Hey everyone! I just found out that I passed the bar exam, so I've spend the weekend celebrating. We have our swearing-in ceremony on Thursday, Sept. 20 and then I'll FINALLY be a lawyer. (start jokes now, haha!)
I've gotten kind of off track with Beck, but I finished making a meal plan for the upcoming week and Layla and I are heading off for a walk and the grocery store now, so I'm back on track. I hope everyone else's weekend was good!
Maryblu, I am SO envious of that garden. And Honeycrisps are the best!
Girly, I'm anxiously awaiting the 4 Day Win. It's supposed to come this week.
Hey Sue! Whatchadoin'?
Welcome Bill and Maryshady! We hope you will be regulars in our little group. When new people come in, it reminds us to post more about TBDS and less about personal stuff.
As far as following the advice, I think everyone would say that we have had to make a project out of it because adding a new step every single day was a bit much. Certain lessons must be practiced, gone over and even relearned many times, depending on what our personal struggles with food bring to us. Overall though, it has made a difference in our relationship with food and those of us who have stuck it out for the lasts few months have lost weight. Maybe not as quickly as we would have liked, but we are losing and if we continue to follow Beck's principles we will keep on doing so.
An early lesson is: What are your reasons for wanting to lose the weight? Want to share?
And thanks to this thread, I am at this moment eating my first Honey Crisp Apple. Found it on my lunchtime walk to a nearby farmer's market. It's as good as people have advertised - I'm a convert.
It's here! The UPS driver just dropped off my package from Amazon. I'll be reading The 4 Day Win today.
Yay!!!
Welcome Blue Eyes and Mary~
Mary, for me, what really seeped in was her just constantly coming back to the fact that at some point, it's all about moving more and eating less. I wanted to believe that I could somehow eat the same amount and still lose (hence my years-long foray into low carb eating). Though I still believe the science behind low carb, for sure, I know that *I* had to couple it with a reduction in calories, too, unfortunately.
Also, I eat slowly almost always now, and I'm still playing around with my cues on when my body is full. They are really LIGHT and subtle cues for me so I have to really pay attention. That is all Beck stuff.
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Now can I brag? I'm down 4.5#s today total on my weekly weigh-in!!! Yay me!
Veronica! Congratulations! That is no small feat...........how long did it take JFK Jr. to pass the bar? 3 times, I think.......though, in all likelihood, he was better looking than you......I mean, no offense, but really! It is no small thing; I salute you.
And girly, you too! Congratulations; you go, girl!
welcome to the new people-MaryShady and BillBlueEyes. I agree with Liannie new folks help us re-focus-just pulled out my copy of TBDS again. It is so good to keep the concepts alive and used daily.
Girly-What great news about your weight loss! you are inspiriing me.
Veronica-you go lawyer! That is a heck of an accomplishment.
cheers to maryblu. how cold are those evenings up there?
Just spent three days with our new grand daughter. I did late night time duty so that they could sleep- baby naturally is sleeping during the day and is fussy most of the night. Such a joy but so much work for me. Didn't eat right but did not gain-I really should have done alot more preplanning and cooking and brought some protein foods to the kids. They have a vegeterian diet with alot of bread, pasta and nuts. Foods I easily overeat.
Once home- back to WW and recording. I do like WW in that I am eating more, but I have more cravings as I am including some measured "treats". I am hoping I'll be more rational about certain foods and be able to have small indulgences verus an all or nothing approach of the earlier dieting and then short binges. It is a bit of work not being so strict about food and allowing it in the house. I am trying the "oh well" idea after the amount of treat is finished. Even right now some of that super dark chocolate-which I can have a small amount of keeps calling to me to have one more small square-I am sure I will not. Recording is easier with WW because I just use a note pad and stopped going into fitday. We have an cumbersome system of a slightly speedy version of dial up.
Tomorrow having guests over-got a great low cal meal planned, It will be just drinking a modest amount of wine while playing card which will be hard for me.- got any advice-great ice tea recipes? Social events are super hard-what does Beck say about that? What has worked for you folks?
Girly and Lainnie-include some of the interesting ideas of the other Beck also as you get into the book. I truly believe the basic concept of cognitive therapy-we can look at the mind, practice new way and change it.
Oh, Sue, "modest amount" and "wine" don't ever appear in the same sentence with me! It is tough. Beck says either don't drink or plan for a small amount.....again, the rub is modest amount...the only thing I can think of is to fill up on alot of iced water, or tea.....or better still sparkling water..good luck and if you manage it, let us all know how!
Girlythin - good job on your weight loss!
Maryblu - So jealous of your apples, Honeycrisp are the best
Liannie - Thanks for letting us know that it's okay to "stick" on some days of the Beck plan for a while. Feeling like a failure is definitely not conducive to losing weight!
CoastalSue - glad you were able to go see your new grandbaby!
