Lynn ! You have come to the right place! You will find lots of support and info on this board.
.. I admire your concern for your Mother's health as well. My Mother and I are making a "joint" effort to lose weight as well. She lives in another state, but we make daily goals for us (ie. exercising for 10 mins, etc) and then keep track of each other's progress via phone calls, emails. It has brought us alot closer, although we were already close to begin with .. but it's been fun and alot less like "dieting"! lol .. I would suggest that you pick a "strategy" on how you want to lose your weight ... I hate to say pick a "diet" but more or less, that's what it is. For me, it helps to choose how I want to lose the weight so that I can stay focused. But you are not limited only to "fad" diets or the most popular diets .. decide for yourself what is best for you. For example, I was successful at one time on the "choose to lose" program, losing 45lbs .. I was also successful at the "atkins" diet, losing 62 lbs .. but both are hard for me to stick with for the length of time I needed to lose all my weight and eventually I gained it back x 10 .. So, this time I have made a decision to combine both theories of portion control, where I actually measure my food intake, and eating "low carbs" rather than cutting out carbs altogether. What ever you choose to do has to make sense for you and your lifestyle. But it is a necessary evil .. in order to keep your focus on your weight loss goals . even if its a decision to not follow any particular diet at all and simply eat what you want, but watch control your portions .. that is still a conscious decision you need to make in order to reach your goals! So Good Luck and We are all here for you!