WOW Laurie, you've had a lot going on, yet you are holding you up.

If you care for my opinion, you are doing the right thing by letting your mom make her own decision. She is still a strong woman, right now, this is a weak moment for her and it is probably hard to decide exactly what she wants to do especially if she didn't really favor the divorce. Right now, she probably just needs to talk, cry, talk, and cry some more. It seems that she wants to be near you, but not really in your home to burden you. Perhaps she could move closer to you and maybe rent a place with a short-term lease until she makes a decision on whether to buy or not. As nerve recking as it can be, continue to love her, be supportive and stay strong to keep Laurie sane. Blessings to the both of you.