be eating to earn it? Right now, my 2000 calories of healthy, moderate-to-low carb food at 80+ min of exercise just seem like an exercise in futility.

Amen, preggo sister! I gain 2 to 3 pounds a week, eating about 150 calories over maintenance and working out 45 minutes a day, 5 days a week. NOBODY believes I don't over-eat. I'm not even eating 2,000 calories a day...1,950 MAX. At this rate I will literally be 230 pounds by my due date.

At the doctor today he wasn't terribly worried about it, yet, even though I've gone from 147 to 170 in 22 weeks. My maximum weight gain, according to him, is 35 pounds. I'm at 23 with a long way to go. Guess it could slow down but since it seems to be picking up I doubt that seriously. He said I'm tall, and could be retaining water, etc. But at my next appointment in 4 weeks he wants to check in on it again and see what has changed, and do my GD test.

I'm like you, though, Amanda...why forgo potato chips and fried food for lean meats, salads and veggies when it's not helping keep my weight gain at a healthy rate? The bad angel on my shoulder is saying "Screw it! This is the last time in your life you'll get to ENJOY food you used to love! Go to Chili's! Go to Texas Roadhouse! Eat dessert with abandon!" But I can't do it!!!

My sister-in-law just heard my appointment update. She said he will probably start telling me to control my weight if it doesn't stop. HOW?!?!?!? Short of going on a calorie-restricting diet, there's nothing I can do.

My one thought is maybe I'm not eating ENOUGH for growing a baby and gaining healthy weight with the amount I work out. But I'm afraid to eat more...

Keller - I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers. I hope they get things figured out soon!

Mindi - I've never seen a girl ultrasound, but with all three of my boys they got up under them (almost like they were sitting on a copier, ha!) and it was like a horizon with a penis on it. LOL! If the doc isn't sure I probably wouldn't go buy all girl stuff, but a few things here and there won't hurt.

I'm hanging in here. Still more tired than I thought possible. DH went into work an hour late today so that I could sleep for an extra hour. The man is a prince. Not much else going on. That's good, I suppose. I have a dr appt on Friday and I'm pretty sure I'm up 6 lbs this month, but since I lost 5 lbs last month I'm not too worried about it. I can still get my prepregnancy pants over my butt (not zipped, of course) so at least the gain is in my tummy so far. I count that a success even if I am up 15lbs in 18 weeks. Meh. It is what it is.

Ladie, ladies. remember that little guy or gal is just laying in there gaining weight and it will show on your scale, his/her exercise of kicking you or poking you with an elbow will not help. Good luck !

Bargoo - I appreciate that. I'm only concerned because I am quite far ahead of what one would consider an appropriate or healthy amount to gain during a pregnancy. I get that I'm not going to stay the same weight, but I wouldn't anticipate gaining as much as I have at this point with the diet and exercise I'm doing. My midwife WAS concerned, in fact, until we reviewed my food log.

The concern is that excess weight gain can cause quite a few complications in pregnancy, so I'd wanted to avoid it. I'm trying not to worry since I know that I'm eating well, but this isn't "normal" pregnancy weight gain I'm worrying about...it's weight gain that is too much, too fast, inexplicably.

Can I now join you ladies? I posted on this board in December. I had just found out I'm pregnant. Well, I'm now about seven weeks along (I know, I found out early on). My boyfriend and I are still leaning towards adoption. As much as I know it will be the hardest thing I have ever done, I'm struggling to support myself, let alone a baby. (We're both college students) I already have a family in mind from the agency I've chosen, too.

However, since things are normal and I want the baby to be healthy, I'm going to do my best to keep thing going in a positive way.

I have no energy to workout whatsoever and I feel very guilty for it. Even walking seems horrible now (and that says a lot because I love exercising normally). In addition, I'm in the midst of morning sickness and it's hard to eat anything without feeling like puking. Crackers, plain popcorn and cereal are my friends right now, as well as drinks like boost or ensure and lots of water. I've lost 10 lbs so far but apparently that's normal. Anyone have advice for making it thru the day? (I'll be attending classes next week so I can't just lay in bed) I have a busy two weeks ahead of me where I will be going from 8AM to 10:30 PM and I'm just dreading it!

I suppose I more need support than advice right now, and I know you ladies have plenty of both. Thanks for reading my rant-y post.

Your doctor should be telling you an approriate weight gain for you. Sometimes these medical people assume that we know or they just are busy and forget to tell us all we need to know. I am not pregnant but have been and have given birth, I hope I am not being a busy body.
Just for the record there is a baby coming in my family. too and adoption is involved, actually it is quite a mess, I am planning on making the best of it.