Hi everyone,
I'm currently making another attempt at getting in shape.
To keep myself motivated I decided to walk a marathon (or possibly half-marathon) at the end of November. I joined a group that does six months of training together and I'm enjoying it (of course, we're only at 7 miles so far!). Next summer I'd like to do a sprint triathlon--that's a half mile swim, 12 mile bikeride and 3 mile walk/run.
I'm lurking/occasionally posting at
www.beginnertriathlete.com. The name seemed right for me!
However, even the newbies there seem way ahead of me. Not so much physically (well, there's alot of that too!), but psychologically. They seem much more can-do, just do it, jump right in.
A thread a couple of days ago at the tri site really started me thinking. A guy asked, why women-only tris (like Reebok and Danskin)? The best answer, the one that resonated with me, said something I hadn't thought of before.
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"Title IX passed in 1972. That means for every woman older than 33, the idea that they, as women/girls, deserved the same time and money and attention re: athletics was not something they grew up with. So it's not that they can't do stuff, or that they are lesser athletes, it's just that MANY women are missing a psychological part of "athletics" that many men and younger women have possibly taken for granted I can;t imagine not growing up doing sports and what that must be like to just start out as an adult.
"I was taken seriously and cheered on by my parents starting at age 4 when I played Kiddie Kick. My dad was out there all the time validating and bragging about me, I have always felt like a woman, a strong woman, and I never felt I had to "soften" myself or dumb myslef down to be less threatening to men (there was an old thread about exactly that happening still! Imagine how your mom felt in 1940!) .
"There is a huge amount of confidence and faith in oneself that athletics provide.But it's a chicken and egg thing, it is hard to join a sport or team if you have no confidence that you can do it or that you even belong there. I am 32. I grew up with little league, soccer, ice hockey, at the local level, school level, collegiate etc. When I try a new sport, I feel pretty sure I'll pick it up and have fun, and if it's hard, so what? I am used to working hard! I know how to fall down. I know how to react if by accident during the course of play, I get jostled. I know that my worth as a person is not affected if I am less "feminine," if my makeup runs, if I get dirty. It was a given to my parents that I would do and play sports.
"My mom, on the other hand, at 50 years old, decided she wanted to learn to roller blade because it looked fun. her concerns? she would look fat and silly. she would fall and be embarrassed. she wouldn't learn very quickly and she would drag everyone else down. being an "athlete" was not something she ever thought she could do, bc it was not ladylike. She never learned to fall down, she never learned that being dirty doesn;t make the boys run away (maybe it did back then!) And she certainly didn;t know what it would be like to be physical and sweaty around strangers."
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Ok, I fit this profile (maybe not so much fearing I'm not ladylike as knowing I'm a klutz and getting picked last for teams, etc.) I have trouble psychologically even finding the starting line (maybe even the race!) while the others are nervous and worried--but nonetheless chomping at the bit.
Are there others out there that feel this way? I'd love to start an ongoing thread here at 3F to encourage each other. The tri board is great for rah, rah stuff and specific info (and they're VERY supportive and friendly) and I'll still be checking in with them, but I need an emotional base to come home to. I'd love it to be here.
If there are a few of us, we could commiserate and cheer and encourage. And eventually find the starting line!!!
I'm a middle aged, overweight nonathlete getting fit--calling all others in whatever stage of fitness you are, whatever age, and whatever sport you're trying to get the courage to join--anything: tris, biking, swimming, walking, running, softball, kayaking, ANYTHING.
If you're out there, I'd dearly love to make contact with you!
Athlete wannabes?
I'm a middle aged, overweight nonathlete getting fit
I've always wanted to be involved in some kind of sport, but life always seems to get in the way for me and I don't have the time. Besides my workouts, the most physically active thing I do is ride dirt bikes, and that is actually pretty tough work. I've tried to train for a marathon, but my hips are a little too screwed up to run that far. I try to do more low impact types of cardio, although my 2x per week workout consists of going to the high school track and walking the first curve, jogging the first straight, walking the second curve, doing 20 lunges on the 2nd straight and halfway in to the 1st straight again doing 15 calf raises. I do this for 8 laps, or 2 miles, and that kicks my ***. I would love to do more swimming, but I'm a bit shy about my size so I stay away from the pool. I'll go back once I've lost some pounds. I'm short and packed with a lot of muscle, so a marathoner I'll never be. That's ok, there's other sports out there for me. 
Today I plan on doing 50 minutes on the bike. 