I'm posting here cause I figured I'd get more replies here than in the body image section, but this is kind of a combo bra AND body image post so I'm putting it here. But here we go:
I hate my boobs. I used to love my boobs. Because before I lost weight, my boobs were awesome! They had a bit more sag than is appropriate for my age, but well, I was an overweight child and my boobs grew in that way so I couldn't really do anything about that. However, despite that, my boobs looked AWESOME in bras and for this reason, that was always something I loved about my boobs.
But now, since I've lost weight, they are a wrinkly mess of loose skin and I went up to the lingerie dept of the store I work in today to get a bra to match some underwear I had because we had bras on sale, and my heart and relationship with my boobs has been broken. I tried on 6 different bras ranging from a 34D-DD to a 36D (probably should've thrown in 36DD) and NOTHING fit or looked right because the SKIN has no where to go. I can't have nice cleavage anymore because of my skin. And if I can fit the boob in the cup and have that look okay, the skin/fat/whatever that is on the sides spills out and looks like a nasty wrinkly mess. IDK if it was just the way the bras were made or if it was my boobs, but either way, I hate my boobs.
I'm trying to convince myself it was the bras I tried on, but I can't help thinking that my boobs are never going to look right in a bra anymore or that I can't wear pretty bras anymore because my boobs are going to look atrocious in them. I don't WANT to get breast augmentation, but I seriously think that's the only way to get my boobs to look like normal boobs again. If I were older I might not be worried so much, but I'm only 22! I don't want to have saggy, wrinkly boobs at such a young age. It makes me feel SO unattractive! And I feel like the only place I can buy decent bras anymore is Victoria's Secret because department store bras just suck, or at least the ones I've tried on do. I just don't know what to do and I want to love my boobs again and feel attractive and I just don't know how to do that anymore.
I am thinking you might not have the right cup size. I have several bras that are all the same cup size, but a few of them have the perfect cup that is supportive and takes care of the oozy mess of side boobage.
Right now I can wear a 34DD.. but I have the boob spillage in that particular bra, so I wear a 36DD. It's a bit big in the cup in the front.. but it contains the sides well.
I would have gone and tried the DD and you might have found the happiness you were looking for.
Well, the bra I'm wearing right now is a definite too big at 38DD that I bought on accident; my other bras that I wear on the regular are a 36DD, and I'm wearing them on the 3rd hook. I measure 33" around the ribcage and 38" at the bust, which I would think puts me at a 34DD, but neither of the 34DDs I tried on fit right. I had 6 bras, two of each size (34D, 34DD, and 36D) and none of them fit right. It really was frustrating.
Have you thought of having your size measured professionally? The right size bra really makes all the difference. I had mine done a couple of months ago and they look so much better.
I've been fitted at Lane Bryant and Victoria's Secret; got a perfect fit at LB at the time when I was wearing a 38DD, and Vicky S measured me at a 38D and I came out with the 36DD's that I'm wearing now, lol. I haven't been measured since then, and that was probably around the end of May/beginning of June.
If you measure 33, I would go with the 34 inch band maybe even 32 and work from there. You want to stick with your measurements to get the most support out of your band. (Don't go up.)Try a 32 and 34 DD and 34 DDD/F in several brands. Go to Norstroms and try the European brands like Panache and see what you like the best. Once you find a brand you like, you can easily get those brands on eBay for way cheaper.
Here's an issue that site didn't address: What about tissue on the sides? Like I have skin/fat on either side of my rib cage that just about spills over no matter what kind of bra I wear, and it's not really going away either. It's just becoming loose skin. I don't know what to do about that other than wear Vicky S (or similar) bras that have extra fabric on the sides.
I am in the same boat. I have to try on at least 10 bras before I find one that's "ok" - you will know when you find it, because that side skin stays in. lol! You do have to "scoop" it into the cup. I can't wear anything with a low cut cup, because it's just that damn wrinkly skin falling out of the top/sides. I tried one that was a push-up and I actually gasped at the cleavage it created... don't know how it did it... but it wasn't worth the amount of armpit and back fat that it created out of thin air.
I can offer no counsel re: actually having boobs, but I am literally rocking just nipples and feeling bad about my (lack of) boobs, too. I almost had a tantrum yesterday when I tried on a 32AA bra where the cups were roomy. My side fat is gone, which I should be excited about, but the muscle sticks out now and I feel like a crossdresser trying on low-cut underwire bras that aren't super-padded.
I guess I'll turn my attention to bench press to create pecs...sigh.
I would try a 34F then.. go up a cup size also.. Try a Balconette bra. I find those are the best at supporting from underneath and keeping the side fat from spilling over the side. The full cups don't have the fabric at the side like Balconettes do.
I went to Victoria's Secret today, and their 34DDs fit pretty well; I've noticed all the bras I've tried on there have extra material on the sides that contain side fat pretty well. However, that size alone (I haven't even attempted a 34DDD/F or a 32DD; they are nonexistent in stores around me) is SO hard to find! The closest thing we have to Nordstrom around me is Belk or Dillards, and my experience from the original post happened at Belk. I tried on bras again last night at Kohl's and found a 34DD that fit pretty well, but I wasn't really a fan of the bra itself. I hate that just because I have an awkward size I'm forced to shop online... I hate shopping online for things like that. Mail-in returns are such a hassle, and it's too expensive for me to buy multiple sizes of every bra I like just so I can send the ones that don't fit right back.
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