Oh no! You cheated on your diet - big time! Maybe one bite of cake led to another and another, and the next thing you know, you've swallowed the equivalent of what you'd normally eat in a couple of days. Don't beat yourself up about it. You must have the generosity and wisdom to forgive yourself. The biggest mistake people trying to lose weight make is that they don't accept their mistake, which leads them to chuck the whole thing, disregarding past successes and throwing aside future victories. Have you ever cheated and thought, "Well now that I have screwed up, I might as well just quit?" Setbacks aren't the end of a weight-loss effort, they are a part of the process and your ability to change for the better is only enhanced by experiences - both good and bad. You must learn from your mistakes and adjust for future success. How can you learn from a lapse? Write about the situation in your journal. What were you feeling when you were eating? What did you eat? Did you really taste the food? Study it. Talk about it with your buddy team. Figure out what went wrong and how to avoid letting it happen again. Learning from your mistakes will help you understand how to "have your cake, and eat it too"!
Grat advice, Laurie - this week I have had my cake and all of yours as well I am going to take that advice. So here I am writing in my journal to you guys. I confess, I am a junkaholic. If the food is there - I will come!!! But, today is a new day. I am getting back OP and taking my life back. I've got the power to choose and I choose to eat better. For breakfast I had 1/2 banana, 1/2 cup oatmeal w/skim milk, 1 cheese stick, 6 oz milk and coffee. Oh well, Rome wasn't built in a day!!
Well, this is my 4th day totally back OP! What have I learned? To forgive my mistakes and move on. What really got me going again was looking at my 4 red rose magnets on my fridge. This past Wednesday I thought, if I dont' stop this eating, I'm going to be removing those magnets from my fridge. That was a huge motivator for me and I am happy to report I am back OP. And I'm not expecting anything from the scale this week and that's ok. I realize I could be up a pound or two or STS or even lose something. That's okay, because I'm so a happy to be in control of my eating again and I know if I keep it up I will eventually see some results on the scale.
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In the August issue of "O" Magazine, Dr. Phil has a great article, "9 Things Weight Loss Winners Know (That You Don't)". #3 is: The Numbers On The Scale Are Meaningless. Everything you have to do to lose weight and maintain it depends on behavioral choices, so it makes sense to focus on behavior. The scale is fickle. Your menstrual cycle alone could cause the dial to up a bit (that's before you even think about satisfying the cravings that come along with it.) People who succeed say to themselves, "I'm not going to worry about what that number says from one day to t e next. I'm going to start behaving like a healthy person, and then the number will come. I've got to change the way I live, what I focus on, and what I do." You can't be overweight if you don't behave overweight. So stop talking about diets, and start thinking about being a healthy person and living in a way that will generate the results you want.
OMG, I tell ya I think I would definately go crazy if I depended on what the scales said! Its a conspiracy I tell ya! One day I am down one, next day up two, next down down 5 and the next I STS!!! Thanks agian for that message, it is so true!
Unfortunatly i am one of those people who depend on the scale. Every morning I am on it and i really am driving myself crazy because I have not lost at all this week. One day i am down 0.8 then i am up 1.2 and i really beat myself up over it. Tomorrow is a WI day (were i record my actual weight) and i believe i will be up for the week. I have lost almost 14lbs in just about a month and i don't feel "safe" yet to stop weighing everyday. I want to be toward the low 190's then i think i could stop. Is being on the scale everyday really that bad??
Kay
I think when you have weight issues, we become obsessed with the scale, I dont' think I will ever feel safe not to step on that scale regardless of what I weigh.
Thanks for the well wishes. I am going to pray myself today. I am going to hopefully get to at least walk a while today. The YMCA does not have babysitting on Sundays so that might be out but I am going to try. You are doing wonderful so far. My father wanted to try that 3 hour diet ( i believe i read somewere that you are on that?) i hope he has as good success as you have. He is 6ft and he weighs 310lbs... Thanks again for the support
Kay
I weigh in daily every morning, the scale reflects when I mess up the previous day. It holds me accountable. WhenI see it move up a bit I work harder to stay OP more because I dont want it to go up more. And for me It works, I see an increase and the whole day I am so good. Plus I have this chart thing and it rewarding to see the graph move down.
In inches I have lost 11.5 inches. If you dont measure yourself I encourage you to do so. It is very motivating to see this and I love knowing that in only 8.5 pounds I shed 11.5 inches.
Wow this is a really good post. I too weigh daily and I know that the scale can play tricks on you. That is why I am not getting upset about my 4.5 lb gain this week. I retain water very easily and that always effects my weigh in's so it could have been that. I really enjoyed reading what Kaycee posted with Dr Phil. Very good to read thanks! Dani-You are so right about measuring. I will do that tonight. That will be the true test. Laurie, you asked me if there is anyway I could have put on muscle this quick-unfortunately the answer is no, but my trainer says he doesn't expect to see the scale move very much at first. Did anyone see Dateline Friday night about the Brides to Be wanting to lose weight before their wedding. Some of the brides ordered their dress sizes 2-3 times smaller. WOW talk about pressure. The ones that worked out with trainers did very very well and they didn't focus as much on the food part. The girl that did Jenny Craig did well, but she also had a trainer, the girl that did WW gained weight and basically quit trying, the girl on South Beach lost a lot but they said she gained it all back after the wedding. I was so hoping that they were going to put one of them on Jorge Cruise. Oh well..it was all very interesting. So I really think for me that exercise is key and not beating myself up over slips or the scale!!
Daily Tip!!! Learning from your mistakes!!
I am going to take that advice. So here I am writing in my journal to you guys
. I confess, I am a junkaholic
. If the food is there - I will come!!! But, today is a new day
. I am getting back OP and taking my life back. I've got the power to choose and I choose to eat better. For breakfast I had 1/2 banana
, 1/2 cup oatmeal w/skim milk, 1 cheese stick, 6 oz milk and coffee
. Oh well, Rome wasn't built in a day!!