I planned out my meals for the week, just using general nutrition guidelines, no particular diet. Plenty of snacks and the occasional treat. It's really working, I feel better about having a snack if I know that it's planned and it's nice not to have to even think about what to eat.
Just got a copy last night of The Beck Diet Solution from the local library - got impatient waiting for mine to arrive in the mail. At first glance, seems that I'm to read the four introductory chapters then start on the Program (42 tasks). Looks good, but I can see how people find progressing at one task per day a bit challenging.
How long has it taken you (plural) to progress through all of the tasks? Is there magic (such as overcoming sabotaging thoughts) in 42 tasks in six weeks? Do you use actual 3x5 index cards and a spiral notebook (vs. computer blog)?
BillBlue Eyes-glad you got the book and so glad you are posting here. I really followed the book for awhile then drifted somewhat back to my old ways. I did most all of the tasks up to about the 4th week.
Love the note cards on the why to lose weight. even look at that now. Used this site as a diet coach, arranged my environment, really did the pre planning and recorded everything. I really liked the tolerating hunger one-found it truly is a passing sensation. -but now struggling with week 4 and all those sabotaging thought. There is some strong family tension about some health issues along with financial worries. Back come the old pattern of eating to comfort and soothe anxiety. I am not gaining just stopped losing. I am recording my WW points but not truly pre-planning my meals so strictly as before. Based on past postings we all found some tasks great, other tedious and some down right impossible for some of us.
let us know you reactions.
Veronica-great for you for your preplanning-hope to do the same soon.
Maryblu-thanks for the suggestions but while I had much less wine than the past, I did have more than the planned 4 ozs over 3 hrs of games. Even had ice water on the table, I absent mindly add a "bit" into my glass. Too bad it was about 5 "bits" I am still working with points which can be used as treats in WW.
girly how do you handle the "treat" points? Does pre planning help and if so how do you deal with left over sweet stuff-I find it does call to me.
I do keep sabotaging myself but the good news is that I do not completely give up like I used to in the past and do mindless eating. I just sure slow down the losing weight process so much.
Liannie-what words of wisdom can you share about the 4 day book.
How long has it taken you (plural) to progress through all of the tasks? Is there magic (such as overcoming sabotaging thoughts) in 42 tasks in six weeks? Do you use actual 3x5 index cards and a spiral notebook (vs. computer blog)?
Hi Bill,
I must say that I'm impressed with your still working on this since you ALREADY lost the weight. That is really smart.
I journal in a coffee shop every day, so having a notebook and writing in it was not a biggie for me, but blogging seems great, too. (as long as it doesn't put extra pressure on if you have it public) I looked at the cards every day for soooo long during my journal time. IN fact, often more than once a day, and on a few days, many, many times when I felt weak.
I'm not sure if they are contributing to my finally being able to follow a plan but I suspect in some small measure, they are b/c the reasons are really in my mind. I wrote in the book, too, and checked off the daily tasks.
I did everything, and often more than once, but stopped at day 23. I need to get started again--I had a little slip up today, and it just reminded me that I need to keep learning the techniques. I found one task a day was too much, and I found that I need to be careful of my sabotaging perfectionism that gets triggered by that book.
For me, it's better to "be easy" about it or it starts feeling like way too much when I follow that. I'm just trying to learn and then pick and choose what works best. As Sue said, some things felt impossible--I tried but prerecording and only eating what's on that list just does not work for me, but I am diligently recording (online) what I eat for the day.
Magic?----Not sure. I have been able to follow a plan for 2.5 weeks, which is maybe a bit of magic, but it's felt like a lot of work sometimes, so it doesn't really feel magical. I think the 4 day Win feels like a little more magic and the shifting easier than the BDS.
It will be interesting to hear your fresh perspective as you read...
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Sue, by the treat points, you mean the "weekly" points? From what I've been able to find out from reading the WW boards, it's part of our food allotment, so I have been eating the points w/o guilt.
I dont' have that hard of a time with sweets in the house because I don't really keep them here--I know that's not an option with you b/c of your family--that would definitely be harder if it was in the house. I have been eating frozen yogurt out when I want s/th sweet, and that seems to be working. It's really a good amount of dessert for only 1-3 points. For some reason, my sweet tooth isn't too bad lately.
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Today was the first day I ate too much (over my allotment) in 2.5 weeks of following the diet. I'm scared I'm not going to be able to pull myself back up. I had a really hard day--in fact it's 4 in the morning and I can't sleep b/c I'm still so ragged from this bad day.
I recently started the Beck Diet Solution and I also found this site at the same time - is it okay for me to join this thread?
I'm a 30-something female with history of many failed diets in the past and I'm so sick of vicious cycle of crash diets and binge eating. Hoping to change my lifestyle for once and for good!
in 2.5 weeks of following the diet. I'm scared I'm not going to be able to pull myself back up. I had a really hard day--in fact it's 4 in the morning and I can't sleep b/c I'm still so ragged from this bad day. 
