Sending hugs and s your way. I was so sorry to read about your recent problem. I think it is a part of being male that makes them SHs sometimes. I have become very good at ignoring the bad.
We have a rental condo that is available if you care to check out Michigan. But it does get pretty cold here also. Where did dd move to? Would that be an option?
I will be thinking of you, you have been through a lot, I have always admired your perserverance. You are a strong person I know you will manage.