| Lori123321 |
09-07-2009 10:52 PM |
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Originally Posted by loveamy
(Post 2910587)
OK, so I had a stressful day and tonight we took my daughter to soccer practice. Afterwards the kids begged to go to a local grill, the kind with the best hotdogs and french fries in town and heavenly ice cream! Of course, it is one of my favs to eat at and used to be our "Friday night special". There were no real choices for me!
I ended up getting a grilled chicken sandwich, which I brought home, took off the bun and ate with my brocolli and melba toast...
So, what's the problem? Well, I felt so upset, mad, sad just unhappy and isolated...I was mad at my DH for insisting that we go, I was mad at myself for going, mad that I couldn't eat what I really wanted, sad that I felt like I am the only miserable one, mad that food has it's hold on me, sad that I feel like food gives me that much pleasure, mad that I wasn't prepared, etc, etc.
I had to sit and watch them eat the things I love (the DH was on his motorcycle so I had to wait for the kids), I couldn't even talk. I am upset that because of the way I felt, I in turn isolate myself from the ones I love.
Cried on the way home because I feel no one understands, especially my husband (he would think it is totally ridiculous to get upset about food, he has always been thin)....My only comfort was to know that I could post when I got home and there must be someone who can relate.
I feel silly about it now but in the moment it felt torturous!
I know that I made the right decision but somehow it doesn't seem much like a victory right now....
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Oh honey, I am so sorry you had to go through that. People who never had an unhealthy relationship with food may never understand. It is kind of like breaking up with a guy you know is bad for you and then seeing him out with someone else and you are alone. There was a person on here who had a quote that said if you think this diet is restrictive, think of how restrictive it is to be overweight. I have found that if I make myself a person they (people at restaurants) can honor, they will bend over backwards for me. At places like that, I tell them that I am on this fantastic new diet, and already lost X number of pounds. Add enthusiasm to your voice, smile and engage them. Then ask if they can accommodate you. Tell them you need grilled chicken, raw veggies (and if they have hamburgers, they have tomatoes and lettuce) and whatever else you need for that meal. I have had a lot of success with that approach and it makes you feel good for taking charge of the situation. Spent too many hours of my life effected by situations I can't control and feeling like a victim. I refuse to let that happen with a meal!
And you won the battle. You refused to let the moment control the choice for food. Pat your self on the back. It does get easier, but if it were too easy, we would have all done it before now!
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Originally Posted by Goose
(Post 2911124)
Weighed in today and am down 3.5 lbs.:carrot: I am halfway to my goal!!!!!!!!!!!!
I told my consultant how difficult it's been for me lately to get in all of my dinner. At night I really just want to gag when I look at it. She suggested I try the meal replacement shakes for dinner up to 3 times a week. I'm excited to have an option because I know I've got to eat no matter how much I'd rather just skip it. Anyone else experience this loss of appetite?
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Congratulations! I have had some loss of appetite and also missed meals due to catching up on sleep. Since I have an extra mini meal during my 12 hour night shifts, I am not too worried. But I did check with my consultant and they agreed. If I need sleep that much, I need it!
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Originally Posted by Fifties Lady
(Post 2914424)
Hello all my MRC Friends....I have missed you all so much. Haven't had time to catch up on all my reading yet, but just wanted to post so you don't think that I have deserted you.
It has been a very rough week....my Father-inlaw passed away last Monday, and for the last 4 days, it has been non-stop with family, the services and eating!!!! I skipped breakfasts, didn't take any of the HNS's, and tried so hard to eat healthy, until the healthy food was gone and just the good foods were left.
Then some of the family stayed with us for two days and of course, we watched the "Big Red Game" Saturday night, which meant "Red Beers" and snacks...I figured since I had blown it the first three days, one more wasn't going to hurt...but it sure did...ouch!!! The scale was not nice to me today. I am back on plan, but now I am down with a terrible sore throat, fever, coughing and runny nose and eyes....I feel like crap!!! Just not what I needed on top of everything else. I think I will wait and WI on Wednesday, maybe another day will help.
I am so upset with myself because I had been OP since the day I started, and was doing so good....I know most everyone can relate, it just makes you mad after working so hard and then to blow it in a matter of days.
But I am back....even though nothing tastes good since I have this stupid flu, I will work my way back. Thanks for letting me sound off.....I really did miss you all!
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:hug: To my lady, I am sorry for your loss. You have to give yourself time to grieve. And to get better! Just drink your water, take care of yourself and you will be back to your vibrant loving self in no time. |
