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Originally Posted by Sheila53
So. . .how do you accomplish this?
Sometimes I feel like I have a weird chemical thing going on because I just can't seem to do this. I go into a situation thinking I'm going to eat part of a piece of cake, then end up eating it all, and then even more or then eating something else. It's like I have no off switch in my brain that tells me to stop once I start.
WARNING: BIG BABBLE AHEAD, lol.
Well, it's not the easiest thing in the world to do and it was hard for me at first. In the beginning, I
did deny myself the stuff I loved because I knew once I got that taste in my mouth, it would all be overwith. So I stayed away from Chinese food and fast food and fried chicken and sausage gravy and biscuits and everything else I used to go crazy over. Then after I'd lost quite a bit of my weight (I waited about a year) I started to slowly work my favorite foods back in. A little at a time, on rare occasions and sometimes modified. Like my explanation about how I eat sausage gravy and biscuits here ....
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=88072
I simply made compromises with myself. And learned how to work these foods back into my life without overdoing it. Because I ALSO learned something in that first year, it was very hard to want to continue on with the weight loss thing if I had to give up everything. Giving up everything isn't the answer because eventually you say, "Well this is just stupid, I can't go the rest of my life without ever eating pizza again, so screw this!"
The key is work these things in to where they 'fit' with everything else. I know how hard it is, it wasn't easy for me either. And why I went a year completely avoiding this stuff because I didn't trust myself. I couldn't stop at just one or two pieces of pizza or fried chicken, I had to stuff myself with it. So during that year, before I went back to occasionally eating fave foods, I 'trained' myself to PUSH IT AWAY. I had to go through a period of my own training before allowing myself to even GO there again (with the fave foods). One of my biggest problems to overcome was wanting to eat everything on my plate whether I was full or not. So, again, I started to 'train' myself to get over that. I'd test myself with a plate of food (this was before I became a calorie-counter, which is what saved my butt) and would eat slowly. I went by one rule -
Don't eat until you're full - eat until you're no longer hungry.
So I'd talk to myself, sometimes out loud (it helped a lot) and I'd say, "Okay, Linda? You're feeling comfortable now. You don't need the rest of that food. You won't die without it. You won't starve to death. PUSH IT AWAY."
And I'd say to myself over and over and over again - PUSH IT AWAY.
And finally one day I did. And damn I was proud of myself, lol. I mean I know that sounds stupid to some people, but to me it was a huge accomplishment. And it was like taking your first step - "Hey, if I can do it one time, I can do it again!"
So that's how I started my 'training' in only eating what I NEEDED, not what I WANTED. Then I became a calorie-counter and that's when I developed even more control and the weight started to really come off. And now, that I'm close to where I wanna be and never want to go back to where I was before, I can proudly say that I can even exercise complete control at a Chinese buffet. When 2 years ago I didn't trust myself to even walk in the door.
As far as I'm concerned there are no
forbidden foods. They don't exist. You just have to learn how to eat them all over again. My diet used to be 90% bad, 10% good. Now it's the other way around. I make sure I eat healthy 90% of the time and save that 10% (not every day, mind you, eating these foods is a rare occurance) for that 'other' stuff
